This would be a more effective list if it was simplified down into achievable goals/tasks, that way people could print it off and use it as a check-list. Otherwise there is some nice stuff in here. But IMO also a couple of danger areas.
Warped Mindless wrote:
With all that said, here is the following list on how to become more attractive:
1) Dress better and get a cool hair cut. Although this list isn't in any specific order this is the first thing that you should do. get a stylish female friend or a stylish gay guy to go shopping with you and let them help you pick out clothes that make you look sexy. Then go to a male hair stylist and tell him to make your hair look sexy. Dressing better can make ugly guys average looking and average guys sexy looking.
Great but not all gay men are fashion gurus!
And for anyone reading this, it's best to pick a hairstyle first and THEN go to the hairdressers. Most experienced hair dressers will not cut your hair until you give them some real guidelines, the last thing they want is someone asking for a haircut promising that they will be happy with whatever you give them and then complaining that it "wasn't what they wanted" afterwards, from what I've gathered it seems to happen to every hairdresser once and they are cautious to have it happen again.
Pick a style before you go in there, otherwise you'll just end up with an awkward silence!
2) Hit the gym. 99% of you are either too skinny (me) or too fat. Loose weight or bulk up. Muscles are sexy.... get some.
3) Make money doing something your passionate about. If you hate your job it will affect all areas of you life and chances are you wont even know it. Take steps to either start your own business or to find a job that you enjoy doing.
4) Start eating healthy. Personally I recommend the paleo/primal diet (google it) but it doesn't matter what diet you follow as long as you eat healthy. Cut out junk food and soda especially.
Fruit and Veg are SUPER important for looking good, the more vitamins you get the better you look, I'm in a rush right now so google that fact. The University of St Andrews recently did a pretty awesome experiment on it with some promising findings.
5) Kill any bad habits you may have. This includes wasting time on video games and doing harmful drugs.
Bad habits are bad habits because of the effects they have on the individuals engaging in them. This wont be the same thing for everyone.
(I for one would LOVE to be a gamer, and I encourage anyone who has the option to start gaming to do so. It's one of the biggest and most promising creative industries in the world right now, and its just getting started, no need to miss out IMHO.)
6) Always be working on yourself. When you stop growing you die. Always be seeking to make yourself a better person.
7) Travel. Travel as much and as often as you can. Travel the world or travel your own state but seek to get out and experience the world. Doing this will force you to grow in ways you will never imagine. You will also learn a lot about yourself and other people. Not to mention you will have fun.
Stop saying "no" and go on adventures. This one is related to above but while you will certainly have adventures when you travel you can have them right at home too. Experience new things and stop being a pussy.
9) Take the road less traveled.
10) Pick up a couple new social hobbies. Not only are social hobbies a great way to grow yourself as a person but you will meet a lot of cool people as well.
Be careful of DO THIS... AND THAT... AND THAT... AND THAT
Remember these guys are already going to the gym, starting a business and travelling. I've often found one of the best solutions for a lot of people looking to develop is to simplify find one or two things that you can really get good at and understand and it will reward you far more than putting the same effort into becoming mediocre and vaguely experienced in 5-6 things.
Try picking up 5-6 new projects, then cutting 4 of them until you are left with only the projects that you truly enjoy and can see a future in.
11) Build relationships. Young, old, men, women... everyone.
12) Escape your comfort zones. This one is a BIGGIE. Find out what your comfort zones are and push them. then push them some more... and then some more... and more and more and more.... ect.
13) Have boundaries and know what they know. Know what you will and will not tolerate and stick to those boundaries.
When building relationships, it's good to make the effort to be on friendly terms with the people you meet, but remember my rule of simplification. If your an excitable person always looking for "new" things (i.e. you're still learning how to find new things in old experiences) it can be easy to get caught up in games of "hi, nice to meet you" and forget about taking the time to really invest in people who are worth it.
While we are at it. How do you maintain Boundaries while pushing your comfort zone?
Just my two cents!