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ThatguY
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 Posted: Fri Jan 26, 2007 11:45 pm Post subject: Approaching |
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It's hard for me to appraoch not because of my self-esteem or nothing i just don't know what to say. Why is it so hard for me to just say something. It's just i don't want to get off on the wrong foot by saying something that's gonna make her roll her eyes. This happens alot when the girl is by herself. Sometimes i even feel that what i want to say is ok but it just won't come out i just don't know why.
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AceSpade
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| Posted: Sat Jan 27, 2007 9:04 am Post subject: Re: Approaching |
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| ThatguY wrote: | It's hard for me to appraoch not because of my self-esteem or nothing i just don't know what to say. Why is it so hard for me to just say something. It's just i don't want to get off on the wrong foot by saying something that's gonna make her roll her eyes. This happens alot when the girl is by herself. Sometimes i even feel that what i want to say is ok but it just won't come out i just don't know why.
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You are not confident with your approach (reherse it a few times). By having this train of though (wrong foot, roll her eyes) you are implementing a self-fullfilling prophecy. Dissassociate yourself from the outcome, just talk, be natural, and speak as if what you have to say is the most important thing in the world. Personally, the first approach for me is difficult but from there it just flows, you just have to break the ice and from there it's a straight shot. What's the worst that could happen? exactly. |
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Impact
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| Posted: Sat Jan 27, 2007 9:11 am Post subject: |
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go to the mall, spray your left wrist with some random perfume, dont smell it, than your other wrist with another perfume.
And get a genuine opinion from a hot HB first before you actually smell it yourself, to see which is better.
Find out from her!
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M
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Hi T.G.,
If it gives you any peace, brother, I used to be the exact same way. I don't think there is an easy answer to that. Like me, you probably were raised that way.
But it is possible to get better. I actually am forever grateful to our forefathers in the Venusian Arts (esp. Mystery) because my intense studies of the Venusian Arts has made my conversational skills as a human being 10x better in my job, life, and love life.
T.G., you gotta start by memorizing some canned threads. If you don't know what these are, read the Venusian Arts Handbook by Mystery. Things will definitely get better from there. Trust me.
Respectfully,
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Slai
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Just open. The outcome doesnt matter. Your goal in the interaction isnt to get mad head from the cheerleading squad and their hot moms, its just to walk up, start a conversation. Thats it!
What you open with isnt as important as the fact THAT you open.
Opening with "you look like a lollipop!" beats NOT opening at all.
Id rather open and fail than never open at all. |
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