I've heard some people say that giving a girl your number is one of the worst things to do since everything already starts off on the wrong page.

This girl is in my college class on Tuesdays and Thursdays. I caught up with her after class today and talked to her about her being from where I came from and how she liked it here, etc. I don't feel like I built too much attraction but it was enough to get her to pull her phone out.

We got to her building and I asked her if she had a phone as I pull mine out, she pulls hers out too. At this point, my phone freezes up and I'm tapping it like a retard and let her know that it froze and she hands me her phone and tells me to just give her my number. I put the number in her phone and kind of tease her about spelling my name wrong and she corrects it.

The thing is... She didn't text me so that I'd have her number too. I'm worried that my number is just going to rot in her phone. Is there anything I should say to her if she doesn't text me before our next class together? Should I act like everything is fine and don't mention it? How can I build some more attraction?

She seems like the conservative type. She's focused on her studies (Can only tell because of how neat and organized her binder and notes are). She's also on the swim team here and they have a meet this Saturday.

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Giving her your number was probably not the ideal thing to do but in that situation i guess it was the easiest option. The problem is that the ball is in her court now as to wether she contacts you or not where as if you had her number you could control the contact. On a plus note she willingly accepted your number so there must be some form of interest there (hopefully romantic and not just friendly ) so personally i wouldnt worry if she doesnt get back to you straight away she could well just be nervous about calling you so just play it cool for a few days until you see her next and pick up where you left of and continue gaming her. If you really want her to call you, you can always drop a few playful hints or even give her an excuse to call so that she does not feel nervous about doing it.

You probably have to game her in class then. Right now she has the ball in her court. Build attraction and what her text you out of the blue.

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Thanks guys. So what should I have done differently? Should I have declined giving her my number and just told her I'll see her on Thursday? I've been here for about a week, got 4 numbers so far and all of them went bad somehow. I'm just trying to get better at this stuff. I'm naturally good looking though, so I know my looks aren't the problem.

This should be interesting lol I've never had to game in class. How would I go about building attraction in a classroom environment? Writing notes seems too "middle school" lol I could come off as rude if I talk to her while the teacher is lecturing since it seems like she pays attention.

Any ideas?

Thanks again guys.

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Given the situation with your phone freezing i think giving her your number was justified if not ideal however whats done is done. Maybe if it happens again when you take a number you could just get them to write it down on some paper and save it later when your phone comes back to life because it might come across a bit rude if you decline her number outright. As for gaming in class you raise a good point, it will be difficult so perhaps the classroom itself is not the best environment, could you maybe catch up with her after class or during a break and then go from there. A good idea would be to try to meet up with her or invite her somewhere other than school/college etc so that you can spend more time gaming her without inturuption. I know it sounds simple but i thought id say it anyway. As for the notes theory being too middle school it could work if done with a good bit of confidence, you have to think that its not something she will be used to and so its going to stick in her mind and make her think about you more than she normally would. If it doesnt go to plan then lesson learnt but on the other hand it may pay off hugely. Be willing to loose everything and in the process you might gain the world .

I'd rather write a note and then talk to her for a few minutes after class again. Any ideas on what I should write on the note and what to bring up after class since she hasn't text me yet. Also should I pass the note at the beginning of class or towards the middle?

Anybody think the note is a bad idea or have any better ideas or suggestions?

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Class is today... Any extra suggestions guys? I really wanna get this one

Thanks in Advance

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Hey, sorry if this is too late but id say that the content of the note really isnt too important the fact that you are writing a note in the first place will probably be so out of the ordinary to her that what you write wont matter too much. I dont know the girl obviously so i cant comment on her personality or hobbies etc but i would deffinately use what you know of her to your advantage e.g. if shes into movies you could maybe write a note and ask her to rate some movies youve seen just keep it simple and fun and she will almost certainly come to you after class and then you can talk to her some more and generally girls love talking so as long as you can keep the conversation flowing she will more than likely give you hints to the topics she like to talk about and all you have to do is pick up of the hints and go with the flow. I know what im saying seems very simple but thats my style of gaming, i prefer to keep fairly natural and only use routines once in a while as i find that works best for me.

Not too late at all. It's a class in the evening, 5 hours from now. She mentioned that she's on the swim team and she likes snow. It's supposed to snow Friday and she has a swim meet this coming weekend. I'm not sure which one to write the note about and if I should ask her a question in the note, or just make a statement. I'm sure I'm over thinking it but I always go brain dead when it comes to doing things out of the ordinary... I'm working on it

Should I write something like, "I heard swimmers/snow lovers _________ (something neg or positive), is it true? =O"

I don't care about passing notes all class, I just want to be in her head so that she'll text me and I can have the ball back in my court.

EDIT: Would it be AFC to write a compliment on the note? Ex. "I really like your smile " <--- Seems like it but it seems everybody here has different takes on compliments. If she's not interested in me it could be creepy to her.

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I'm starting to rethink this whole writing a note thing. I've been looking into it and a lot of girls say they would find it corny and would convey a lack of confidence (even though I've already approached her and gave her my number?), so I think I'm just going to try to talk to her again about something unless you could help me come up with a note idea that wouldn't be seen as corny (probably negging or teasing her about something). I'm not sure if I should bring up her number again or not though. I'm actually not even sure what the goal is for today... lol this is what happens when you think about a situation too much. Learning my lesson very slowly.

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I give my number sometimes and it works!

Next time this happens to you with a girl, dial and CALL your number on the girl's phone. That way her number will show on your phone later. For this girl, just be cool and go with the flow, do not worry about what you cannot change...

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The Jelly In Your Donut