Relationships fail. Odds are, at this age, the girl you are dating now will be dating some other guy in the not so distant future.
Why do relationships fail? Plenty of reasons. I could give you a list. But you know what the main reason is? Communication.
Based on this thread, let's see how we should avoid communicating with our girlfriend.
GF: I'm acting distant.
BF: I know something's wrong and if she doesn't want this she should call it off.
GF: I don't want to break up, its just a really bad time SPAM
BF: Ok cool. I'll give her heaps of space
GF: I'm leaving for a week.
BF: I'm just going to make up something so I don't see you.
GF: its really bad time SPAM with shit going on at home and some other things (are things repeating or is my CTRL V stuck?)
Now let's look at advice to make this situaton worse:
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you can fix this by becoming more distant and reducing comminication to begin with. don't let her play with you. also force yourself and go out pick up other girls, coz otherwise you ll be thinking about just this one girl all the time which doesn't help at all.
Now please re-read BF's responses to GF. Was BF listening? Did BF effectively communicate? Was he there for her to help her get through things, or was he constantly talking about breaking up. Is giving her space in her time of need the best way to be supportive? Is talking of break ups while she is stressed supportive?
Who knows if not playing games + learning to communicate would save THIS relationship. But learning these lessons will improve and hopefully save the relationships that matter.
1) Stop playing games. They aren't healthy, relationships aren't cold approaches.
2) Communicate problems. I bet there were signs earlier on that you ignored/avoid.
That's my two cents. Hope it helps you or someone else in a similar situation.
After breaking up though, isn't it bad to still stay in contact for the first bit? i know she wants me to still be her friend and talk to her, but is this early stages to get friend zoned?