| Every single human being is equipped with certain attributes that signal their perceived self-worth relative to their environment.
What is yours?
This perceived self-worth is what is known as inner game. Your inner game dictates if you are confident or comfortable with certain people and in certain environments.
This level of confidence and self worth dictates our behavior in these specific scenarios.
Without good inner game, you will be the loner in the corner, not talkin to anybody.
With good inner game, you will be the life of the party and girls will flock to you.
What is inner game?
Inner game is your mental state of being. How you perceive yourself, your level of emotion whether happy or depressive, or your willingness to take risks, is all inner game.
It's something that's felt comparatively, relative to others. If you perceive your worth (INNER GAME) as less than that of another individual, this lesser sense of worth will express manifest in yourself through poor body language, tonality, etc. If you have a great inner game, you will believe that you are the fuckin man and better than everyone else.
This thought process can lead to being a cocky asshole. While learning to improve your inner game, There will be times you will be an asshole. It takes practice to find your comfort zone in how much you express your inner game in your behavior. As long as you believe in yourself, and continue to practice, you will eventually find a good inner game equilibrium.
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So if good inner game leads to more women, how do i improve my inner game?
Your inner game can be equated to your confidence level. In that, if you feel like you are confident in whatever you do, in whatever scenario, your inner game is gold.
So how do I increase my confidence level?
1)
TAKE ACTION. GET IT DONE
Identify a problem. Tackle the problem head on. No excuses. No complaints. Man up and get it done.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” - Dale Carnegie
“Having once decided to achieve a certain task, achieve it at all costs of tedium and distaste. The gain in self-confidence of having accomplished a tiresome labor is immense.” - Thomas A. Bennett
2)
FACE YOUR FEAR
Many guys have fears about rejection, that is why the forum recommends doing the newbie challenge to destroy Approach Anxiety.
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” - Eleanor Roosevelt
3)
UNDERSTAND THE ORDER OF HOW THINGS HAPPEN
The way it works is, you do the thing you’re scared shitless of, and you get the courage AFTER you do it, not before you do it.
4)
PREPARE
“One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self- confidence is preparation.” - Arthur Ashe
If you are nervous about an upcoming speech or presentation, analogous to picking up women, rehearse your speech and edit it for mistakes. This is obviously more work than not doing anything about the speech at all before you start giving it. But it can make a huge difference in your confidence levels if you take the time to prepare yourself. And of course, the speech and the delivery of it will most likely be a lot better too.
I used to have inner game problems. I spent money on people to help me and wasted my time with my problems. I got things from these people that i could have just found on the internet. The internet is a great thing. Its a tool to help you in whatever you want. USE IT to your advantage.
Study pickup techniques!
5)
REALIZE THAT FAILURE OR BEING WRONG WILL NOT KILL YOU
“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” - Peter T. Mcintyre
'That which does not kill us makes us stronger." - Friedrich Nietzsche
You learn from your mistakes and you learn valuable insights that you would have never gotten any other way. Your chances in your next attempt in succeeding increases with your new experience, knowledge and self-confidence.
6)
LEARN WHO YOU ARE AND WHERE YOU WANT TO GO IN LIFE
“Don’t listen to anyone who tells you that you can’t do this or that. That’s nonsense. Make up your mind, you’ll never use crutches or a stick, then have a go at everything. Go to school, join in all the games you can. Go anywhere you want to. But never, never let them persuade you that things are too difficult or impossible.” - Douglas Bader
"To live is to choose. but to choose well, you must know who you are and what you stand for, where you want to go and why you want to get there." - Kofi Annan
“The world has the habit of making room for the man whose words and actions show that he knows where he is going.” - Napoleon Hill
If you believe in yourself, you can accomplish anything. Believe in yourself, you can learn how to get any woman.
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With women, you need to go out and game women. I highly recommend going out to do the newbie challenge and in college, go around your dorm and meet everyone in the building.
No matter what time of year it is, winter, spring, summer or autumn, half way through a college semester or months after taking a new job, there is no excuse for being social.
You will fail initially, but as your confidence grows, you will slowly succeed in getting closes. "The way it works is, you do the thing you’re scared shitless of, and you get the courage AFTER you do it, not before you do it." Keep facing your fear and eventually it wont be a fear at all.
you need to think that the girl DESERVES YOU!! not the other way around. Once you get to that state, without being a pompous prick, you will have conquered your problems with inner game.
When you can approach any women without Approach Anxiety or hesitation and feel confident that you will close her, either #close, kclose or fclose, your inner game is solid. You need to believe no matter what you will succeed, in any situation.
Even if you fail, you shrug it off. you feel confident and so you continue to game girls and practice. Practice makes perfect. Its corny but its true.
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Never be afraid to face your problems, you are more important then they are.
J Slay
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You miss 100% of the shots you never take.
- Wayne Gretzky
Last edited by J Slay on Sun Nov 13, 2011 8:19 pm, edited 2 times in total.
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