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Danimal
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 Posted: Fri Mar 14, 2008 12:23 am Post subject: Free Yourself From Fears |
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I am currently working on my number 1 problem in social situations: the dreaded approach anxiety! Since I have joined this forum I have noticed that I have grown much more confident, but I still need to get over that last little bit of AA that is holding me back. I started to read a book called Free Yourself From Fears by Joseph O’Connor and I would like to share an NLP pattern from that book that I thought was terrific. It is called: From fear to action (O’Connor 2005 P69-70):
1. Acknowledge your anxiety. You feel afraid: do not try to deny it or argue it away.
2. Take some immediate action to calm the anxiety. Relax, slow yourbreathing, listen to relaxing music, or otherwise distract yourself. Fear and anxiety make it difficult to think clearly about an issue.
3. Realize that whatever you are afraid of has not happened yet, therefore it exists only as a possibility in your mind> Later you will look back on this fear and laugh.
4. Remember times when you were afraid but everything turned out well. What can you learn from those situations that will help you in this one?
5. Find out what you are imagining that is generating this unreal fear. What pictures are you seeing? What do they look like? What sounds are you hearing? What are the qualities of the sounds?
6. Once you are aware of exactly how you are creating the anxiety in your imagination, disrupt the pictures and sounds. Blank the picture. Turn the sounds off, just as you would with a TV program that you do not like.
7. Think about what you want to happen. Make it as clear and specific as possible.
8. Plan some action steps to make that outcome more likely. It is essential to do something. Only by taking action can you eliminate unreal fear.
9. Mentally rehearse what you want to happen, not what you fear might happen.
I would recommend anyone suffering from AA read this book it is full of good tips on dealing with and overcoming anxiety. |
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summer_guy_uk
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Thanks I'll give it a look for sure  |
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darkme_legendary
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| Quote: | | Since I have joined this forum I have noticed that I have grown much more confident, but I still need to get over that last little bit of AA that is holding me back. |
Good pattern but this is not the absolute and total cure.
Keep it up! |
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