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AK47
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 Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2007 10:12 pm Post subject: gaming while in a raletionship |
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ok so i was wondering what do you guys think about being in the game while being in a relationship?
my opinion to this is that gaming is kind of like a hobby(by game i mean not cheating on ur gf/bf but just getting #s and just interest of other girls) like the MM compares martial arts to venusian arts... you practice the martial art not in order to go and beat the shit out of people but in order to maintain your physical strength and such, so if you still game while in a relationship you are just not letting yourself get rusty, because there might come a day when you will need the game to help you find another mate but becasue you stayed out of it for so long you wont be as successful as you could, plus if you had game and then lets say you got into a relationship, and then it ended.... during that time the society changed and what used to be game before wouldnt work anymore in the present day
soooo ur opinions? |
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L.A. Tripp
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| Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2007 10:20 pm Post subject: |
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| It depends on the two of you that are in the relationship. I'm married and I game. Starbuck is the same way. Some women won't put up with it, others will. That's something you have to talk to your partner about. |
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AK47
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| Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2007 10:40 pm Post subject: |
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well to get her not to worry that im goin after other chicks i have this idea...
tell her that you have a friend who is looking for a girlfriend but he is not so confident as to go out and start meeting chicks, so he asked me to be his wing |
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Qwex
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I wouldn't lie. Some people do, but I like to have good karma.  I believe that flirting is okay, as long as you don't act on stuff and cheat. I would just be honest to my LTR partner. But hey, all that matters is what you want to do. |
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L.A. Tripp
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| Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 1:58 am Post subject: |
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Yeah, definitely don't lie. That will end up snowballing. If she's not ok with you being a PUA, then either you need to stop, or break it off with her.
Most likely, at least in my experience, if she gets upset about it it's probably because she thinks you are looking to hook up with a different chick every night. In which case you need to explain that that's not what your doing . . . UNLESS of course that IS what you're doing. Then you do need to let her go. |
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Envy
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| Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 2:49 am Post subject: |
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| I think Tripp is right just tell her what you are doing and then throw out the ultimatum! |
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Starbuck
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Let me add my two cents..
Most women, decent women don't really give a shyt if you casually game other chicks in public. As long as it's not obvious, crude or leading to a BJ, etc.. in the fitting room. 
Heck I sometimes do in front of my wife out in public when we're shopping, etc.., just for fun. Nothing serious and no kino, just seeing if I can spark some attraction and make somebody feel better than they would otherwise. She thinks it's funny to watch other girls reactions. I like to say when she takes me out in public, it's like she's walking her fancy poodle or something. Seems natural other women want to pet it occasionally. She knows that other women are going to look, and she knows that I being a friendly sort never miss an opportunity to communicate with other people especially very attractive ones of the female persuasion.
But she's 41 y.o. and quite mature. A younger woman could of course be a bit more insecure and possessive.
All that being said, there has to be a degree of trust in your relationship if you want a good one. That means if you have an understanding with your partner that you wont cheat, you shouldn't. Or you're liable to find yourself alone again doing it all for real again. If you can afford that, then by all means that's your decision. No reason to be deceptive about it. |
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