Boss Playa
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 Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 10:56 pm Post subject: How do I train myself to be detached? |
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How do I train myself to be detached from the outcome? How do I train myself to not think I know what women are thinking about me?
I believe this is a good example. If not, this is what I am having a problem with.
I met a girl on Match.com. Qualified her via email and a phone call. Met up last Monday. I wasn't in state at the time and I wasn't very high energy, so we didn't have the best time. I did do the 5 questions game and the Brad P palm reading technique, both of which she loved, (the palm reading really got her going) but most of the rest of the conversation was regular stuff and kinda boring. We only hung out for a bit over half an hour. Walked her back to her car and did the hug and kiss thing. I left kinda thinking that we could have had a better time but that I really didn't care, I'd give her a call sometime and we'd hopefully get together again. She was hot, I will say that. She initiated contact with me and was really into me during the email, phone and text messaging so I figured whatever, we all make mistakes and have bad days. She still did show me IOIs at the bar, kino'd me, and kissed me.
I was going to call her Sunday night, but I went to the gym today(Saturday), afterwords I was high energy, feeling great, she lives close by, so I figured I'd give her a call and ask her to grab a coffee with me. I knew I'd be able to get into state easily and we'd have a much better time and I'd easily have her laughing and loving me. Hell, I was flirting with a female gym employee, I pretty much was in state.
I went back to my car where I had left my phone, called, and got no answer. I pretty much instantly I got this depressed/worried feeling and I thought that I'd never hear from her again. In reality, it's Saturday and she may be out and about, she may be busy, whatever, she may call me later, there is no reason to be worried. I get that damn feeling whenever women don't answer the phone/return text messages. It's retarded and irrational.
How do I train myself to get rid of it? There have to be mental exercises or something.
The day after we went out I went out with another woman who likes me and I was at her place making out with her and on Thursday I was on the phone with another girl who I've gone out with in the past who I might go out with again, so it's not like I am coming from a terribly lonesome standpoint. Since October I've had more success than I've had in my entire life, actually, as far as gaming multiple women, and I haven't even laid any of them yet. Keyword: yet. I had more lays in my AFC days but I'm just on the verge of plowing through that soon. It's taken me awhile to internalize and actually apply everything I've learned. I don't want this to be a major sticking point.
I am currently checking out psycho cybernetics. I've been listening to the unabridged audio, it's about 10 CDs long. I've only listened to 2, so I can't comment on how good it is yet. It's supposed to help oneself build up their "inner self." |
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Mister_GQ
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| this is called oneitis, we all have had it at one point. what i started doing is making sure i have more than one girl as an option, and dont think about the girls all the time, also dont find yourself listening to emotional music. and best of all expect the worst, like expect her to flake on u and u wont be disappointed. also, do a search for one-itis, you will find alot to read |
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Boss Playa
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| Mister_GQ wrote: | | this is called oneitis, we all have had it at one point. what i started doing is making sure i have more than one girl as an option, and dont think about the girls all the time, also dont find yourself listening to emotional music. and best of all expect the worst, like expect her to flake on u and u wont be disappointed. also, do a search for one-itis, you will find alot to read |
I've had oneitis and I'm not sure I'd call this oneitis. We hung out for half an hour. I never had any time to develop any feelings or attachment for her. |
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