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Dan144
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 Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 7:21 pm Post subject: Im out of things to say....fast |
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hey guys. Ive been talking to this girl for like a week now and its good. she randomly added me on myspace and I used that to create a frame like "well, U like ME, but who are u?". So anyways, when we talk on msn i always run out of things to say that will get her to talk about her feelings and get her more attracted online. Do you guys know any good topics that will help me stop saying "soo, what's up?". U know, things that make her talk about her emotions and relating it back to me..
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c0ell0
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in my opinion i think emotional conversations are better in person so you can show more emotion and body language etc.
what i do online is constant DHV and C&F and it usually works so just tell a story about your weekend
"this party was so crazy..." shit like that and save the deeper shit to bein in person. then you can talk about maybe how she feels about sex or her favorite activity etc. |
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blak000
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You're going to have to come up with some witty banter. Joke around about random stuff in the beginning. Carry this on for 10-15 minutes, and then ask a random question about her. You don't have to transition. Just say, "Can you I ask you a random question?" Then you just shoot...
e.g. "How's your relationship with your brother?"
When she finishes telling you, then you respond with, "I know what you mean. I have a (blank) and it's the same way between us. It can be hard having that kind of relationship."
You rinse and repeat 2-3 more times. Then you say, "Wow, it's amazing that we have so much in common. It's nice to meet someone who understands where I'm coming from." Avoid telling her something about yourself first, because you're trying to close the gap between you two. You might say something that she can't relate to, and it'll make her feel disconnected. Remember: let her share something, then you share something back SIMILAR to what she just said.
If the tone starts getting a little down (she talks about something emotional), then show sympathy. Try to move back to joking as quickly as possible. You don't want the tone of the conversation to get too down. Once she starts using you for emotional support, you're in danger of getting thrown into the friend zone.
Just keep bouncing back between joking and sharing. Once you feel like she's developed enough comfort, you set up a date.
When I joke with a girl, I just say mad random stuff. One time a girl (studying Japanese) said she needed to give a speech on the environment. I said she should talk about how we need to make a special, conscious effort to preserve our sushi if we want to leave our children a better world. It makes no sense whatsoever. Say stuff like that. |
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Chief
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| talk about lemons. |
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icebreaker
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| I've found that talking to chicks online is relatively easy. Just talk about anything random that will make them laugh and stay interested. Make sure its completly random. Online girls seem compelled to talk about anything random. The hard part is getting them to meet you somewhere to talk in person. Ive got stood up by half the chicks i meet online. The ones that i do meet up with always seem to have a good time. But, often they have LMR and you cant discharge that over the internet or when they aren't picking up their phone. It's much easier for them to get rid of rather than when you are in person. |
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