Most guys focus on pickup as a primary goal. Go meet women today, etc... I did it too for a long time, and I always felt anxious about it. I decided to take a break from pickup everyday, and focused on my career. I really enjoy what I do, and after a couple months of complete focus on my work I found when I went to approach women I had other things in the back of my head.

It sounds simple, but I think its a rather big revelation for me. Not only did I have my own interest to talk about, but I also was able to be more focused on the girl im chatting with while at the same time being more disconnected because I knew I had my own life to go back home to.

So for those of you feeling intense anxiety, make sure you have your own interests. Not things you chose at random because someone told you to have interests - but things you really are interested in. Spend time everyday doing those things, and you will find you are more relaxed and in tune during conversations.