Attraction and Attention w/ fellow classmates

czulsk

I'm been going to college and want to draw attention and make some new friends, especially with the ladies. I just want to learn how I can get people say hello to me when I walk past them. Most time recognize people but never have a conversation. I get those feelings that I'm not even friendly. How can I change things around? Need help!!!!!!!

chadbaxter · Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 12:52 am Post subject:

SMILE!

shagrag · Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 12:53 am Post subject:

raise your hand in class? Tell a joke when the you raise your hand.
just be friendly.

czulsk · Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 12:57 am Post subject:

That's the problem. I'm not a joker. How do you fake smile and not look like a fool doing it?

chadbaxter · Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 1:06 am Post subject:

Well, you look a lot more attractive/fun to be around when you smile.

Bedrock · Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 5:25 am Post subject:

So heres what you do. You have to be the friendly one. You say hi to people when you walk by that way they will just think your a friendly and social guy. Raise your hand in class and participate. You need to smile. If you dont smile then some people may just think that your weird and not want to talk to you. People will be more attracted to you if you smile. So when you say hi to someone make sure you smile, also smile when you raise your hand and participate. If you get that feeling that your not friendly, then become friendly. Just make yourself say hi. Usually they will say hi back. Good luck.

Bedrock

Muse · Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 10:20 am Post subject:

Ok! This is a great thread.

This year when I started classes, I was determined to be the AMOG in my General Ed classes and make some new friends...as well as get some girls' numbers... Wink

I could only fit one General Ed class in my schedule this quarter, and my major is very small...somewhere around 60people in total. I'm a junior so I know everyone in my major...plus there are NO girls that are HB7+! Disappointing! So I have to rely on my general education classes where it's a bunch of strangers every quarter.

I set out to be the AMOG in my class, everyone's friend. The funny, intelligent, friendly guy. This goal seemed like it would be tough...but it turned out to be ridiculously easy! Here's how I did it:

First day of class, I just opened the people around me. I made situational comments and talked about how the teacher seems cool..oh this class will be fun compared to others I've taken...blah blah blah fluff talk blah blah. Essentially I just introduced myself to the people around me and made light conversation and used my sense of humor to get them laughing.

So there I had already made 3 new acquaintances by the time our 2 hours were up on the first day! Easy! Down the road...every time I interacted with a new person I followed the same formula, situational openers and situational threads of conversation. Getting involved in class discussions to show I'm no class clown and am actually intelligent(major DHV if you can do it without coming off as arrogant). Smiling and being funny/friendly, and just showing them I'm an all-around fun guy to talk to and spend time with. We're now in week 7, and by week 4 I had met and made friends with every single person in class...and the professor LOVES me! Granted it's only about 30 or so people, but this was a HUGE accomplishment for me!

Now, when I walk into class I have people asking me how my weekend/last night was. I have people saying hi, giving me high fives, telling me jokes, and initiating conversation with me, asking for help with their work...etc. It's like this social proof just builds on itself and the more people see how everyone likes you and wants to be around you... the more they want to be around you too!

As for the HB's... there are 3 in my class that I would call HB8+. One HB7...I'm not really into her, and she has a bf. The rest of the girls are UG's Sad

HBBlonde(8.5 or so), is gorgeous and at first I think she felt intimidated by my presence. I started talking with her and she has a bf... Normally this wouldn't be a problem, but I'm trying to change my ways. No more GF stealing for me, the guilt starts to get to me. Problem is, I tend to be so good at it, it's almost natural for me to want to game girls with bf's. I digress... Anyways, I find now that she is constantly looking in my direction in class(over her shoulder, completely obvious!), smiling and initiating convo... so we'll see if I can still resist running game on her.

HB9(a REALLY hot Asian chick, who happens to be one year below me in my major!) She is so, so fine...just started to really talk to her last class. I have plans for this one...hehehe.

HBBrunette(an 8 ). She's a former Oneitis of two years... Sad I know, but it turned into an interesting situation. I started gaming her after I found out she was in this class with me, and at her Halloween party(which she insisted I come to because her costume was sexy...) I found I could finally have what I obsessed about for so long with ease... And I lost all interest. I guess I was the cat, I got that dangling string and walked away(although SHE was dressed in a cat costume for Halloween and YES it was Sexy as hell).

Wow, kinda went overboard with describing the HB's haha, sorry about that. But "gaming" your entire class, as I've done here, will do wonders for your inner game as well as social proof! After becoming the class AMOG, people just started throwing phone numbers at me. I haven't had to ask for one number yet. My social life has blown up this year already and it's only been 6-7 weeks. Kinda hard to manage actually, with all my work, chicks, and the friends I already have.

As for walking around campus, try to find eye contact and be smiling beforehand. I find the smiling is much easier when you walk with friends because you will find yourself laughing and in a good mood, making it easier to radiate that happiness to other people. This is just what I do, however I find that girls often don't smile back. Oh well, don't let this discourage you. When they DO smile back and make EC, you will feel awesome.

If you recognize someone, call out their name! There's no shame in that. Get their attention if they don't see you, MAKE conversation. If you know them, why not show them you are friendly and are genuinely interested in them? Plus, when you walk across campus and see a ton of people you know...it's great social proof when others see this and associate it with you being "the guy to know".

As far as meeting girls on campus, hang out in the quad/foodcourt area if you've got one. That's where most people spend time in between classes at my school. If you live on campus, it's SO easy to meet people. Walk through your dorm halls and introduce yourself to people, just make light, fun conversation with them. You'll find soon enough you have met plenty of people and are making friends...and girlfriends... It gets easier and easier as you do it.

DAMN, that was a lengthy post. Being a college student as well as a student of the Pick Up Arts, I felt it necessary to help you here. Give it a shot! You might be in the middle or nearing the end of a semester, but it's never too late to start being friendly, fun, exciting, outgoing, and Alpha. Be the AMOG (the pleasant kind of course), make some friends, and get some digits!

I hope this helps you out, and I hope you were able to read it all. Keep us updated on how this is going! Wink

~Muse

nuked · Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 12:46 pm Post subject:

*claps for Muse*

I completely agree. Not being a friendly person labels you as antisocial. Most people in college are intimidated to meet new people. It takes a sociable person to get past this and break the ice. You be that person and the rest will fall into place.

Rapture · Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 8:59 pm Post subject:

This year in HS, I'm taking biology. Thing was, I knew absolutely no one in the class and no one knew me. So first day, I walked in and began social proofing and just being the amog. Worked like a charm, now the teacher can't put me anywhere where someone won't try and talk with me. Just be social. Smile when you walk in, talk to the people around you (when appropriate), and just be a pleasant person. You want people to say hello to you as you walk by? They are probably thinking the same thing about you. So say hello to them. You want to chat? After saying hello, stop and asking them what is going on with them. You are the amog, YOU get what YOU want. YOU do not need to wait for someone to approach you if you want to talk to them. YOU approach them if you want to talk to them.

They are just as scared of you as you are of them.

czulsk · Posted: Sun Nov 11, 2007 12:10 am Post subject:

Where can I find a list of acronyms that PUA uses?

Muse · Posted: Sun Nov 11, 2007 12:26 am Post subject:

GRKiller · Posted: Sun Nov 11, 2007 3:43 am Post subject:

Smile, ask questions, make your pressence known.

Bedrock · Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 10:47 pm Post subject:

Muse, that was awesome. Im going to copy and print that just so I can look at that again. Im definatly going to use this. Perhaps Ill use it tomorrow.

Bedrock

fortunehooks · Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 12:39 am Post subject:

Muse, I concur you absolutely gave this guy the mainframe controls on how to gain social proof and use it to your advantage, very good deal. Man, you can document this stuff, very interesting to read.

DoubleDragon · Posted: Sat Nov 17, 2007 10:36 pm Post subject:

One thing I do when I want my smile to look genuine is I think of something in my head that I really think is funny or makes me laugh.

For example, think of a movie that you think is really hilarious and think of your favorite part that makes you laugh. This should put a big smile on your face and the good thing about this is that it wont look faked because it isn't.

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