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PostPosted: Sat Aug 23, 2014 4:24 pm 
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What's the best way to deal with LMR when the girl is intentionally won't let you touch her clit?

Usually when a girl says, "No, we're not doing that", I just keep escalating and rubbing on her, but a girl last night was pretty strict (not 100%, but like 80%) strict on me not going into her pants.

What's the best solution in a situation like this? Would making out intensely, and then freezing out and cutting all contact for a few minutes work?

I don't usually see a scenario where a girl solidly refuses any sort of genital contact. Even if they do, I'll just stick my hands down near their butt and go in that way, but she shut that down even. I was able to gradually get her more and more naked during the evening (but never entirely out of her underwear and bra, though her boobs did come out quite a few times), but I wasn't able to seal the deal (annoying, considering I thought it was a pretty much sure thing).

She seemed to like being difficult - she wouldn't even kiss me for almost an hour of playing around and wrestling (though, once we started, it was pretty intense - I have multiple hickies now, which pretty ruins my opportunities for the rest of the weekend)

Should I just consider this a particular idiosyncrasy of a particular girl, or is there something I can do to fix this going forward? It feels like she may be trying to inflate her value to try to hold out for a relationship, but that's not going to happen.

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Probably not relevant, but she also kept height shaming me a ton - I'm short, and I don't typically see a problem with it (not something I can change, so I don't even concentrate on it or worry about it), but apparently she only dates/hooks up with really really tall guys, and so she kept mentioning it over and over again. It was amusing to me, but was she trying to assert some sort of control or something over me? She seemed big on power dynamics and maintaining power (another crazy one, is my guess)


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PostPosted: Sat Aug 23, 2014 4:40 pm 
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Sounds like she just wasn't comfortable. Lmr in general is said to be the result of inadaquate comfort biulding before had.

And if touching her pussy is a big deal to her, pressing the matter at the time will only reinforce that belief.


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PostPosted: Sat Aug 23, 2014 5:16 pm 
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Agreed, but I'm not sure if that was the case in this situation. She was on her period (felt the pad), which could definitely be contributory/the sole cause. She seemed relatively comfortable though - I did what you're typically supposed to do in those situations - stopped pressing for it, and escalated otherwise (more intense make-outs, touching her all over, etc). I definitely wasn't pushy or anything like that.


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PostPosted: Sat Aug 23, 2014 8:00 pm 
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