Hey this is my first post, wanted to share with you what happen, maybe some can help me where i went wrong?

couple of weekends back went to a strip club with my bro...

meet a Brazilian stripper got chatting, shes 10 years older than me but you wouldn't pick it...told her me and my bro would one day come over & cook for her & her SPAM.

she sounded keen, gave her my no# cause they aren't allowed to grab our's while they work...to my surprise she remembered it (no pens used)...

anyways, we jacked up a time to come round, the night we were to head over she never got back to us with the details...

brother had to head back south, and that was that.

so i fired off a txt the next day with "no hard feelings", she replied! "i'm sorry my friend was in hospital can we make another time?" next thing i'm going around solo to cook for her & her roommate.

anyway's cook for her (incl oysters)...have to keep up conversation with her roommate too, room mate goes to bed...drink a little more wine (shes a bit pissed by now)

we listen to music on her laptop, light some candles, i rub her shoulders move to the back of her neck, stroke that..watch for the eyes..go in for the
kiss...close. moved to couch for 40mins of intimacy.

anyway didn't f&*k her & she talked the whole night as if i would be coming back.

that was a week ago, and since that time I've made an attempt to try and meet up, she came back with the excuse like "got to work all this week, i'l let you know when i have off" never got back to me 2 days later, i ask if she wants to catch up? she say's "yeah, next week maybe" 2 days later i havn't heard from her, so i'm in her area, and i know she's likely to be at home.."hey im in your area, want to catch up" she reply's "im in bed not feeling to well, next time"

so i reply...its ok, i get the message. it was nice to meet you, all the best in *** hope it all works out, your friend silver.tounge...(i remember reading about how you have to be prepared to loose the target)

she replies "sorry, i think you have mis-understood me".

last text i sent "how have i mis-understood you?"

and thats were it currently stands...have i f*&ked it??

You've become subordinate, (she is dictating the relationship mechanics)

Either take control and shift the scales or drop her completely.

Thats my advice. I'd probably cross refrence with a more experienced guy tho.

Edit: detailed plan right here. Text her back asking her what she did mean and be very interigating. You should be sizing her up and putting her on the spot NOT the other way around.

Then as soon as she answers and texts back ignore her for the day. Then call her -Calling* is very important, its a gear shift forces her to talk to you and puts her on the spot and it connotates seriousness as oppossed to the connotations of a text message- the next morning tell her to meet you for dinner, if she says no, bust her on it and I mean "HARD", proparly go at it.

"What the fuck is this! I don't have time for pissing about with vague hazy excuses like this. I've a got job and things to do! You really messed this up!"

Hang up on her.. ..she'll be begging for a second chance.


*If she doesn't answer the call ask her why she isn't responding and bust her on it. Turn up to her house if she isn't answering the phone the main point is too CONFRONT her. Not inquire or ask but too full out CONFRONT and INTERROGATE.


Sounds good to you?

Sparks

Out of interest how long has it been since you last spoke/went out together? That would give us a better picture of things are.

I'm not sure turning up at her house is wise. That's not going to make her comfortable with you at all, in fact it will probably freak her out a lot!

I went out with a girl who worked in a strip club (not actually a stripper unfortunately, just one of the girls who goes round talking to everybody in the club and they buy drinks for her) and it was really difficult because she would often have to work 10-14 nights in a row, then only have one night off before working again. In the end I broke it off because I didn't want to have to be free just because it was her night off and wasn't worth seeing her once every two months or whatever.

Your stripper might very well be telling you the truth. You could test the water with something like, "I'm going to be pretty busy over the next couple of weeks, but if you still want to hook up then let me know when you're free and we'll try to arrange something". If she doesn't text back then it's a write-off.

Well I've turned up at houses. It works pretty well for booty calls, and anyone else for that matter, when done right it gives a spontansious and unpredictable (both factors women look for) flavour to your personality.

I think if you're not comfortable with the above routine, you should ask her directly when she is free next... ...no responce?






It looks like she blew it.

Hey Fin & Clancy,

cheers for the input...i haven't heard from her, so i deleted her digits...

I think i might rock into where she dances with some chick mates who are keen to see the inside of a strip club....

maybe give her a cheeky grin and tell her "you'll never get this, you'll never get this" in my best borat accent..

thanks for the critique & advice....no more mr subordinate.

peace
silver.tongue

I wouldn't go as far as saying "You'll never get this," or, really, anything. I wouldn't even really look in her direction very much. She'll notice YOU; one VERY quick glance, registering absolutely no recognition or emotion, should suffice just fine. Not even one of those looks that says, "Oh wait...who are you again?" Just look through her for one beat and then go back to what you were doing. If possible, leave shortly thereafter. Now that you've deleted her number, if she should call you afterward, don't answer the call. After it stops ringing, immediately text back, "Who is this?" and if she responds, proceed from there. Don't even have to say "Oh, I deleted your number 'cause whatever whatever"--she'll get it.

EXACTLY.

I agree with golden eye.

Actually taunting her and "saying you'll never get this" shows her you're bitter. Don't the plan is to show that she meant nothing to you;and she was lucky to be with you for what short time she had.

Cheers for the input....i take it none of you have seen borat?

I have, "one day he broke out and he got this."

haha