Probably the most powerful 'weapon' for being successful with women is what I call 'the success chain reaction'. Some call it 'being on fire'. I'm sure many of you may have noticed that once you have even a small success with a girl, it many times boosts your mood sky high and that in turn gets you more girls and more successes.
There's more to this. It's not only about your mood and confidence that your previous success gave you.
If you're having sexual success with women, something physiological happens to you. It's very subtle but very powerful, and apparently girls can read it, feel it unconsciously, and it affects them strongly. I call it 'the sexual aura'. You're just, on some unconscious communication level, oozing sex. It's not something that you consciously do or even consciously aware of. Nor are the girls. It's a kind of a pheromone like phenomenon, and as such, it has a very strong effect.
I've had crazy shit happening to me that I can't attribute to anything else. One personal example for this was when I had sex with a hot girl on one Friday night. I then took her home and later went to the club by myself at 4am, just for fun. There I just picked up a girl (100% cold approach), took her home and had sex with her as well with literally zero resistance throughout the interaction. I never had such a smooth interaction with a girl ever, all the way to same night sex. She was behaving like 'whatever you say - I'll do'.
A second example was when I once had a dry spell for about 2-3 months. Finally it ended with a great night in bed with a girl I met. For a few weeks after that, every time I went to the clubs I had the hottest girls eyeing me and coming on to me. Time after time. I mean for example, one of the hottest girls in the club just came a stood in front of me when I was dancing. Just stood there and waited for me to grab her. Which I obviously did but that's besides the point
And these kind of girls usually never show interest in me unless I approach them and 'game them'.
After a few similar experiences like this, I started to make the connection. The events seemed too connected to be a coincidence. It's this 'sexual aura' thing, or 'the success chain reaction'.
Now, I truly believe that conveying this kind of sexual aura is something so unconscious that it can't be faked or summoned upon demand. This sexual aura is a sort of a bonus gift you get from nature for having pervious successes.
But it's not reserved for the 'highly successful'. Because your so called previous successes, don't need to be big at all. But they need to be big TO YOU. Meaning, you need to let them affect you big. You need to let yourself rejoice in them. It's as simple as that.
Just strive for the small, easier successes at first. Because these in turn will feed you and empower you, and help you get the bigger ones, if you let them. Just let them affect you. Then it's like you're climbing a success ladder.
In seduction, just try to get something small going first. A smile. A good conversation. A kiss. A makeout. Just get the 'success chain reaction' going. Then it will be easier for you to achieve the bigger successes, and also, the environment will be much more cooperative (as in the examples I described above).
So starting small and feeding on that is a 'goal' you should have when you're out there, in-field. Some PUA's preach postponing your successes so to hone a skill. This is shooting yourself in the foot big time. You can literally bypass most of the need for skill, believe it or not, if you get the success chain reaction going. Because it is then that your natural 'charmer' will come out big time. And girls will just come to you a lot more, be a lot more interested in you, and more open to your advances.
In seduction, there's a reciprocal relationship with the environment. There is much much more than your 'skill' that's involved here. Which makes things much less tangible consciously, but actually much easier to do than you first believed. So in fact, many times, you can know WHAT to do but you can't explain WHY exactly it works. Does the WHY really matter if you can still do it consistently? We're here to get girls, not to explain why we're getting them.
Now. About what you SHOULDN'T do. And this is as important:
You shouldn't downplay even your smallest successes.
You should rejoice in even the smallest success, and you should enjoy everything you DO get in life, or going with a girl, to the fullest, rather than think about what you DIDN'T get or how you're not where you want to be yet.
A lot of guys, especially in the seduction community, tend to, in their head, downplay their successes, and make themselves believe that they achieved little.
The following thought patterns are a good example of downplaying your successes. Some of them seem funny but they are in fact characteristic of many guys:
- "Ok so I kissed this girl. But this is only a first stage. A kiss is nothing. There's so much more to do so to reach "real" success with this girl. In fact I accomplished very little."
- "That girl I had sex with wasn't really as hot as I would like girls I meet to be. I'm not there yet, I'm not there yet. So much more to learn about seduction, what am I doing enjoying the company of these less than super hot girls. I should be spending this precious time reading more ebooks about seduction!"
- "Ok so I had sex with this girl. The reason for that sexual interaction taking place was that I used the LMTU pattern, got her into escalation ladder stage #4B dash 8, defused LMR with the RMK interrupt handler, and then used push-pull to get her buying temperature up exactly 16 minutes into the interaction. This explains why I had sex with her. So in fact it's no big deal. What's to be excited about. It's nothing but the cold science of pickup at work. Actually, if I had used the 'who knows more gay people' routine at the A2.7 stage, I would have probably managed to get the set to bed 6 minutes sooner than I did. So why am I even happy. In fact I totally screwed up the interaction when I now look at it. I'm very far from being a true master of the pickup arts. What a lousy night."
- "Wow, it took me like half an hour to get a makeout with this girl. It was a great great makeout, but half an hour to get it? I'm sure that that pickup guru from that book about the community would have done it in 2 minutes. I'm such a loser."
- "Sure I had sex with this girl right on the first night, but it's only because she liked me from the get go. There was no skill here. I achieved nothing."
- "I can't believe I'm so happy about just kissing this girl. I am still such an AFC. Real pickup artists, players, and naturals, don't get excited about a simple tongue down."
- "Ok so this week I got 2 makeouts, 1 full close and 5 phone numbers. I guess that defines me as an rAFC beta release v1.3. This means I should get at least 5 more makeouts this weekend in order to advance to pre-PUA RC2. Let's not waste time rejoicing about my so called nice performance this week. It's just a stage in my development, nothing more."
- "I don't care about my success, I just care about honing my skills".
The last one would have been right if it was phrased: "I don't care about my FAILURES as long as I hone my skills." About your successes, you should always care. Inhale them and smell the flowers. As I wrote earlier, it will pay off big time. And obviously, it will make you much much happier.
No success is too small to rejoice about.
Don't downplay your successes.
And remember - to achieve higher success, you just climb the success ladder. It starts to be fun right after the first small success, if not before that.
So go have fun!
And once last very important thing to remember - always leave girls better off than they were before you met them.
You can have a short interaction with a girl because you want to 'move on to more interesting girls now', but STILL make her feel very happy about having that interaction with you. It will make things much more fun for you as well.
You can't really enjoy your success with women when you hurt every women you meet or just use her so to 'get to the next stage'. If you do that, you won't radiate that sexual aura, you'll radiate that you're an asshole. And that won't get you far
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