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PeepingTom
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 Posted: Sat Sep 29, 2007 7:24 am Post subject: How to deal with the anger? |
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Long story sort, ho is dancing with me and then pulls another guy in. I can't have that shit so of course so i tell her to have fun (aka fuck off)and I bounce... cause she was supposed to be bouncing with me to another place.
The anger. I get so angry. So very angry. I get so angry I start punching things around the house and screaming.
Very angry right now. Maybe I need to just take my mind off it somehow. |
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CaLib0i
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| Posted: Sat Sep 29, 2007 7:28 am Post subject: |
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| anger management is my advice....no offense |
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Giacomo
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Calm the fuck down.
Chill the fuck out.
You will never be a PUA with that attitude.
If you feel angry, people will sense it and avoid you.
If you do not give a fuck about the outcomes of situations, you will not be angry when they go sour.
To repeat.
Calm the fuck down.
Chill the fuck out. |
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Trivial
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| Posted: Sat Sep 29, 2007 7:50 am Post subject: |
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| CaLib0i wrote: | | anger management is my advice....no offense |
Fuck no offense.. thats a fact. |
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PeepingTom
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^ It's when I've left the scene that the anger hits me. I won't hang out if I'm angry. When I get angry i go home and vent asap. It's very very often my night ends like this.
I do put up a front like I dont care when I'm around people though. I think I even smiled as I told the bitch to have fun with her new dance partner.
| CaLib0i wrote: | | anger management is my advice....no offense |
no offense taken. |
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MindFucker
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| Anger acts as a bad feeling for other people, it's like a bomb detonator and people avoid this type of people. I was very angry a few times with my girlfriend but i didn't break anything and i didn't call her bitch or smthg. Manage your anger and you'll feel better, cause you can hurt people, and after a few hours you'll be thinking how stupid you could be by doing this |
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L.A. Tripp
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| So, Tom, you're saying it's very often that the girl your with does something like this to you at the club? I mean, different girls do it to you? |
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Starbuck
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| Posted: Sat Sep 29, 2007 9:42 pm Post subject: Re: How to deal with the anger? |
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| PeepingTom wrote: | Long story sort, ho is dancing with me and then pulls another guy in. I can't have that shit so of course so i tell her to have fun (aka fuck off)and I bounce... cause she was supposed to be bouncing with me to another place.
The anger. I get so angry. So very angry. I get so angry I start punching things around the house and screaming.
Very angry right now. Maybe I need to just take my mind off it somehow. |
Never let a woman make you angry..
Easier said than done? You'd better learn to control it now, before it gets to be a much larger problem.
The Universal Law of allowing
"The Universal Law of Allowing means dropping all judgments and all emotional attachments to what others are, have, or do. This is quite different from being tolerant. Being tolerant is not liking what someone else is or does and holding emotion-laden, negative thoughts about them, but letting them be or do it any way. Practicing The Universal Law of Allowing requires granting to others the same rights you ask for yourself -- the right to be, have, and do whatever you choose."
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PeepingTom
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| L.A. Tripp wrote: | | So, Tom, you're saying it's very often that the girl your with does something like this to you at the club? I mean, different girls do it to you? |
Yeah I think something along those lines, yes. I'm aware that its a hole in my game and I'm working on troubleshooting it right now and I'm open to scrutiny/suggestions.
Last night for instance I placed an artificial time constraint on the situation (well not totally artificial because I was getting tired) and had told her that we should play pool before I left.
Well after the pool game she poked and prodded and got me stay and convinced me to bounce with her to another club. So 15 minutes into it...we still haven't bounced. I'm making myself look busy texting people and talking to another person at the bar. So then she wants to dance...
So she's grindin up on me and then some other dude comes up and starts dancing with her too. I'm staring at the dude and he's like, "i'm sorry are you with her?" I nod my head (she cant see because I'm behind her). Then he keeps asking, "so are you really like together." I nodded again and he leaves.
SHE KNEW I WARNED HIM OFF.
About a minute later she pulls him in to dance and he resists. At that point I invited him in to dance with her and told her to have fun and I left. |
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Starbuck
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| PeepingTom wrote: | | L.A. Tripp wrote: | | So, Tom, you're saying it's very often that the girl your with does something like this to you at the club? I mean, different girls do it to you? |
Yeah I think something along those lines, yes. I'm aware that its a hole in my game and I'm working on troubleshooting it right now and I'm open to scrutiny/suggestions.
Last night for instance I placed an artificial time constraint on the situation (well not totally artificial because I was getting tired) and had told her that we should play pool before I left.
Well after the pool game she poked and prodded and got me stay and convinced me to bounce with her to another club. So 15 minutes into it...we still haven't bounced. I'm making myself look busy texting people and talking to another person at the bar. So then she wants to dance...
So she's grindin up on me and then some other dude comes up and starts dancing with her too. I'm staring at the dude and he's like, "i'm sorry are you with her?" I nod my head (she cant see because I'm behind her). Then he keeps asking, "so are you really like together." I nodded again and he leaves.
SHE KNEW I WARNED HIM OFF.
About a minute later she pulls him in to dance and he resists. At that point I invited him in to dance with her and told her to have fun and I left. |
Can you spell 'trouble'? So if you can why are you allowing her to jerk your strings? And getting angry about it? You'd better stop giving other people such power over your emotions.
The Universal Law of allowing
The Universal Law of Allowing means dropping all judgments and all emotional attachments to what others are, have, or do. This is quite different from being tolerant. Being tolerant is not liking what someone else is or does and holding emotion-laden, negative thoughts about them, but letting them be or do it any way. Practicing The Universal Law of Allowing requires granting to others the same rights you ask for yourself -- the right to be, have, and do whatever you choose. |
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PeepingTom
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| Posted: Sat Sep 29, 2007 9:48 pm Post subject: Re: How to deal with the anger? |
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| Starbuck wrote: |
Never let a woman make you angry..
Easier said than done? You'd better learn to control it now, before it gets to be a much larger problem.
The Universal Law of allowing
"The Universal Law of Allowing means dropping all judgments and all emotional attachments to what others are, have, or do. This is quite different from being tolerant. Being tolerant is not liking what someone else is or does and holding emotion-laden, negative thoughts about them, but letting them be or do it any way. Practicing The Universal Law of Allowing requires granting to others the same rights you ask for yourself -- the right to be, have, and do whatever you choose." |
I understand this is a game, but don't even games have emotion attatched to it? |
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PeepingTom
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Can you spell 'trouble'? So if you can why are you allowing her to jerk your strings? And getting angry about it? You'd better stop giving other people such power over your emotions.
The Universal Law of allowing
The Universal Law of Allowing means dropping all judgments and all emotional attachments to what others are, have, or do. This is quite different from being tolerant. Being tolerant is not liking what someone else is or does and holding emotion-laden, negative thoughts about them, but letting them be or do it any way. Practicing The Universal Law of Allowing requires granting to others the same rights you ask for yourself -- the right to be, have, and do whatever you choose. |
Bro, I didnt have any indication my string was being jerked at any point. If I think I'm being jerked, since I'm not a good PUA, I'll just straight up stop talking to the girl, which is what I did last night when she pulled the other dude in.
Prior to her pulling the dude in, there was no string jerking. Granted, we hadnt bounced yet, but I felt like she may be waiting on other people. |
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Trivial
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| Posted: Sat Sep 29, 2007 9:55 pm Post subject: Re: How to deal with the anger? |
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I understand this is a game, but don't even games have emotion attatched to it? |
yeah but its the people who let there emotions get to them in a game that lose.
Fuck the outcome...
Its good to have emotions but its the people that let them control there actions that are weak. |
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L.A. Tripp
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| Ok, she started pulling your strings and taking control of YOUR frame when you LET her keep you there, after you said "let's bounce." You say it . . . YOU DO IT. She took control and she knew it, and she kept control. Flush her. |
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PeepingTom
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| Posted: Sat Sep 29, 2007 10:20 pm Post subject: |
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| L.A. Tripp wrote: | | Ok, she started pulling your strings and taking control of YOUR frame when you LET her keep you there, after you said "let's bounce." You say it . . . YOU DO IT. She took control and she knew it, and she kept control. Flush her. |
10-4, understood. Will be more direct and in control in the future. |
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