 Posted: Thu Nov 05, 2009 4:49 pm Post subject: Re: is this a shit test? what? |
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| koolkid wrote: | so ive been talking to this girl on myspce the last time i wrote somthing she took a long time to reply and i mean like 1 week and a half so im guessing i should do the same heres my conversation tell me wat im doing wrong but most importantly what i need to improve in...
i requested her and she sent me a message by the way she didnt add me so i cancled the request like 2 days later..
her> do i know u?
me>yea im ur new best friend lol
her>O
me>haha im kiddding i dont think i know u but i would like to get to know u, u look like a cool girl so wats up?
her>Uhm, a cool girl?
And not a lot doing defensive driving.
You?
me>like a chilled type a girl u know... defensive driving? did u crash hmm blondes lol and chillin pretty tired
her>How can you tell that from my pictures?
me>duh lol are u not blonde?
her>Well yeah but how can you tell that I'm a "cool girl?"
me>i have this ability to know from pictures if ur cool or not haha jk idk i just do and ur really cute 2 so that helps
her>Oh.
me>wat does that mean lol
her>It means "oh."
As in - an acknoledgement of what was said.
me>so ur not that blonde mm lol so wat have u been up 2 amanda?
her>Not a lot. Lots of homework and hanging out with my boyfriend. You?
idk if this is a shit test b/c like i said i dont know if she is single or not b/c she didnt add me and i cancled the request... what do u guys think i should reply to this? thanks for all yall help |
Hey Koolkid,
thanks for sharing, and the comments I'm going to make are there to help not discourage.
Firstly I'm confused on the timescale of this conversation.Doesn't really matter though.
Ok. Never, NEVER say you're kidding when you do a joke. It signifies you are unsure, it signifies you will backtrack on your views...not good.
You gave out big signs of interest before any interest from her.You said she was cool and cute far too soon.
I think she actually shit tested you regarding the fact you said she was cool but you couldn't explain it. IMHO she has spotted a pick up then been polite a little after and then ended it by bringing out the big guns - I have a boyfriend.
Reading between the lines she appears sharp and I think the boyfriend line is genuine. EVEN if it is not I think it's a lost cause. She didn't add you on Myspace that's a pretty big sign to me. I think you freaked her a bit.
One observation which may help future chats. Look at the style of your words compared to hers. Apart from the opening line she is not using txt shorthand . She's using real words, capitals and punctuation. Unless she uses the text shorthand DO NOT use it. It's lazy, shows lack of education. It's not what MEN do!
Even though I think it's a lost cause, you could try a boyfriend destroying comment back. Just show big signs you're interested in her guy, build him up to be perfect and that they will make a perfect couple. Do this on the basis that IMHO there is about 1 in 1000 chance this is salveagable.For your sanity just move on and continue learning |
