Hi, just something that's been on my brain lately..

When I meet women on a night out and end up having one night stands, I perform like a trooper and stay hard for hours. Like over 2 hours even.

But when I actually have some kind of emotional connection with the woman, its not every time. Just happened with a girl I was seeing a while ago and a close girl mate I've slept with like 30 times over the past 5 years last week. My dick goes softer. Its still enough to make an impact but nowhere near its true potential lol then sometimes randomly goes soft.

Can't decide if my brain goes into over thinking mode and it distracts the other half from doing its job. Anyone else had this issue?

I read somewhere to stop masturbation all together, but then I don't want to become a loose cannon and finish fast.

I nearly slept with a close girl mate last night for the first time and my mind was in hardcore thinking whilst I was caressing her like spooning. She ended up turning away after so much and moved my hand of her leg. I was 40% sure she was game for the first 30 minutes, even moved in with the slow dry hump so she could feel me Next day discovered she was on her period so I've put it down to that lol but fuck.... I don't want my next emotional connection sex to be shit.

Please adviseeee
Peace!!

Hi Dude,

its all in your mind really. I had this problem when i got used to someone i got too comfortable and so did they so the pile driver wouldnt stand to attention forever. Your not the only one. Personally alot of foreplay helped and be yourself. Also just forget about your problem and get in the moment. in a one night stand your in the moment therefore hard for hours. When your comfortable your not in the moment as much therefore not as hard. What proved this too me was when i split up with an ex who i would go soft on but then i seen her a few times after we broke up and i fucked the shit out her for hours... because i was in the moment and not thinking fuck im going soft or some shit. Stick to positions that you enjoy also like i love a girl doggy or bent over something.

hope this helps dude.

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I know what you mean, usually I really want it though lol think I should get zinc supplements just to enhance that shit lol

haha ! its mainly because you dont give a fuck in the one night stand but when you start caring etc the sword wont stand lol !

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