Sorry if this is in the wrong forum but it seems relevant to lifestyle...So, I wanted to ask who we are building an attractive lifestyle for...As PUA's.

I've been making gradual changes all around, but the more I turn Alpha, and the more I change my life into being a figure women are attracted too, I repeal everyone else in my life...I have read a little of this in the past, so I wanted some more input...

So, most of the guy friends in my life accept my quest for ass, some applaud me, some laugh, but whatever...The women that I consider friends, co-workers, fellow students, have commented in a negative tone about my new found confidence, it's almost like I have become a threat to them...

I ended up telling my mom about how I was studying attraction and psychology so I was better suited to find a mate (so she can get some grandkids before she dies...), and she fat out called me an immortal sexist. She felt it was wrong for me to go after women, and that I should wait for a woman to come to me...I know thats wrong, but let me continue...

The more I change...my body language, tone, confidence, the more I seem to alienate my existing circle....

Is this to be expected? Is this life? As gambler mentions, should I find a new circle?

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It doesn't sound like your lifestyle is turning people off but you attitude.

For me I started doing yoga right now most of my guy friends either called me gay or seen right through it as an attempt to meet girls. But yoga is excerise which is healthy for you, its also a stress relief and is enjoyable. Now what sounds better me trying to better myself or me going into a class to watch women in tights. Now I am not saying to lie or be deciptive, I am saying building an attractive lifestyle is more than trying to pick up chicks it is to better yourself.

Take anything people suggest as attractive lifestyle on here. Most of them are enjoyable and all of them improve the quality of your life.

here is a post I made that might help explain why people are acting pissed at you.
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Anyone who really cares about you will recognize your are trying to change for the better and to improve your quality of life. Your mom just doesn't understand so help her out.
Tell her the whole truth "I am trying to learn how to better treat people the way that they want to be treated. I want to develop the social skills that will allow me to be well liked by the people around me. I want my life to be something more than it is. Mom, don't you see that I am just trying to be a better man?

This is the fucking truth and how could she still be mad? Pick up is about way more than getting some ass. And really, if she doesn't want you to learn how to attract quality women then she must want ugly grandkids.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

yeah dude, im doing the same thing. partly its old friends thinking if you better yourself they will looes you, but also, alot of people are dicks without realising it. have a look at this new person, yo might not like what you see. i did the same thing and ive upset alot of people in my friendship group. so i guess you gotta find a balance

ask yourself the question, who are you building an attractive lifestyle for?

in reality, you should be building a healthy and enjoyable lifestyle for yourself in order to better yourself, not to get girls.

You should ask them what it is that they don't like, listen and explain. If you cut them off, all it's going to do is lower their opinion of you even more. Your friends and family have probably been around for a long time and I am sure you share many memories and things in common.

Why do you feel the need to find a new circle just so you can fit the pua role? It takes a long time to build a friendship and you want to throw that all away just because you think it will get you pussy?

Women like men who are loyal and stick by their friends and family, not someone who will cut off relationships to be with other people they think will benefit them. If you do it right, there are ways to build your confidence level and skills to find the girl you want without alienating those close to you.

Keep in mind that women are just a part of your life, not ALL of it.

Join the PUA forum...oh by the way, you shouldn't try to PU.

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Cygnus, Very good post...I honestly have not considered that till today...Here is what I felt, at the time, however: I feel like I have no friends, any time anyone contacts me its because they need something done, or want something from me, its never, hey, lets go out and grab a drink...In short, I feel I have no one close to me...

Ya know.....I did something last week that liberated me to the nth degree...I deleted my Facebook...1200 people...I had 3 people comment on my action.

1. The chick that got me into the game, the oneitis I keep struggling with.
2. The asshole backstabber "friend" who fucked the chick I had oneitis for after meeting her at my house party.
3. A business partner who decided to lecture me on how I was turning into a sack of shit, telling stories that were bullshit (In fact, they were true, just not something the old me would do.)

So, I realized that none of those other people care, for all they know I went offline and killed myself. I realize I am awkward, I realize I never fit in anywhere, and I realize I have been self-centered...But, I also feel everyone in my plast circle was holding me down, not helping me become and ajusted person. I just want to be happy in my own skin...

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