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PostPosted: Tue Dec 09, 2014 5:08 pm 
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Looking for advice on how to avoid letting attraction fall off over time.

Basically, Haven't taken this girl out for awhile because of bad timing and her getting really ill recently, but I do see her at work semi regularly since we both do near full time.

Now also with Xmas/Work/Holiday stuff coming up I'm guessing neither of us will have all that much time to
see each other. (We don't know each other well enough yet to be in consistent contact.)

I'm wondering how you would manage keeping a casual attraction which you can pick up on later when you'd have more time?

For the record I'm fairly sure she knows i'm into her, though I've not admitted it.


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PostPosted: Tue Dec 09, 2014 5:21 pm 
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I'm going to give you some unorthodox advice that used to be popular in the pickup community a LONG time ago, but is no longer really talked about much.

A simple way to be able to pick up where you left off is through something called anchoring.

Anchoring is basically the PUA/NLP way of saying Pavlovian conditioning.

When she's in a state of being attracted to you (like when she's giving you IOIs), do something unique, like touching your ear. She'll eventually associate that feeling of attraction to you to the action you perform.

For your specific situation, though, it's probably too late to consciously set up a new anchor, right? In that case, think back to all the times when she showed interest in you and see if you can figure out what caused her to express those IOIs. You might find something useful.

All in all, don't worry about maintaining a casual attraction during a period of time when you have no contact with her. Focus more on re-sparking attraction when you go get another chance to meet. That's much, much easier. You don't even need anchoring.


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PostPosted: Tue Dec 09, 2014 7:46 pm 
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How to stop attraction fade? One word "kino" -- if attraction is there then go for it or it'll dissapear -- once it dissapears it doesn't come back man, unless you change your face, dressing and personality -- maybe even your name


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PostPosted: Wed Dec 10, 2014 12:09 am 
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Attraction waits for no man.

Thats just how it is bro, but if you want to know the secret; its to not "hold on" - its the holding on energetically that diminishes attraction. When you learn to let go of anything; you can have everything.

So by trying to put in double effort to maintain attraction you're actually doing the opposite. Attraction is casual, attraction is effortless, attraction is without control.

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PostPosted: Wed Dec 10, 2014 11:28 am 
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anchoring is NLP. unless you learn it you'll be clueless about what to do. but yea it does work flawlessly. very powerful.


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Quote:
Attraction waits for no man.
Very quotable. I like it.


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