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yoni4u
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 Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 11:48 am Post subject: How To Tell If She Is Flirting With You? |
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For the most part, guys tend to rely on their gut instincts or vibes they get and rarely give much thought to what it is that is generating these impressions.
The real question you should be asking is Should I trust my gut instincts?
Some are more accurate and intuitive than others but in general, we are not very good at picking up on flirting signals.
In a recent scientific test, 100 women were told toflirt with 100 men (using body language).
Of the 100 men, How many would you think were able to notice the flirting signals?
THREE! 97% were oblivious.
I use this example because it clearly tells us that we are missing most of what is being communicated to us.
Unfortunately, it translates into many missed opportunities andmisunderstandings.
What's the right way?
There are 3 simple steps that you must follow if you want
to dramatically improve your ability to detect if she is flirting
with you.
1. Tune in to her Body Language. Body Language signals
are the most reliable way of detecting a persons true
inner feelings.
2. Understand what these signals mean. Interpreting
body language signals accurately is not something we
are born with. It is an acquired skill.
3.Plan your response. The biggest mistake a guy can make
is once they have detected she is interested, they push the
envelope and try and go too far too fast. If you want to
avoid embarrassment, rejection and the hit your reputation
may take, you have to take it slow. No one wants to have
there head handed to them. By applying the right techniques,
you can slowly escalate intimacy and avoid the above
mentioned pitfalls. It's not a race. Enjoy the getting there.
Keeping these 3 steps in mind, here are 10 cues that she
is interested in you.
1. She keeps looking over at you attempting to make eye contact.
When you establish eye contact with her, she looks down.
2. She smiles at you. Although this may seem obvious, it's important
to know the difference between a polite smile and a sincere more
intimate smile.
3. She goes out of her way to get you to notice her. For example, if
she was across the room when you first made eye contact with her
and you notice she has moved in closer to you.
4. Plays with her hair. A Women's hair is a source of power and
confidence to them. If you see her twirling her finger through it or
throwing it around.
5. She initiates the conversation with you. Keep in mind that many
other factors play a role here. How close she stands, what she
says are key. Always look for other body language signals
that confirm her actions.
6. She laughs at your jokes. Humor can be a very powerful tool
in flirting. Having a lighthearted demeanor can expedite intimacy.
7. She asks if you like certain activities. This could be an attempt
to establish some common ground and interests with the intention
of establishing opportunities to see each other again.
8. She pays you a compliment. If she compliments you on your
physique, look for other flirting signs that may accompany the
compliment. This is a strong signal.
9.She makes sexual comments. Most times they will keep it
understated and tasteful, so you should do the same. A crass
slip-up is a sure-fire way to ruin the rapport.
10.She touches you. Where she touches you is key, If she
touches your arm, that's less obvious. If they progress to
your hand or knee, that's a much stronger sign.
Although these cues can be revealing, never put all your
weight into one signal. Look for other signals in succession
to substantiate your perceptions. I recommend 4 positive
signals.
There is no substitute for knowledge. Knowing how to
interpret body language flirting signals and how to apply the
right techniques and responses to get the desired results will
not only have a huge impact on how successful you are at
flirting but in all areas of your life. |
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Waffle
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 1:54 am Post subject: |
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| very good and informative post. Plain explanations are hard to find and are very helpful. |
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Medic
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:18 am Post subject: |
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| I agree with Waffle, this is a great post. Very informative and, most or all, highly useful. |
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fortunehooks
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:51 am Post subject: |
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| Well, well what a great post about the body languages that most females consistently display. In the present and future I hope to not disremember any of these signals that are key to success with women. Good read |
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snap11yz
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 7:06 am Post subject: |
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| yea, agreed, sometimes it is so easy to overlook any IOI... |
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InDeepThought
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| Heh, this sure would have been useful a year ago for me. I had a study partner who kept touching my legs, leaning close to my shoulder when sharing a book. I thought she was just one of those people that likes being close...I know I am very absent minded. Anyway, thank you for the info, really helpful. |
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dante5
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| great stuff |
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