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trying2bpua
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 Posted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 4:20 pm Post subject: Do I need to use any BF-destroyer in this case? |
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So, I went to a club, got a girl who is seeing a guy (not really BF), vibed with her girl friends, ignored the guy.
I was the alpha, fun guy, doing my own thing and having tons of fun.
The dude was the chode guy hanging around her.
Looks like she's still undecided though.
The girl put a picture of me with them in her photo album. We and her girl friends had tons of fun commenting on the picture.
The girls want me again on the next party.
Later the chode commented on the pic, basically rehashing the same jokes I made, dropping his own value and raising mine.
I stopped commenting on the picture to reinforce he killing the vibe.
Now, if the chode also go to the next party, do I need any BF-destroyer tactic or I'm ok doing my own thing and being unreactive? |
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Madals
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| Posted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 6:19 pm Post subject: |
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If she isn't acting like they are a couple and they aren't officially a couple all you gotta do is keep being the more attractive guy and things should go your way.
If you give me more detail on the relationship between her and this other guy, I might be able to offer more help  |
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trying2bpua
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| Posted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 6:36 pm Post subject: |
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Thanks Madals!
I opened her online, and the complete follow up is on this field report: [link]
Regarding the dude, well, all I know is that they go out together a lot, he floods her wall with compliments and she thinks he's cute.
He is kind of emo/nerd type of guy.
She on the other hand is a wild crazy party girl who makes no apologize for her actions (if you get what I mean  ).
Waiting for more advice.  |
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nomadicpua
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| Posted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 7:00 pm Post subject: |
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It sounds to me like the other guy is in friend zone. He is obviously trying really hard for her affection. If I was you, I'd just keep being alpha and act indifferent about the whole situation. Escalate physically next time you go out with them, let her know you want her and don't be afraid to talk dirty...if she's a party girl then she'll either be really into what you're saying or she'll find it amusing, either way you're good. Just be congruent with it and if she reacts strangely, hold the same face and don't react to her.
You're in a great position with her right now...the more he tries, the easier he is going to make it for you. |
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Madals
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If he is giving her as much attention as you say, and they haven't hooked up, I would say she is really not interested in him.
As i said before, keep being the more attractive guy, escalate and get things physical. She will either respond or she wont. |
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trying2bpua
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| Posted: Thu Nov 05, 2009 12:55 pm Post subject: |
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| What do you mean by "hooked up"? |
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| Posted: Thu Nov 05, 2009 1:36 pm Post subject: |
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| ah, hooked up is slang for kissed, had sex, got together etc. |
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trying2bpua
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| Madals wrote: | | ah, hooked up is slang for kissed, had sex, got together etc. |
Yes, they are seeing you other and kissing.
Don't know about sex though. lol |
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