| Don't be an idiot, use the thinking part of your brain and not the insecurity part!
This is my theme of my post today.
And this is something I have been thinking about for a while.
Background; I'm a fairly experienced PUA, and I have also reached a level where I'm doing very good for myself, I have no problem saying that because I'm happy with my success.
But I also need to mention that when I started I was really bad with women, a total AFC, but I decided that there has to be more to it, there has to be better ways to pick up women than to dance drunk in a club and hope for the best, or to talk to a girl in class about something you really don't care about and hope that she will ask you out.
So I started to research pick-up, mostly on my own, I read very few books, but I was out in the field trying new stuff constantly.
2010 will be my 7th year as a PUA and during the years I have learned a lot and I have a ton of experience, picking up girls feels easy for me now and I gladly share my experience on this forum, I want it to make it easier for you guys than I had it, that's why I post a lot of my knowledge and experience in my "10 questions..." thread linked below.
However, having said this; it is the questions I sometimes get that shock me. Not only on the forum chat but also in real life.
Guys will ask me questions like, "this girl wrote 'hi' on my facebook wall what should I do?" or "does this sweater make me look gay?" or "How do I get a girlfriend?".
Like I just mentioned, I learned pick up the hard way, on my own, trial and error. and from this I learned something very important. If you only do what someone else tells you, you won't learn anything, you won't gain any experience and your personality doesn't evolve, neither does your skills.
So before you turn to books, videos or more experienced guys for your questions, try it out on your own first, it might just be that you knew all along how to handle the situation, and you just felt insecure and needed reassurance.
So instead of trying it out yourself you are just feeding the insecurity part inside your brain and making it stronger, thus becoming more dependent on others.
So I'm telling all of you aspiring PUAs out there; go out and try your own ideas before seeking help from others, books by gurus can be useful to fill up the gaps in your game that you couldn't do yourself.
For example I can recommend David Deangelo's books on becoming a more dominant man, and Vincent DiCarlo's books to make your game more sensible. But I would never follow any of their teachings word by word.
I'm Slywalker, I'm a strong individual, I can figure this shit out for myself!
This is what you need to tell yourself!
Remember that girls come and go, if you screw up on one pick up there will be another possibility soon! _________________ .............
Slywalker
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