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a3ghost
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 Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:33 am Post subject: Approach anxiety and how to keep a conversation? |
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| Okay I still have that beginer's approach anxiety. Any tips on how to get over that? I still can't pass the 3 second rule because I quickly think that what should I talk after my opener? What kind of things would I talk about to a high school girl after using my opener? |
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Ecast18
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| I know how you feel. I still have my AA. Im a freshman in high school, so I'm self conscious. I hate it, but getting into PUA has made me even more self-conscious then I was. Im bad at the 3-second rule also, because i run out of topics to talk about that dont just come out of the blue. |
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ill will
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I'm in the same boat as you guys.. I can sit and think to myself that I can do this, and say this, and I get so hype over it, but when its crunch time it's hard to bring myself to go through with it. I've been reading around the forums, and what I've realized is that you have to just DO IT. Everybody has to overcome this fear. Just put every thought aside and do it, in reality, what is there really to lose? I know guys, I really should take my own advice, but this is all a process that we must be committed to, it's not an overnight thing. I wish you guys luck.
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a3ghost
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thanks!
But yeah I still don't know what to talk about. I feel like the conversation will die out like in 10 seconds.
I'd be like "hey can I get your opinion in something? My friend were talking about blah blah blah " an she would answer. Then I don't know what to as next and then I would say "thanks" and that's it LOL. |
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xxIcexx
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:13 pm Post subject: |
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| Dont go into a conversation with a plan, thats when you fuck up. Whatever openers you use, see how she reacts and what she says, base your next reaction off of that and keep it going. When it dies out refer to something she said, but was not directly related to the subject on hand. If she has one or two word answers and doesnt seem interested, that is her loss. She wants to be anti-social, let her be, dont be affected by it and move on. |
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