David Shade's Hot Phone Sex course gives details of how to give an orgasm over the phone, one where the woman is touching herself, another where she isn't.
I haven't done it over the phone, but I have done it. In my case it was with my then LTR but I believe this can be done first time, over the phone with no touching, *IF* you've had lots of practice. I personally am shit at talking on the phone even to most of my mates(!), so in person is better for me!
So I was with my LTR. We were meeting up for the evening, no particular plans. I decide to go and find a restaurant I walked past once that looked pretty good, never been there before so it would be interesting. Turns out the restaurant is really posh, but it's within my budget so we go for it.
We have a great meal and talk about everything under the sun. We have fun, laugh out loud, we talk about deep stuff, talk about relationships, philosophy, a bit of sex, everything. It's a great meal, a great experience, a great connection. We have the full three courses and I'm stuffed and sleepy. We leave the restaurant and walk back to my place. It's a cold night and a bit misty, which gives a nice romantic vibe to the whole thing. (Note for newbies: it is not necessary to have a misty night for this to work!) But I'm tired and even thinking of skipping sex tonight.
One thing that we had touched on at the meal, but had spoken about in detail before then, is her fantasies. One of these was to be tied up. I'd been trying to set this up for a while but never sorted the logistics. As I was walking home I remembered I had a couple of scarves in my room so it could happen, and it might be worth sacrificing some sleep for! I raised the idea with my GF and she started to get excited. I started talking about what might happen, making sure my language was very sensual and descriptive. I was essentially starting the phone sex routine without using the phone!
She was getting into it big time. We got home and as soon as we were in my room we both started stripping off. I made sure not to touch her though, I was going to make the best use of her fantasy as I could, which meant being tied up before I started taking advantage of her.
Using the two scarves I tied her hands to the headboard of the bed, not tightly, but tight enough to give the impression. By now everything was in place. She was already writhing in excitement from what was happening, the connection, the fantasy, the seductive language. And lo and behold, before I had even finished tying the second scarf, it happened.
Her breathing got quicker. She was already moaning my name. Writhing on the sheets. And then, totally unexpectedly, she started shaking, raising her hips into the air, shuddering, screaming "Oh my god!" over and over. She was having an orgasm. A proper, full-blown orgasm. And I hadn't even touched her.
"Did you just come?" I asked. "Yes," she replied, "fuck me now. Fuck me. I want you in me!"
Well that wouldn't be any fun now, would it? So I teased her a bit more, started caressing her, but didn't fuck her. After about five minutes of caressing, teasing, light spanking and massaging, I entered her and immediately she had another raging orgasm. I started fucking her and the rest is history.
We had sex for the next hour. Most of the time I was talking into her ear telling her how hard I was fucking her, and how hard she was going to come. I came three times, and she lost count. Every couple of minutes it seemed like she was having another orgasm. Or maybe it was the same one, still reverberating around her. A while afterwards I asked her how many times she came. She couldn't answer as she lost count, plus they weren't necessarily separate, they all blurred into one. Afterwards she couldn't stop going on about how I was a "sex god," "the best fuck in the world," and how she had never had so may and so powerful orgasms before. I felt quite pleasant after that, I can tell you! ;o)
But the first orgasm came without any touching at all. To recap in case you aren't sure how this happened, here's the overview:
- Trust (from LTR but there are other ways to get this even on ONS)
- Connection at multiple levels (from the meal)
- Using her fanstasies for our mutual benefit
- Descriptive, sensual, and eventually dirty language.
- The mental aspect translates into an orgasm without touching, and multiple, powerful orgasms during actual sex.
Hope that helps. All credit goes to David Shade and his materials. Any questions please let me know.