Ok...my target said she would text me about our drinks tomorrow night.


She apologised for not texting me this evening about it and said:

'Theres some History social tomorrow night but I dont think im gonna go, but i'll let you know tomorrow cause i dont know whether I have to go or not :S'

I said back 'Ohhh a social? Upto you, I didnt bother with em in first year and Im cool ;D. Loads go to em though'.


Now...should I tell this girl she should go or wait to see what she says tomorrow? I dont wanna unecessarily flake on her yet cos I think she would rather come out with me from that text?


We could go together as we both do History and Im third year BUT I have only about 6 friends on my year due to A) hanging around with more arty types out of college (Im just a bit of a hipster I guess lol) and even so, the socials are full of more obnoxious third years people and so I would lack social proof by turning up simply with her.


Any advice, throw it at me guys.

She just gave you two IOD's:

1. She didn't text you that night. Because she doesn't want to feel awkward the next time she sees you, she apologies and suggests a new thing.

2. She is not very interested in meeting you again. That's why she stays vague about the new thing, (don't know if she is going, etc.). And she will let you know if she is going????! WTF! So she lets you waiting for her??! This is no PUA-style!

Allow me to re phrase that.


She texted me last night saying she would text me today about tomorrow night.



Today we had exchanged some texts about colllege....I assumed she didnt mention tomorrow because she had not sorted out if anything was on her schedule yet.


We texted up until about 3pm about college. Then at 7pm she texted apologising for not replying about college.


I then asked her about if we were still on for tomorrow?



So....what do you think on those facts man

In other words, "I'll hang out with you if there's nothing else to do."

UPDATE


Now I sorta get the cards are in her hands; she may want to go to this social.


I have a group of 6 friends who asked me to go to the cinema tomorrow night about a week ago.


I COULD text her and tell her 'Hey if you still wanna go to the social its cool; some friends of mine are heading to the cinema. We should re-schedule for wednesday or thursday evening(?)'


This is a tricky move for me, im not used to changing plans like this.


Would this be a better move than waiting to see if she wants to head out with me tomorrow night? Or would it look petty?

Hey man, this is actually my first post in the forum but I have been into PUA for quite a while. I agree with the other guys that she is basically saying you're a last resort. If I was you I would go to the cinema with your friends, text her saying that your going to the cinema and to have fun at the social. Do this early as well because it shows that you won't give up your time just incase she decides to see you. Also I would avoid asking for days to reschedule and instead say, lets do something on wednesday/lets do something on thursday. Generally listing loads of days just makes it seem like you haven't got much going on. Hope this helps.

What he said! Basically, she's been in total tcontrol when it comes to the communication between you from what you've posted.. you need to change that like these guys have said and make her feel that she should feel privileged you're even considering going somewhere with her

Right I sort of see what you guys are saying. Does it matter that this is the first social of her time at university so it kinda makes sense to go?


Im thinking of this text to her about 11am:



'Hey *****, Im thinking you should go to the social, its a cool place to meet friends on the course. Anyway, I should really go catch ***** while its on at the cinema with my mates. We'll reschedule for tomorrow night.'

Three sentences...they all suck. The first one serves no purpose. The middle one reeks of your disappointment, and the last one is too demanding. Also, I see no point until waiting that long. The sooner you reply the better as it also shows you have your own plans that were set in advance.

maybe something more along the lines of, "that's cool, have fun! I promised to go see so and such a movie with couple friends tonight anyway. maybe we can catch up later on [X day]?" where "X" is the day AFTER tomorrow, which implies that you have something more important already set up for tomorrow.

Hmmmm that does read alot better. The only problem is Im going to a club tomorrow night with some friends and her friends/she is going.


I could have met her tomorrow evening and arrived at the club together? Its a new night thats starting out that looks pretty cool.

Ok...I replied as thus:


'Ha its always a good laugh that. I promised some mates a few weeks back Id go see the new ************** film at **** tonight anyway. Maybe we can meet up tomorrow or thursday? That new nighy starts tomorrow at ***** looks like a good time.

SO what did she respond? I think that you should never show a girl more interest than she shows in you. I would just have responded, "I would like to see you, but if you can't make it, no worries!"

Then give it a week and if you don't hear from her contact her again.

No reply from her as of yet.


What do I do if there is no reply to that text? We'll probably both be out tomorrow with mutual friends...?

I think this is progress??

So I replied this morning with:

''Ha its always a good laugh that. I promised some mates a few weeks back Id go see the new ************** film at **** tonight anyway. Maybe we can meet up tomorrow or thursday? That new nighy starts tomorrow at ***** looks like a good time.'


She replied to me at 5pm ish (after college hours) with:

'Yeah that is dead on...where is **** (the cinema) ?Not going to bother going to the social tonight, not many even going to it'


Me:

'Its just off ***** street, my mate let me down for a ticket in the end (he actually did)... yeah (tomorrow night's venue) will be a riot! had a good day?'


Her:

I dont know where any of the streets are here yet lol. Where is ******** (tomorrow nights venue)? and yeah it was ok, slept in for the first lecture but has one at 4. going to the library now with my mate to sort my life out ....i havent got a clue whats going on on my course lol what about you?


Me:
Tomorrow nights venue) is on **** street, ha doing some work? today was good, got my work done by 5...having some drinks now with friends


Her

haha yeah well trying...dont understand any of it, Very good, where did you guys go? is this with **** (her friend's flat mate (my friend) )etc ?

Me:

We went to ***** and *** with **** and **** it was a good laugh. Dont kill yourself in the library!!! Roll on tomorrow night it will be really good.


Her :

Lol i am close to it..english is so dull at times...has **** ever been to ****'s ? i dont thive met him. By the sounds of it theyre not liking that girl they live with or whatver haha


Me:

Nah but he is a cool fella...ha hes not out tomorrow should be soon. lol she is strange her! imagine she came out ha.


Her:

haha yeah shes a weird one, shes definitely not all there...**** said she went out on friday night with them haha



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How am I handling this shit now people? It seems to be alot better than I thought when I sent that text flaking her (ish) this morning

Well???


cheers