Hello, I've been reading and field testing PUA stuff for over a year now, and I think I've been doing pretty well.

A situation came up though and I would really need your help.

There is this girl I know for a few months, recently we went out a couple of times where I discovered that we have awsome connection, I felt like she completes me as a person. I also feel each time we meet I DHV a lot and it always comes natural. She seems really attracted to me and I 'm definatelly attracted to her.

The thing is she has this bf that she loves. She had a LTR and the guy left the country recently for at least 4 years. Out of a conversation we had she seems she realizes she has to move on, but on the other hand, she is ready to visit him for the holidays and her house is full of pictures of them as a couple.

How would a PUA handle this?

If a girl completes you as a person then she doesnt really seem like the typical pick up. When she sees him over xmas it will either re enforce the feeling that she needs to move on or she will decide she does want to wait for him. just keep playing the game with her till then maybe?

You are right. The thing is that she gets closed to herself for a 1-2 weeks or so, she avoids contact with me as well as some common friends, which makes me feel I' m losing control of my game and someday she calls me.

Should I just give her space or should I try moving to the next level?

This sounds cold, but could be the best thing ever...FTOW (i.e. Fuck Ten Other Women).

I have had problems in the past about holding on to girls that seem so close but always slip through your fingers--then, lo and behold, I meet another one and the girl I thought to be the love of my life slips back into the stuff of memories and then POOF...she's gone.

So in all, just keep working on your game and you will realize that there are so many girls out there who can make you feel just as good if not better. All you have to do is go out and get your game sharp so you can find them.

Cheers!

already doing that... Prob is we have a common hobby that keeps us in touch (us and the other 10 women and the previous 10 etc lol). And that makes it harder for me to let go.

Anyway thanks for the input guys.

ok here's some feedback

She came back from her boyfriend stating on FB "addicted to him" (that was new years eve)

We meet regularly due to our social circle (at least once a week) and other than that we sometimes spend time for coffee or cinema. Things seem to escalate and her responses are positive

We definatelly are in comfort zone as we have talked about very personal stuff, personal values, sex, art, feelings etc

She does not seem to avoid me any more and she agrees on anything I propose doing (visiting excibitions, movies, theatre, coffee etc) as she enjoys "good company"

With all of the above in mind, a couple of weeks we went out for a drink; things seemed to go well, we had some fun talk, escalating kino in: hands, neck, hair, head and finally face! Giggles and fun all the time but when I tried k-closing she pulled off; we had a moment of awkwadrness; she started texting (I think replied to a message she originally ignored); I lost my high energy; kino went a lot lighter of course and the night ended with her asking me about my first relationship and how I felt when it ended (years ago).

After that night the behavior she had before, did't change! she still agrees on doing things together and due to our social circle we meet somewhat more frequently. Usually I'm not communicating until we meet (through our social circle) and I try making my proposals (to go out together) look as spontaneous as possible.


What do you think?

Should I try escalating again? Should I start a conversation about that night? should I give her space? Should I pretend to be interested for someone else (and if yes how far should I pull this)?


thanx


PS. by the way inside our circle I have huge DHV

Hey YAN thanks for the post here's my advice I may not be a pick-up artist yet, but I can tell you she does like YOU! It looks as if you planted a seed in her mind long ago, and now it's growing through the friendship you have.

Congrats man you have successfully seduced her, and now here comes the glory of it all. You have her doubting her relationship that's why she asked you about your relationship. And how you felt. Because if she didn't why would she ask? Also, she is spending more time with you after you tried the kiss close.

This is where you just let it take time, and soon she will be yours. Be careful though because we know girls can turn cold quick to any advances. This is where your game kicks into high gear and you have to carefully watch her, and her actions. Just always let her know that if she does decide to take that chance with you that it's not chance, and if she falls you'll be there to catch her. At this point this is what she needs.

BEST OF LUCK. BY THE WAY HAHAH FTOW I NEVER HEARD THAT TERM BEFORE. IM LAUGHING MY ASS OFF