Read this article only after you have written down 10 reasons why a (hot) woman would be lucky to be with you, as instructed by Sinn in his "Game Acceleration" document. If you haven't read Sinn's document, just write down that list before reading on.

As a newbie learning the pickup arts, you learned that confidence is attractive, so you decided to act more confidently when you're interacting with women. What are you confident about, though? Where should the focus of your confidence be?

Is your focus on being confident in how good you look?
Is your focus on being confident in your ability to attract women?
Is your focus on being confident in how great you smell?
Is your focus on being confident in how smooth your approach is?
Is your focus on being confident in how great you're going to make her feel?
Is your focus on being confident in how great you've made other women feel?
Is your focus on being confident in general?

Fuck. That. Shit.

You have to keep all those kind of things in the back of your mind, but that stuff isn't what you should be focusing on. Wherever your focus is, it has to be here in the NOW. That's why you shouldn't focus on how great you're GOING to make her feel, or your past successes. If you're focus isn't in the present tense, you will lose the rhythm of your pickup, just like losing the beat when you're playing in a band. You can easily start misreading her signals and end up either ejecting when you shouldn't or harassing her. Bad.

"Well, what do I focus my confidence on, then, Chief?"

Focus your confidence on your desire for her here and now.

There is a difference between having desire (intent) for a girl with and without confidence. A man focused on his desire without confidence comes off as needy and value-taking. He doesn't know whether or not he deserves the hot babe he's talking to. He has some strong feelings swirling on inside of him because he's entranced by her beauty, but when he's given a regular window of opportunity he will not escalate. Basically, he isn't confident about his desire, but the desire is certainly there. He's just too caught up in memories of the past and potential consequences of the future to be here in the now with his relentless desire.

On the other hand you have a man who is totally confident in his unapologetic desire for the woman right in front of him. Gunwitch might say that he's properly using sexual state. He isn't concerned about anything other than what is happening here and now and he is enjoying every step of his sarging journey. He is completely confident that he wants her NOW and will take her when she gives him a window of opportunity. He KNOWS he deserves what he wants. And, guess what? He's got rhythm and can't "fuck up" his sarge like guy number 1 can.

Wanna learn more about how to live in the now so that you can exponentially improve your abilities in "meeting" women?

Stay tuned to this forum for an upcoming live seminar/workshop that I, Chief, am going to hold in New Orleans. This first workshop I'm going to hold is going to be free of charge, and will be held within the next few months... maybe even within the next few weeks. It's all in the planning stages right now.

I constantly find myself in situations where I am talking to a girl and I can't even fucking decide whether or not I've got the hots for her or not. Just now I was flirting with this girl working at the coffee near my dorm but I didn't number close or anything because I couldn't even decide on where my intent was. She was cute, hooked, and attracted to me, but I can't even say for sure how much I was attracted to her. I know that if I focus more on recognizing and purifying my sexual intent, I could unstifle myself SO MUCH and see so much more success as a result.

By the way, this workshop is going to kick some major ass.

I wanted to avoid replying to another one of your topics simply with something along the lines of "wow", "i agree" or "good post".

However, no1 else seems to have anything to say soooo:

Wow, i agree. Good post

I'd like to go to that workshop, but it's a good 2000 miles or so. Still checking into it though!

If you do one in northern california I'd be there in a second

its about 6000 miles away from me but i come from a place Chief doesnt beleives exists, so i doubt he will ever come here

This is a good post

And agree with you 100%.... the problem with the not-so-confident guy is that he is thinking TOO much about what is NOT going on. Such as "omg did she just look at my ugly nose! NO SHE DID IT AGAIN!" or... "Wow she is so beautiful I dont know if I can hook her... nah probably now"

I notice that my friends (and family) who live IN the moment as much as possible, tend to be more outgoing and much more social than those who worry about the past, or future. Worry about the present when communicating with someone.

Wow did I mention I love Chief's posts? Its gotten to the point that even if I have no interest in the subject line, if I see his name there I will read the post because it must be good.

I don't know how you have time to post so much awesome value giving stuff and still go out and pick up chicks but props to you man.

I don't really like reading blogs but I actually read two entries in his. The honesty and vulnerability is attractive.

See you round the forums Chief!