Whats up guys?

I'm about to head into town and get my coffee fix for the day (Frozen Carmel Mocha!) and figured i'd drop in and shed some knowledge on something I notice guys doing wrong all the time!

Picture the last time you was in a club/concert/party/party like setting...

Remember back to all the girls you was "gaming" that night...

How close was you to her?

I notice this all the time... guys stand way to far from the girl.

Then they awkwardly try to close that massive gap super fast and kiss her and then wonder why it didn't work out.

Thinking back, how close to the girls were you?

When your talking to a girl and you can extend your arm and not touch, or just barely touch her, your too far away! Close that gap!

Truth be told, after a few minutes if you can extend your arm more than half way, your too far away.

Many guys have limiting beliefs about being able to get this close. For whatever reason they think they cant do it because it would be awkward, the girl would get creeped out, like I said...whatever reason.

Heres the thing, being this close, its communicating man to woman. It creates sexual tension and it shows confidence and dominance... all VERY good things.

How long should you wait to get this close? You can do it immediately.

Open, get real close, shake her hand and pull her in the last couple inches.

OR

Open, give her a hug, when you pull away just keep your hands on her hips/side and keep talking

OR

However you want. Those are just examples...don't put a lot of thought into it. Just do it. It doesn't matter how smooth it looks, just go with your gut instincts and do it. Thinking about it and analyzing it beforehand in the club will only fuck you up.

In addition, you will find yourself getting way more k-closes and they wont be awkward.

I've used this video in another post of mine as an example of good physical game but its also a great example of being close.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZVmN7VViYI[/youtube]

Watch the video up to 0:15 seconds closely. Notice how close he is when hes just talking to her. Then notice how this allows him to transition to physical game and a kiss very easy.


Lets recap:

Closing the gap and getting close

- Creates sexual tension

- Shows Confidence

- Shows dominance

- Allows easy access to be physical

- Kisses come super easy (whne you feel in your gut its time to go for it, then go for it because shes feeling it too)

- will improve your interactions a shit ton

This one fix often times makes guy's "game" a ton better.

If your not closing the gap and being close (and don't wait, do this form the start) your missing out. Give it a try.

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It's funny you notice this but even drunks when hitting on a girl are all over her like a fly on shit.

Where do you live? The only guys I can think that what do what you are talking about are the really nervous ones who struggle to have a conversation with a woman (not saying you are wrong though).

Drunks hit on girls, and are all over them all the time. Do they get laid? Generally speaking, no.

You're a PUA. You should have the girl yearning for you. Have her all over you.

Seems like people either take it too far (like Trixsta said) or not far enough. true though, proximity is something that slips you're mind a lot. I go for a hug then keep at a 45degree angle so i can easily turn when i need to

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There is a right way to be "all over girls" and a wrong way. Drunks d it the wrong, creepy way.

Did you watch the first 15 seconds of the video I posted? Thats an example of the right way.

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I'm gonna use another alex for visual examples:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=10Wv7KK1 ... age#t=449s

7:29 second mark...look how close her is to her, thats how it should be.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=10Wv7KK1 ... age#t=470s

7:50 mark, a great example again. Notice hes right up on her, but not in the same way a drunk guy would be. Again, this is the correct way to do it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=10Wv7KK1 ... age#t=478s

And finally, at the 7:58 mark is another great example.

All to often in clubs guys stand to far apart. Get close and get physical and not only will the noise level cease to be a problem, your interactions will go much better.

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Sorry bro, but I use to do that. Only time that works is if you already built attraction. You can't just walk up to a girl and start talking in her ear and shit. I sue to do the same shit... and girls would walk away. Why? There was no attraction. Once attraction is built, then go for it.

Actually you can. I, and many many others, do it all the time.

When your "game" gets tighter (and I don't mean that as an insult, I used to not be able to do it either) give this another try and see how amazingly it works.

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I doubt it. Why would an HB not mind if you're all up on her, without any attraction built? You take an ugly guy and do this, he will fail. If you are random good looking guy, you will have a.... 60-70% chance of it being a sucess. (Good looking = attraction)

Warped you really have to learn how to motivate and explain your point to other people.


Teacher: Punch him this way and you'll knock him out 90% of the time...

Student: I did, nothing happened.

T: Just get better at doing that, once your good at punching people it will work.

S: I thought I was punching him that way so I would get better?

T: Well yeah but it only works when you're better at it.

S: What?
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You've got people reporting it not working. Deal with that! That's important! Explain to them what exactly is happening when they "do it wrong" so that they can "do it right" next time round. There is a clear chance for you to step of the soapbox and engage in some trouble-shooting to get people proggressing. I'd take it.

Wow good article Warped. I definitely agree with what you're saying. You have no idea how close you can get to a girl.

Anyways bro, I sent you an email and so let's set up the phone coaching. Looking forward to talking you

Man, if i approached a chick like that in a club, id get slapped.

LOL, I forgot all about this thread. Anyways, I have another video that perfectly shows what im talking about here...

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q6Ay_Fwl_0E[/youtube]

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Smile.

If you smile, and have your hands in a visible place, most people will not see you as being a threat and will allow you to get very close to them, both men and women. Why am I saying this? This is my martial art application to game, and I have found whether it's talking to a girl, or getting ready to fight a guy, 9/10, if i'm smiling and keeping my hands where they can see them( never been arrested I swear), they'll always let me get close enough to kiss them, or punch them lol


That's my bit in a nutshell. Here's a psychological insight to the topic it self.

Getting close to someone is really all about your INTENT. If you've ever had someone pass by you and you just got a really negative feeling about that person, then surely enough you were able to pick up that persons negative intentions.
Girls have sensors for this that are way more advanced than a dude sensor is. They can smell your intentions from a mile away and it is for this reason, it's so important to smile, and have fun, because it's a fun and easy going intention and girls will detect that.

Now just in case your wondering about why its important to show your hands, watch any cop show and the first things the cop wants to see is "your hands up". Now you don't have to walk around the club with your hands up, but having your hands in your pocket, or in a place not easily visible causes tension in people, and definitely forces them to raises their alert level.
Try this: Stand in front of a mirror, and see the image your projecting when your hands a are visible and when their not. You'll definitely feel more comfortable when they are visible.

Peace out

Bingo. This is extremely true.

Two guys can run up and do the same thing to women where as one could get told to fuck off, the other gets an instant make out. Whats the difference? Intent plays a big part of that difference.

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