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NickRicca
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 Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 5:08 am Post subject: How do I word this without making her feel like a slut?? |
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hey whatsupp guys,
Ite well been seeing this new girl for a week or to... I have her realli hooked shes very attracted to me shes a couple years younger... I really think she wants to get me into a LTR.. How do I turn her into one of my MLTRs and make it known that i wanna see other ppl without affending her or making her feel like a slut?? Is there a commonly used routine for this?? Ive been looking around and cant seem to find one... |
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Rufless
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call me an idiot but i forget what LTR and MLTR is...
but as far as the situation you want, im stumped like you. the only thing i know to do is be honest about it in an alpha male way, not sleezy. my friend is in this situation and he just said literaly "look, i enjoy having sex with you and you're such a chill girl to hang out with, but i don't want an exclusive relationship at this point in time. cool? you're still special tho  " and she'll probly get offended but if ur sweet after she'll deal with it. |
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Stealth7
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| Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 9:01 pm Post subject: |
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You can two things!
1) Set up rules for the relationship of telling her ground rules before engaging in a LTR. Tell her that you want to see other people and not ready to settle down with just one, and that you must keep your options avaliable at all time. Make sure you set rules of like, "I won't discuss any kinda of dating or anyone else outside of our relationship, also you are the girl I'm dating, not seeing so you don't think I'm gonna leave you for any other one I'm seeing."
2) If she doesn't comply with it and only want's a serious LTR then tell her face up that you won't tolerate it because you have to explore your options before settling down with just one girl. You must see other women and promise her that she won't hear about the girls you're seeing or even meet them. Also that you're the kinda guy that likes to see different options available and then be ready to choose who I really want to settle down with."
If she get's huffy and puffy then negoiate with her by telling if she wants to do the same then go ahead and do it but DON'T like I said bring thier buisness in our relationship just LIke I won't.
If this works then great if it doesn't then you can fire me! Hows that sound! If she's willing to understand and is that attracted to you by all means do it. You have nothing to lose, only just one girl while you have other options avaliable.
Peace out bro! |
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NickRicca
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 4:42 am Post subject: |
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| thanks stealth.. im gonna give it a shot Ill let you know how it goes in a couple days... |
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Difference
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You said that she's very attracted to you, but you've never mentioned how much you like her. Your actions can depend on how much you like her, and if you're willing to lose her. Questions you gotta ask yourself are: Do you actually want a LTR with her? If so, would you have one only with her if she didn't agree with you having other girls at the same time?
Oh, and Rufless,
LTR means Long Term Relationship
MLTR means Multiple Long Term Relationships, ie, having a few girls on the go at once. |
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Medic
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| I've got to say that I agree with Difference. What do YOU think? What do YOU want? Are YOU willing to lose her? If you really want to be in a LTR with her, tell her, but like Stealth said, lay down the groundwork. Bring her into your frame. Tripp once told me, "you need to take risks." Without risk, there can't be a reward. Be willing to lose the set. |
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NickRicca
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| Difference wrote: | You said that she's very attracted to you, but you've never mentioned how much you like her. Your actions can depend on how much you like her, and if you're willing to lose her. Questions you gotta ask yourself are: Do you actually want a LTR with her? If so, would you have one only with her if she didn't agree with you having other girls at the same time?
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I like her but im not looking to be in an LTR i dont have time for that commitment shit lol i just got out of a fairly long relationship... so yeah i am willing to lose her... |
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