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stekehmrt
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 Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 12:29 pm Post subject: girl freezes me after i froze her |
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hey
i got this girl and we are in a long term relationship
well lately i have been acting unavailable, and her reaction to this is acting unavailable too 
whats the best way to approach her now, i would love to say i missed her but i think it would ruin game and also i dont really feel i missed her, anger is more to describe my emotions and keep freezing her is how i deal with it right now.
what do you all tink?
also i think she has cheated on me, im not sure though but i want her to confess if she did. we promised each other that we would tell each other if we would cheat.
when do i stand the most chances of her telling me
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Okiokdan
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For how long have you been into this relationship?
Trust me, be open to your girlfriend, let her be open to you. Freezing out each other doesn't help any good. It's not a pick up here! Its an LTR! You won't ruin your game, you can say you've missed her, just stay the high value man you used to be. It's going to end sooner or later if you're keeping up.
TALK to her, its totally normal you know. If you don't talk to her, things are easily to be misunderstood.
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looking_at_the_sunset
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| Posted: Mon Apr 21, 2008 8:57 am Post subject: |
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| Talk about anything and be atractive men as when she fell into you. If you'll not be in contact for a too long time, she may think that you are not interested in her anymore. |
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Fiction dTAJIr8v
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I disagree with Okiodan--honesty is important, but you don't want to convey weakness, neediness, or any other trait of an unattractive man. Be open with her only to the degree that you don't portray negative characteristics. Telling her that you miss her will only convey that you are not a strong person.
On the other hand, you can be reasonable. If you haven't talked to her in several weeks for no reason at all, and the lack of contact has been entirely her doing, just tell her straight up that it is stupid to be in a relationship where you don't see each other. At that point, she will either recommit to you, or you can break up or transition into an open relationship.
Ultimatums, while risky, are often effective. If you have good cause, it can be the ultimate freeze-out if she is still into you. If she's not into you, then she will stop dragging it out, because it will be more work to recommit than to break it off. If you can present it nonchalantly, and have a thick skin about her response, they can be very powerful.
Ultimately, as was said above--the way to win her back, if possible, is to be attractive. Start acting like an attractive person--work on your social proof, show social dominance, be funny, have ambitions, and you will probably win her back. |
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