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Esperanto
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 Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 4:04 am Post subject: I'm Dating 5 Girls Right Now--Pointers Desired |
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As the title says, I'm at various stages of dating five girls at the moment. Two of them were met at bars, three online. They range from HB 7's to HB 9's. Currently, I'm only hooking up with the 9, but I'm getting the feeling its only a matter of time with the others. I never thought I'd be in a situation like this, and the mindset of being a PUA has definitely made this possible. I mean, if you haven't found a girl you like enough to be exclusive with, this is the next best thing. But let me tell you, it is TIRING.
I woke up at the HB 9's house today (I like her the best by far) and spent the day with her. We were both tired (didn't sleep much, haha) but I had to get home and change as I had a date with an HB 7-8 tonight. Since I couldn't be at two places at once, though, I had to cancel on an HB 7 who I'll now be seeing this Tuesday. And I have tentative plans with an HB 8 later on this week. This is how my month has been. I'm having a great time, but this is quite the never-ending whirlwind it seems.
Has anybody had any experience juggling multiple women like this? Any pointers on keeping everybody happy and maintaining a life (I still want to go out and sarge, believe it or not)? Do you think I'm spreading myself too thin? I've never dated more than two girls before at a time, so this is uncharted territory for me.
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| hahaha nice one if i was in your position i would just keep the hb9 to be honest that way you can get some free time. |
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Flipz
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| Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 3:23 pm Post subject: |
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| well the most ive went is 3 MLTR's and im at 2 now but the answer actually is simple....do u have to see each one each week? cant you skip a week and go sargin? |
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Esperanto
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| Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 7:39 pm Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | hahaha nice one if i was in your position i would just keep the hb9 to be honest that way you can get some free time. |
If I had it my way, I'd date the HB 9 exclusively. We've been out 5 times, have slept together, and things seem to be going well. You never know, though, so I'll continue to hedge my bets until things are more certain. |
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L.A. Tripp
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Ok, so you want the 9 exclusively, but you also want to continue to go out and sarge too. Does she know this? In fact, do any of the girls know anything about each other and about the fact that you still want/like to go out and meet other girls?
I've had MLTR's going. I've sarged while out with the girls. I've kiss closed, number closed, etc. while with the girls. Needless to say I've kinoed, teased, flirted in general with other girls while out with my relationships. It's all in how you handle them.
Are you wanting to push things further with the girls that you don't even want to be with? You have questions that need to be answered before you can go any further in any direction. |
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Are you really dating 5 girls or just seeing one mainly and occasionally seeing the others? The most girls I've saw on a regular basis was 3 and that was tiring for me, I could only imagine that five girls would make me completely exhausted.
My advice is just spend the most time with the one you like best while occasionally seeing the others to see how it goes. That worked out best for me and you won't too needy.
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Esperanto
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| Quote: | Are you really dating 5 girls or just seeing one mainly and occasionally seeing the others? The most girls I've saw on a regular basis was 3 and that was tiring for me, I could only imagine that five girls would make me completely exhausted.
My advice is just spend the most time with the one you like best while occasionally seeing the others to see how it goes. That worked out best for me and you won't too needy |
I'm at different stages of dating each of them. The HB 9 I've been on 5 or so dates with, the others just one or two. But all are interested and I contact them frequently. I figured the stale relationships would fizzle out and the ones I was interested would continue on naturally. So I'm not in a pure MLTR with these girls yet (except the 9) and probably don't want to be with all of them (time will tell). Also, I really do like going out to dinner/drinks with girls. Its not like this is a chore, but it just seems a tad tiring. And I see each girl probably once every couple of weeks or so (except the 9).
Furthermore, and to answer L.A. Tripp, I don't discuss my other dating with these girls. I probably could, but I really don't have a desire to. I doubt they assume we're exclusive at this point, and honestly, I don't think they are necessarily exclusive either. Remember, I met most of them online where they are continuously being offered to date. I'm not ashamed of how I'm handling them, and I think the standard dating protocol that I'm following of keeping my other relationships on the DL until I actually do have the desire to date someone exclusively works for me. When I like someone enough to date exclusively, its because I don't WANT to date anyone else. So this sort of "secrecy" has never been a problem for me as things just tend to work themselves out and I'm never "cheating" on anyone. Moreover, I lead a somewhat professional life where my reputation at work and in the community matters. For me, trying to develop these kinds of "open" relationships and publically flaunting them would probably lead to the type of reputation I don't want to garner, and it would consequently be detrimental to my social life and career. In the end, I'm just looking for "the one," and am having some fun on the road to finding her.
Sorry if that came out as a rant, but you guys seemed to be interested where my motives lie. |
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L.A. Tripp
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| Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 11:37 pm Post subject: |
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Pesonally, I wasn't questioning your motives. I was simply pointing out that there was info we didn't know, that could be useful in helping you to figure out your direction.
But, it sounds like you've got your direction figured out, so it's all good. |
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