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caiphus
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 Posted: Sat Dec 01, 2007 12:28 am Post subject: fear of success |
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| I've got a bit of an inner game issue atm, where I know all the right things to do, and have done them many times over in the past, but at the moment I seem to actively do the wrong things to sabotage myself. Anyone else ever had a similar problem? How did you get over it. To me it seems like an issue of "deservedness", but isolating that problem hasn't helped me fix it at all.[/b] |
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| Posted: Sat Dec 01, 2007 11:18 am Post subject: |
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Fear of success(part of a post by Cedar about Aproach Anxiety)
| Quote: | I'm a busy guy. So's my wife. She works part time on
weekends and evenings. My son has a martial arts class a few nights a week. If I hit the
bar this Thursday and timebridge a girl, I don't have much of a window in which to see her.
I'm close to closing an LTR for me and the wife. She'll take a chunk of our time. What if I
find a second one at the bar? When will I have time for a Day 2 or for anything more long
term? Where will I find time for all these girls?
Easy. DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT. What a lame fucking excuese NOT to approach. I won't
talk to a girl because there's a 1% chance she might become my girlfriend? Focus on the
process.
You don't have to timebridge the girl. And even if she's your thing, there's a good chance
you'll fuck it up. I've met hundreds of women. And a dozen of those were completely my
type. Totally compatible.
Am I upset I couldn't close them? A little. But I keep finding more. 2000 women turn 21 (or
any other age) EVERY DAY in this country. Don't worry about fucking it up with one girl.
Focus on learning from that girl so you don't fuck up the next one.
This kind of anxiety is all about outcome dependance. Don't worry about where the sarge
goes. Worry about how well you sarge. Doesn't matter if you get a bullseye on the
shooting range once in a while. Make it happen EVERY time. |
The answer my friend is DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT. Chill out and you ll be fine  |
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The Wild One
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| Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 4:05 pm Post subject: |
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| Try to mentally prepare yourself for the night ahead better. Get pumped up and do whatever you have to that will enable you to want to meet women. |
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