GOT GIRLS E-MAL
So it was a friday and I went to this youth group called the barn however It was not my first time there. The last time I went was a long time ago when I was still 13 years old. I remember going there and sitting in the corner to afraid to talk to anyone (it was before I knew anything from the seduction community.
For the last 4 months I have been following some advise I got from an e-mail from Carlos Xuma. In his news letter, he talked about 4 steps to getting a girlfriend and in his first step, he said get exposure. So I have been trying to get out as much as possible.
When I got to the youth group and saw all the people including girls, I began to get some approach anxiety because I knew no one there. To make matters worse I was going by myself but I was doing this for my inner game. I was following a rule to improve inner game. This was a rule I had made for myself and it has helped me get to the point where I am today. I take small steps to achieve my goal.
THE FIRST RULE ON THE LINK BELOW WAS WHAT I WAS USING
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Every day I would take small steps to get over my anxiety. These steps were all planed out. Although it was helping, I was behind schedule. The last step I had planned was to get a girls number or e-mail address and I was so close. I was talking to a girl who was giving me allot of IOIs a week ago but I never asked for the dam email! In the before post I sent, I said that If you fail or get stuck with one of the steps, It is a sticking point and it would be best if you break that step into smaller bits. The problem was I did not break it into smaller steps because I was so upset and said that the next day I will go get a girls number. I failed that and then I plan to do it the next day. My confident slowly broke apart each day.
I decided I was going to go back to small steps again and today at the youth group, I was just going to try to have a conversation with people and HAVE FUN.
It was the youths groups birthday and they were celebrating 10 years. I saw everyone was dressed in cowboy hats and on the inside of the building they had an electronic bull ride. I asked someone what was going on and they said that they were having a cowboy theme.
I started talking to these two girls and it was going okay but I have done better before. The girls could see that I was not completely comfortable. The one asked if I lived a very award life.
During the conversation, one of the girls asked did I come from another country. I asked her if it was because of my accent and she said yes. Later that night her friend asked the same question and asked if I was Italian because of my accent. I told her that I was half italian but I do not know why allot of people tell me that. I was born and raised in South Africa and I was offended. (Not every one says I have an accent and it is only some people who tell me that).
As the conversation went on, I began becoming more relaxed and used some advise I got from PUAs. Things like negs and DHV.
they were having a barn dance. I chose one of the girls from the group as a partner. During the dance, we needed to switch partners and it was at this point in which I thought to my self that maybe I was not doing as bad as I thought I was. I began getting the following IOIs
1. Each time we switched partners, the girl I was dancing with will look at me.
2.She played with her allot
3. Allot of the time when she stood next to me, her arm will touch my elbow
after the dancing, they had the electronic bull and when I got on to it was expecting to not last long. Last year I was over weight and started to go to gym to loose weight and become more attractive. It obviously helped not just for looking better. I had the longest time on the bull with it set on full power and I was expecting to fall off after a few seconds.
I got off and the girl who was giving me all the IOIs asked me when I was going. I told her I already went but I am going again. She said she was also going. So she stood in the line.
When I was done with the second time round, I wanted to go a third time. She stopped and asked if was going again in a bit of a surprised voice. When I said I was she said she was also going to go a second time. She kept on going on each time I went on. I was not sure was she doing this to go on the ride or as an excuse to talk to me in the line
Just before they were about to close, I heard her say to her friend that she needed to leave now and I decided to get her e-mail before she went
Me: are you leaving
Her: yeah bye (she says then hugs me)
Me: do you have email
Her: yes
Me: right it down her (I give her my phone)
I learnt from from one of my old mistakes bellow
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This was the only part were my Approach anxiety was as bad as when I first got to the youth group when I was 13. As I handed the phone, I noticed that my hand was slightly shaking and I tried to hide it. I knew she sent me her real e-mail address.
The youth group was on friday night and I emailed her on saterday night. I did not know what to say. I decided to take a risk and tell her I like her in the e-mail. I think it was a mistake. Here's the e-mail I sent
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I am still waiting for her response sunday night. Maybe I was too direct or maybe she has not even seen it yet
What do you think. I wrote this to get advise on how I can improve next time . Please give your opinion. Even if it is a short one lined comment
CHAT
