First sex anxiety

geronimo · Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 2:27 pm Post subject: First sex anxiety

I know this is not a sex forum, but I see it as a part of a bigger picture. I'm in my sophomore year in college and I'm a virgin. I never had trouble with that, cause I'm kinda late bloomer and I have a pretty cool life apart from sex, but recently the priorities in my head have been starting to change lol. I don't have much experience - I dated a girl who was my friend beforehand (started making out when pissed on a party), got to third base in the following couple of weeks, but never felt strong attraction to her and it burned out quickly.

It takes me a while to become good friends with people, which is what I want to work with along with my game. I don't consider myself shy, I just find a lot of people boring. As an aspiring PUA, should I be concerned about my first time at all (good female friend/prostitute/whatever else just to get it over with?) or just focus on connecting with girls, developing conversational skills and number/kiss closing, confident that it'll happen sooner or later? I am not desperate to lose my viriginity asap, but I'm wondering whether my lack of confidence in bed will affect my developing game, thanks.

Refurb · Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 9:37 pm Post subject:

Dude, slow down. Think about how you posted this question. The internet. Now, I don't want to sound like a total geek but the reality is, you can learn anything online. I think you should wait and make sure your first time having sex is actually something you will like. Think about it. When you are old, what type of memories do you want? What I did when I was in your position was I learned ewverything I could learn without actually "Practicing in the field" I mean, read books, look up "The complete idiots guide to amazing sex" or "The top 100 love making techniques" I mean, Learn what you can, and once You (being the key part) feel comfortable with it. Go for it.

Hope it helped.

goodtimes · Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 11:16 pm Post subject:

Just relax, don't rush for the sake of it as it will possibly be crap then. If it's as a natural part of a relationship then you won't feel any nervousness about it as it will feel just right. If you're looking for pick up sex then just go for it and get some practice in but of course it's your own choice. At the end of the day having sex isn't a big deal, it isn't so difficult and like the above says you can get a head start and do it well and then you're they'll keep coming back.

Rye Lee · Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 11:23 pm Post subject:

If you worry about it, it will affect your game, so don't worry. Don't just go for the first chick that will spread her legs, go for one that is actually interested in you, because then she will appreciate the fact that you waited and won't have any problems with it. Becoming a PUA is all about you, so don't worry about her, just focus on what you want to achieve.

The SAINT · Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 2:58 am Post subject:

Hey how we all doing?

Is a hooker going to help your confidence NO however you getting numbers kiss closes and pushing things to the next levels of pulls etcetera will help your confidence.

If you are not in a rush too lose it than stop thinking about it focus on the other issues like how you relate to people. As you need the base before you can expand.

Sex is an experience don't have it if you will regret it. Don't date a girl who does not interest you. Live for yourself as you only get to do it once.

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Now .. I (and others) .. have tried a more sugar coated / feel good approach to getting guys to come out. Truth be told, it hasn’t worked anywhere close as well. I'm dissappointed that with all the free resources, and the cool guys that we have offering free advice, so few people actually make use of it, go out consistantly, and get better with women, instead of dabbling and keyboard jockeying."

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"Only see, somehow it always seems that I'm learnin' or something I can never be It dosen't matter to me, 'cause I will always be that pimp I see
in all my fantasies I don't know your fucking name.So what?
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Lucius · Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 2:59 am Post subject:

some good replys

delta4ce · Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 3:04 am Post subject:

96Firebird · Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 4:20 am Post subject:

Hey man, I'm in the same boat as you. Sophmore in college, still holding onto my v-card. Don't let it bother you. As long as you know where things should go, and how to work it, you should be fine. Like I said in another thread, my own actually; I don't have the complex of a virgin, but I have the stats.

The Libertine · Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 7:20 am Post subject:

Lack of confindence in area will definatley affect your game.
I was a late bloomer aswell and lost my V-plates when I was 20 (2nd year of Uni)..however as soon as I did I have never looked back. I have a had 10 girls in the last 7 months..8 Hbs and 2 were woefull ...

My first was a random chick I met in the street as I was walking home from a bar... which was ideal really; afteralll everyone is pretty shit for their first time, so it's good juts to bang a random that doesn't know anyone to badmouth you to...and 2nd of all it was free! hahaha

s0348953 · Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 10:39 am Post subject:

i recommend real sex by grub smith, he used to be fhm's sex columnist

geronimo · Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 4:54 pm Post subject:

I appreciate the feedback and different views guys, made me think about my
inner game.

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