dark one wrote:
A relationship is an investment, think of it like a stock, if it starts to slid, and things between your gf or wife start to go sour you start to worry, just like if your stock started to drop lol and like a stock if a relationship ends that is an investment that you have just lost.
No, it isn't.
Your post assumes that you get nothing in return for the time, money and emotions you put into your relationship. The truth is that, whether it lasts forever or just a few months, you do receive something in return: wonderful memories and experiences with a beautiful woman.
Those things will stay with you long after the relationship is over if only you are mindful enough to keep the memories fresh and alive instead of allowing them be overshadowed by how things ended or allowing your ego to emphasize the worst parts of your union as a way of convincing you that you are better off without her.
Just because something isn't permanent doesn't mean it isn't good while it exists.
I'm not arguing the point that you are not left with memories I am just arguing that we as men get worried when a women begins to loose interest because of the investment we have made in the relationship, does it sound cold? yes, but its reality, of course I don't think of my gf as an object, I love her, care about her, and everything I do in our relationship is for that reason, but I would be kidding my self if I did not say I had invested a great deal of time, money, and effort into our relationship, an investment that to me has been worth it! I love my gf. Now if we were to break up would all that time and effort be a waste? no, I have memories and I have learned a great deal, but it would still be a great loss! a loss of investment....other then memories I would not have much to show for it would I?
See we get into relationships and build on them with the intention of our investments hopefully turning into life long happiness, we never go into a relationship thinking "This will fail" just as we don't buy stocks thinking "I will loose all the money I invest".
Again it might sound like a cold way of looking at things but lets not fool our self's, at the end of the day a relationship is one of the biggest investments we will ever make! and one of the biggest gambles as well!