Can I become great without going to clubs?

My tory goes like this: In a relationship for 5 years, totally depressed and feeling sorry for my life, she broke up with me and that was the low point.

So I came across the game by accident, i clicked on a link that took me to some site about playing the game all the time and losing if you think about it, I didn't know what it was so I used trusty old google and came across this book. Anyway it was just what I needed. I first read The Game 4 months ago, since then I have reading and watching seminars etc... but very little in field practice, other than some day game but nothing too serious.

My focus has been been to work on inner self. I was a shy, socially awkward, depressed etc.. person for years. In just a few months i have become a totally new person.

I have had to deal with self esteem issues a lot of my life, some of it because of having crooked teeth, and now some stretch marks. Good news is I have another 6 months or so and my braces come out.

I get called handsome a lot, but, with my self esteem having taken a beating, what goes through my head is that the girls saying it are just being polite maybe.

Anyway, ive been a spectator at these forums for a while so i may aswell join in.

Katamaro

ok listen to me right now. this is gonna be a little harsh and abrupt, but its going to be awesome for you. pure truth, not smoke up your butt.

YOU are an amazing person. you know this. Everyone has the POTENTIAL to be amazing, but most people focus so much on outward appearance. Confidence doesn't come from a magic pill that everyone thinks by reading a book or learning a skillset. People who have confidence issues due to bad experiences, appearance, undeveloped social skills have the opportunity to become the best people in the entire world. and im not just talking about PUA's. Im talking about a genuine well rounded respected person. The reason being that people like you, people like me, people who have are good on the inside but have been shit on by the world, already HAVE IT. dont go fucking looking for it, or looking for someone else to tell you that you have it. You already have it. so stand tall. thats the inner part. take it and start manifesting it outward.

join a gym, start getting in better shape, go tanning and use some cocobutter lotion for those stretchmarks your self conscious of, your braces just came off, awesome. Go get yourself some new cloths, take a friend whos good with girls, take some girls, take a gay guy, it doesnt matter, take someone who has a sense of fashion to go shopping with you and reinvent yourself. become who you want to be. it may take a long time, year, maybe two, but YOU WILL GET THERE. and dont you fucking quit because your only quitting on yourself. Whats taking a year or so to put some hard work in so you can enjoy the rest of your life?

after all is said and done, you will have a rock solid confidence. a real confidence. because you EARNED IT. you fucking fought HARD and WORKED for it. you built it up from scratch and no one can ever take it from you. youll hold your head high, walk into a room, proud of yourself for how far youve come, and the hottest girl in there will have to prove to YOU that shes worth YOUR time. shell have to work hard for your attention because youve worked hard to become who YOU are.

quick background on myself: (success story/motivation)

3 years ago i was desperately in love, i thought i was gonna marry the girl i was with for a year and a half. she dumped me saying she wanted to see other people, went and fucked around with lots of guys. i was crushed. i didnt leave my bed for a week, i got sick, my weight went up and down. one day i got up at 3 AM and decided to go to the gym. i weighed 300lbs. i started reading about diets, i created a workout plan, i read the book "Lone Survivor" by Marcus Lutrell (I HIGHLY recommend this. it is my favorite book and instilled an attitude in me i will never forget. it changed me. and gave me the gusto i needed to stick to working out etc.) i lost 70 lbs, i got a job, i started going back to school, i bought a new truck. i was happy. then i met a new girl i fell in love with. this girl was literally a solid 9-10 (on the outside at least) and then we broke up and she left me for some hot guy who was the badboy and completely destroyed what self confidence i had built up. I did what i knew how to do. i went to the gym, i focused on myself, i got into bicycling (i rode some charity rides one being 200 miles), i became obsessed with working out, and investing in myself. i lost another 30 lbs and now am solid muscle. i am so proud of who i am. and after everything i went through and strived for myself to be, all of my exes wanted to come back to me (one was willing to leave an engagement to come back) but ive come so far from who i was then.

then a friend gave me the game, and i started getting into PUA stuff. it was just a way for me to learn how to interact socially and understand women better, but its not the foundation of who i am or my confidence.

i can walk into a bar or club and talk to any girl i want, and often i have girls approaching me. i know when the time is right ill settle down with someone worth my time, but till then, im enjoying being me and enjoying all my hard work.

you can do this. everyone has the potential to be amazing. those who are willing to struggle to manifest it are those who get the best there is out of life.

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Great post, Meatloaf!

Katamaro, don't ever give up. The only trick for getting good at the game is to not give up and always go on. Even if you feel like shit, even if you feel crushed, even if a girls just yelled at you for approaching, it doesn't matter. It's hard, your emotions WILL be messing with you. But DON'T GIVE UP! Always remember how in 1-3 days you'll be fine again. It will be as if the bad thing never happened. It will be just a blurred memory. You didn't close a girl? Whatever. That huge guy came into your face for talking to his girlfriend and you really got scared? It doesn't matter. A girl was giving you all her attention and suddenly she's making out with another guy? You'll get over it. Just DON'T GIVE UP! Go on and on, always go forward! Even if it's just baby-steps, go forward, that's the only direction to go. Rome wasn't build in one day either.

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Thanks a lot you guys. I'm making major changes in my life and I'm on my way to becoming a better man/person. So glad that there are people out there experiencing the same problems and doing something about it.

katamaro

Clubbing is THE BEST arena out there, at least for me to learn all this stuff, man I'm
getting so optimistic right now after loosing my V-card barely 6 weeks ago at 23 !!!
Even though I'm handsome, I somehow got over it and now know NOTHING except death will stop me from becoming great at pick-up, so please as Mystery says "get your act together and go CLUBBING, get out of the FUCKING HOUSE".
Bring it on.

Hey man,

Believe it or not, I know where you are coming from. You feel like you're never good enough for a girl, they break up with you and then you feel like total shit. Trust me I've been there. But like Meatloaf said, you're so FUCKING AMAZING you just gotta see it for yourself.

Make sure you get ready to change for yourself, be ready to try new things, to change completely. The PUA training is hard and it will take you to places you never been before, but trust me, the confidence, the selfesteem and the training in life you with it... you NEVER will see that somewhere else.

And that clubbin issue, well, tbh it's the biggest scene out there. Don't be shy, just do it. If you have some doubt about it watch the TV show "The Master PUA", you can see it online at some places... these are all socially awkward guys, turning into complete PUA's, so why shouldn't you be able to do it?

If you need advice, the entire community is here for you man!