villain
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 Posted: Thu Sep 27, 2007 12:55 pm Post subject: Appeasing First Call anxiety - Becoming memorable |
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So you got her number. You feel on top of the world right? You feel success, right? Well... almost. It's just one of the slight aspects of the game, that gets your foot in the door, to creating an intimate relationship. So you wait a couple of days til you call her back... More Importantly, you call them back, DON'T text them, you call them... you did well enough, to get over AA to approach her, and you go for the safe option of Texting her?? Don't be the coward! now, there's differing opinions on how long you should wait til you call her back. Some say wait two days, some say wait three, etc. One thing is for sure, I don't recommend calling her back the next day. This so you don't convey too much interest, and maintain more control of the pace for this interpersonal relationship. She picks up the fone, "hello?"...
"Hi... is this, so & so?" you say...
Of course you're trying to maintain a high level of energy, to show that you aren't nervous, and to communicate that you're confident guy outside of the club, as well as in the club.
"yeah, who's this?"... she may say...
"it's Villain from the club... how are you?" you'll say...
"Oh.... hey.... yeh... I'm good thanks... yourself"... she may say, with some hesitation.
"I'm good... so how did your weekend go"... you'll say... So this question train, continues to chugs along, and you try to continue with it whilst searching for that middle ground, as you once did back in the club. Subliminally the girl may lead you down a series of questions, where she is fishing for information on who you were that night, in that particular club. Especially if you are dealing with a highly attractive woman, who does give out her # quite frequently. You know this particular woman in the club, she's been successfully wooed into giving out her #, by yourself... and other's before you. So how is that you create differentiation between yourself & and Mr. AMOG, Mr.Natural, and Mr.PUA?
Let's back track, Mystery has claimed that most failed day 2's, or LMR's are caused by the early stages of the pick-up (don't quote me on this). You may not have done enough to capture her attention, or embed yourself as a memorable guy from that night, when you first met her. So when you're time bridging, you're basically starting from square one, of the attraction phase once again, but under a different setting. I've found that this has been a downfall of mine in most of my escalating pick-ups. Fighting that memory barrier, and distinguishing yourself from the other guys. I noted an effective tool to over come this barrier, is to create an "in" statement, where it is a dialog only recognizable by the two of you. To define what this is, it's somewhat drawn from the Juggler Method and communication books, and a dash of NLP - Anchoring. An easy way that I do this is by finding something unique about your HB, a unusual freckle, an amazing smile, what ever it is that you can find unique about her. Now make this into a compliment (SOI optional - but more effective if used as SOI), or even a point of reference as to why you may be attracted to the HB. This is generally done during the stages of building comfort & rapport with your target.
In my most recent sarge, I utilized this by way of using an SOI, chucked in with a reward, and an "in" statement. I had asked her what her career is?
"I want to be a nurth(that's nurse, for those of you who don't understand lisps), helping people ith tho rewarding" she said...
I told her that "I admire those who are willing to help others that's an amazing attribute, but what I love about you... is your sexy lisp!". At this point she had gone three shades of red. But I meant this, I didn't laugh. I didn't want this to come across as back handed. I just looked at her, her colour being removed from her face, and she asked "really?"... I just nodded... On came the puppy dog look. K-closed and # Closed. So returning to time bridging...My rule on calling back is I wait two days then call. So, say I picked her up Saturday night, I would wait until tuesday night to call back. So this is how the recent conversation went, on this particular sarge went:
Her: Hello? (said with a little doubt)
Villain: Hey! I just rang to hear that sexy lisp of yours...
Her: Omg... Sthutup...
Villain: Are you going red again?
Her: Villain, what do you think?
*** without prompting her, she remember's my name ***
The conversation continues as if we were old friends, and the first call awkwardness is gone. Thankfully I haven't given this girl a complex about that lisp. I have a day 2 coming up after the weekend with her shortly... so look out for the FR. Now please tweak this to suit your style, your sense of humour, and what you may think will separate you from the rest...
Happy hunting... |
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