I've seen a number of threads titled "I can't make my woman come" etc. I wanted to address this issue.

I want to start off by saying I'm probably one of the best lovers in the USA. Nevertheless, I have an average sized penis, nothing out of the ordinary. I also control my orgasms to the fullest degree. So I can fuck a woman for as long as she wants me to fuck her, and I can come as soon as she begs me to come all over her face.

When I fuck a woman they get obsessed with me. Never fails. I want to share some secrets.

Sex is 80% mental. That's why you need to constantly stimulate your woman mentally in bed. How do you do this? By talking dirty to her.

Licking Her Pussy

Before we get into the dirty talk I want to say that you need to lick your woman's pussy. Some women like their clits to be sucked hard, others just want you to be gentle. You need to ask your woman what she likes WHILE YOU'RE DOING IT.

"Tell me what you like, baby"... "Do you like it like that or do you want me to suck it harder", etc.

Also very important is to smell your woman's pussy. Rub that nose all over her pussy, like you can't control yourself. Make sure that after you're done you have vaginal juices all over your face. Women love it when you smell their pussy. Actually, women love it when you smell them, period. Be it their necks, their hair, their ears, their pussy, their asshole. They just love it. Each and every one of them.

Licking Her Asshole

Also equally important is to lick and smell their assholes. IMHO you need to sleep with a woman at least a couple of times before you go there, unless your both drunk, or if you know she'll be into that. To be honest, 90% of the women I've known are into it. I just may be a little shy at first, not wanting to come off as a super horny bastard, if you know what I mean. That's why I usually don't lick their assholes in our first fuck session.

Licking the asshole is a different concept altogether than licking the pussy. The clitoris is sensitive. The asshole... not so much. Hence, you need to eat and lick that asshole as if there's no tomorrow. Get in there, open her buttocks, smell it, lick it some more, tell her that you love licking her asshole.

At first you might want to start by licking her pussy and occasionally slip your tongue to her asshole a couple of times... be obvious enough that both of you know what's going on. But after this is accomplished, one day, when you're going to start your foreplay tell her to go on all fours and give her the best ass-licking she's ever had. Don't even touch her pussy at first, just her asshole. Spank her once or twice.

After she's had enough, you can then lick her pussy, but make sure you slip one finger up her ass when you're licking her pussy. Not all the way in, just halfway. This will set the stage for future anal sex (we'll touch anal later).

A good way to introduce yourself to her asshole is by doing a 69. THis is because her asshole will be in your face, and it's almost impossible to ignore it. Heck, this is the perfect time to work that ass since, if your woman agrees to 69, she's certain that the ass will be involved.

When you're doing a 69, start with that pussy but make sure your nose is in her asshole. Make medium/loud breathing noises so that she knows you are smelling her ass and that you enjoy is. Then lick that asshole, while pleasuring her clit. Open the buttocks real wide so you really get in there. When you go back to the pussy, this is a good time to slip a finger up her ass. Like before, just halfway in.

Damn, I'm very horny right now.

So, now you've mastered licking her pussy (by following her instructions and by smelling it like an animal) and her asshole (by licking it and smelling it like a maniac), and you've also fingered her asshole a little.

Dirty Talk

Now the dirty talk: this is the most crucial part of sex. How you stimulate your woman mentally is more important than how you stimulate her physically.

I'm not the most outspoken guy in the world, specially the first time I'm having sex with a woman. So, every time I'm going to have sex with a woman I make sure I've had enough drinks to: a) lose my inhibitions; and b) be numb enough to not come.

Yes, I NEVER come when I first sleep with a woman. If you want her to be obsessed with you, you shouldn't come either. Men can't fake orgasms, so she will be VERY aware that you didn't come, and she will want to make it her mission to make you come next time you fuck.

Back to losing inhibitions: when I'm drunk I'm more outspoken and less timid. So for our first fuck session I make sure I've had at least 3-4 drinks.

So there we are, drunk, in my bed, I've licked her pussy, she's super wet and is asking me to fuck her... so I fuck her.

In my experience, the best dirty talk takes place when you're giving it to her from behind. I think this is because: a) you're not seeing her face, so you feel more comfortable saying nasty things; and b) it's a position where the man is in control and the woman is submissive.

For dirty talk to work it needs to be natural. Start slow. Don't call her a whore from the get go (you will call her a whore soon, don't worry). Ask her (tell her) if she likes it like that ("you like it like that, don't you"). If she responds, escalate ("you like it when I fuck you hard, don't you"). Tell her she's been a bad girl. Tell her that her pussy belongs to you.* Tell her she tastes and smells great when you go down on her. Tell her you want her to suck your dick. Tell her to choke on it. Order her around. Be in control. Keep it simple. Keep it light. Take over. Be a man.

* telling a woman that her pussy belongs to you is a VERY powerful line. It shouldn't be used too often. Save that bullet for when the sex is really good. I usually save it for those days when I've had a couple of drinks since I'm more loose in bed and the dirty talk flows more easily. For best results, add a butt spank right after you tell her.

After you tell her that her pussy belongs to you, make her repeat it. Here's how that interaction should go:

"That pussy belongs to me, you hear me"
"Oh, yeah"
SPANK! ... 30 seconds of banging
"Who does that pussy belong to?"
"You, baby"
Grab her by the hair gently but firmly
"I can't hear you"
"Yours, baby, yours!"
"That's right"
SPANK!
Then you fuck her HARD for 30 more seconds and, unless she's about to come, tell her to go on top, or simply change positions.

Anal Sex

Anal sex is also important for you to have a really healthy relationship, and for you to be in charge in the bedroom. Anal sex makes women really horny (unless your woman is one of those who simply doesn't enjoy anal sex. If she's one of those, then I'm sorry for you man).

Let me tell you a story. A couple of weeks ago I fucked my woman up her ass for the first time (we've been together for 2 months). When we started doing foreplay I went straight for her ass (licking it). Once I finished licking it I told her "I really want to fuck you up the ass tonight" just to prepare her mentally for it.

As you can see, I didn't ask her if I could fuck her up the ass. I told her. Her response "Hmm, Ok, but you have to be gentle".

I fucked her pussy really hard, and after she came she wanted to please me so she said that I could finish off on her ass. She was dripping wet (vaginal juice is the best ass lubricant, forget KY) so I got in from behind and told her to take care of it so she could guide my dick in her ass and also control my rhythm at first.

I fucked her up the ass gently at first, but when things got more serious I started talking dirty to her, telling her that her ass belongs to me, making her say it, then I told her "you want it all the way in, don't you" and she's like "oh yeah, baby!!" and that's when I gave it to her hard, SPANKED that ass and told her I was coming. I came like a porn star.

Why am I telling you this story? Because the next night, after we've had sex and were cuddling, she told me "I really liked it yesterday when you fucked me up the ass" then she grabbed my hand and made me touch her and she was DRIPPING WET. Made me instantly horny, I fucked her a little, then I told her to turn around cause I was gonna fuck her up the ass.

Coming Like a Porn Star

It is relatively important that when you come, you have a decent amount of cum come out of your dick. I think it is the sign of an Alpha Male to come all over your woman. If you're fucking her missionary style when you come, your goal should be to at least reach her tits. The farther up you can go, the better. If you can reach her eye or hair, even better. She will remember you forever and ever.

Some of you may use condoms, so while it feels nice to come inside a woman, that won't do anything to make you look like the Alpha Big Shot in her eyes. So, when you're about to come, pull it out, take off your condom and come all over her fucking face.

Now, to accomplish this you obviously can't be jerking off twice a day because your load will be weak. Having a weak load is a great way to let a woman know you're not that fertile. In their subconscious, the more cum you splash all over her, the more fertile you are, and hence she will be more attracted to you.

Try not to jerk off at all a couple of days before you know you will fuck her (usually on the weekend, right?). Exercise, eat healthy, sleep well, hit the gym, etc. These things will make you produce more testosterone and also produce more cum.

Duration of Sex

Guys, let me tell you, I'm one of the best lovers in the USA, and my sex sessions are not that long. The goal is to make your woman come, and come hard. If this is accomplished in 10 minutes, then there's no need for sex to go much longer than that.

First couple of times you have sex, she may not come that quickly. But as soon as she gets comfortable around you, and you develop chemistry in the bedroom, she will know (and you will know also) what makes her come.

Let your woman decide how long sex sessions should last. If she wants you to fuck her for an hour, you fuck her for an hour. But if she wants to come quickly, then let her come quickly. Women usually have go to moves so they can come. Not all of them can come in all positions. For example, my woman only comes when she's on top. So I let her decide when she wants to go on top. I never suggest for her to go on top. She's the one that decides when to go on top because she's the one that decides when sex will be over.

Alright, guys, that's it for now. If something else comes up, I'll post it in this thread.

I stopped reading at I am probably one of the best lover in USA.

Ron jeremy is the best.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Fairly sceptical of the authenticity of your work.





pfft, i mean.. totally seems legit.



In all honesty your "techniques" are fairly solid. However your explanations are crude as fucck.

Like I said, your woman should dictate how long sex lasts. Some women can keep fucking after they come. Most women, though, are exactly like men... after they come they want to stop. So these extra 10-20 mins might not be a treat for her.

Difference between men and women is that woman could go on after they've come, while men simply go limp.
I honestly don't know what you're saying. Do you mean kegels? If so, I don't think one of the side effects of kegels is not coming.

In any case, there's really no need for you to come EVERY TIME you fuck your woman. Not coming is a powerful tool. You can always jerk off after she's gone if you NEED to come, but you will find that you are a better person if you don't orgasm 3 times a day. It's like having a gun without bullets.
This is a different problem altogether, and one that frankly I can't be of much help. My only suggestions would be to: a) have a couple of drinks before you have sex (but if you're having sex everyday, then avoid this); b) stop when you're about to come, pull it out, then put it back in after 10-15 secs; or c) think about nasty stuff

Are you fucking with a condom? In my case, I hardly feel anything when using a condom. It's nearly impossible for me to come with a condom.

Some parts of this text really sounds weird. For example:

What's so weird about that?

I'm guessing you're one of those that says "I love you so much, baby" while you're coming and then come in a towel instead of all over your woman.

tbh id rather cum inside her. and whats with all this ass licking, fuuuuck that

there are A LOT of things i will stick in a girl's ass...

one of them is NOT my tongue...

sorry, man, that's just gross...

i don't care how many porns it is in...

SHIT is gross and unsanitary...

bad enough my nose gets up close and personal, while munching twat...

i told a bitch to "wipe her nasty ass" once,

that was a gross incident.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Yeah, why the fuck does everyone enjoy licking asshole? Does eating shit really make you "alpha"? or just an unclean pig.

U can guess about me what u want. But to prefer to come all over her (what in my opinion has nothing to do with being alpha) than to come INSIDE her (what I absolutely prefer) is weird. I never came in a towel yet and never had to think about coming somewhere else when I am already inside her. But like I said that is only one example.

You guys really find it disgusting to lick your woman's asshole? I'm not saying stick your tongue in there. You can keep it on the outside. But for Christ Sake, lick that asshole. Otherwise, she will find somebody else who will do it to them.

Re coming inside/outside: if you're in a serious relationship (LTR) with a woman and you are Alpha in other aspects, it's definitely OK to come inside. I'm assuming you are either a) using condoms; b) she's on the pill; c) do it when she's on her period; or d) want to have kids.

Yes, coming inside has its magic. You feel sort of a bond with your woman since she can feel that cum inside her pussy.

But, once in a while (at least once or twice a month) you should make it a habit to tell her you want to come all over her face, and do it. It will subconsciously tell her who's in charge and who's got the balls in the relationship.

I forgot about a very important thing:

Blowjobs

Blowjobs are a very important part of being Alpha. Some women like to give them, some don't mind it, others simply don't like it. No matter who you're dealing with, you need to make her give you blowjobs.

When you're in total control of the situation/relationship, your woman will go out of her way to give you blowjobs. If she used to give you blowjobs frequently, and has stopped recently, that's a sign things are not going well.

Let me tell you what you need to do when she's giving you a blowjob. First you let her suck your dick whichever way she wants to.

Then, after a couple of minutes, you need to grab her by the hair and mouth fuck her. Not too hard at first, just a good rythm.

Then you tell her you want her to get it as deep as she can in her throat. The idea is for her to choke. Once she does this (she probably won't be able to do it all the way) tell her that was very nice, and keep giving her instructions. Tell her to lick your balls, tell her to put both of them in her mouth, tell her to jerk you off while she's doing that, tell her to lick the shaft of your dick, tell her to look at you while she's doing it.... you get the picture.

The perfect scenario would be for her to suck your dick, and once she's been there for at least 5 minutes and has tears coming out of her eyes, you tell her to go doggie style and then start licking that asshole like a true animal (follow routine upstairs^). Then you ask her if she likes it, and when she says "yeah, baby" then you tell her you want to fuck her up the ass "I'm very horny, baby, I really want to fuck you up the ass".

90% of the time her response will be "ok, but please be gentle"

I cant believe what I am reading. Now there is an alpha way of having sex?

Frankly, there are 3 ways you can behave in bed, dominant, submissive or like everybody else.

Those three arent things you can fake. either you are or your are not into them.

Seriously, this is a load of bull, when you have sex there arent any special techniques like asslicking or spanking that will make you appear more alpha. Just do what you like and you have won. You may also want to consider what she likes, if you give her good sex, she is gonna wanna stick around.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

i'll stick my finger in a girl's butt
i'll stick my dick in a girl's butt
i've even stuck a few dildos in girls' butts

but i ain't NEVER sticking my tongue (ie - where i eat)

into

her ASS (ie - where she shits)

nope. no thank you.

also, the best blow jobs DO NOT consist of throatfucking your girlfriend until she has tears streaming down her face and is choking on your dick. lol

the best blowjobs are smooth, serene, warm, tight, and pleasantly work you up to a massive explosion, that preferably ends right down her throat while she continues to suck.

my two cents.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

If you honestly think Licking a girl's ass is an alpha thing to do mate then you have problems.

This thread made me do this