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Imran
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 Posted: Thu Oct 29, 2009 2:32 pm Post subject: Anyone alone without friends here? but successful with women |
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| Hi just wondering if anyone else is alone and doesn't have many friends but become successful at picking up women? am new ehre and been quite socially challenged for ages now but am trying to break out of it. |
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waewae
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| Posted: Thu Oct 29, 2009 3:21 pm Post subject: |
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Well, this society will teach you to become more social indeed. This isnt all about pick-up, its also about getting a better life! 
If you got no friends:
1. Spend more time around people..
-Join a club
-Go out
-Start a hobby
2. Talk with people.
-Eye contact + Smile
-Start conversation with simple things like whats up
3. Introduce yourself.
4. Initiate a meeting.
-Ask to come for a coffee, lunch or whatever
5. Dont pressure the person too much, in other words dont think about this too much.
6. Be a good friend, dont do anything you dont want your friend to do to you.
7. Chooce your friends wisely, you know what I mean
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Tom_"Maybe"
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| Posted: Thu Oct 29, 2009 4:08 pm Post subject: |
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I've struggled making guy friends for a long time in my life. I have one real close guy friend and our relationship is great, and I've got multiple, what I like to call, "clingers", because we're here one day, then gone the next. But there are ways to make more friends. Game works on both guys and girls, it's just usually much easier to talk to guys in bars then women.
I've even gone so far as to doing the "Fight Club" solution to meet new people. That is to go to different meetings like Alcoholics Anonymous, or if you're looking for a really easy lay, go to the SAA (sex addicts anonymous) meetings. But most of the time there is only one 8-10 chick in there. It's usually men and really rugged women in those groups. But sometimes you get a pleasant surprise.
All this might work, but regardless...most guys see you in the club interacting with women successfully and they begin to get negative thoughts in their minds about you. So be selective about the men you talk to. |
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Imran
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| Posted: Thu Oct 29, 2009 5:35 pm Post subject: |
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thing is i had really good friends at school but once i hit 18 things changed and lost them all no idea why (am 20 now) anyway am going to take what you guys have said on board
can you recommend any good places to meet women otehr than bars/clubs as its so weird going to them alone. SAA sounds interesting didn't know there were such placeslol going to have a look if we have a place local to me. |
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Aquila
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| Posted: Thu Oct 29, 2009 5:48 pm Post subject: |
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| If you go to college/Uni I strongly suggest joining a fraternity (social or one pertaining to your major). It's really not as difficult as people make it out to be. I've been in one for 3 years now and my confidence with talking to people in general has greatly increased. |
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Imran
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| Posted: Thu Oct 29, 2009 6:05 pm Post subject: |
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| am at uni yep but i live at home so am missing out on a lot. and most clubs and things its too late to join this year. |
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Turn Up the Night
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| Posted: Thu Oct 29, 2009 7:55 pm Post subject: |
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| England isn't really a frat country, thats more US culture, not really something that we do here as far as I know. But I'd have thought you can still join a society. |
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Sexton Hardcastle
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I'm in the exact same situation. My friends just dropped off when we got to Uni and they got new friends and don't want to know me, but at my Uni most of the people only are friends with their school friends from outside Uni. Plus, people only show for their lectures and then go home, so there's little opportunity to chat. There are no fraternities or clubs as this is an American thing.
Makes it DAMN hard to do anything or gain any social proof. I'm finishing up Uni for the year so i'm faced with the prospect of not meeting or speaking to anybody or going outside the house for about 3 months (which has happened many times before).
I can't go to clubs alone; I've tried and the bouncers just sling me out (I don't even drink so I'm sure it's because i'm alone).
I can talk to people fine, but It seems no-one has the desire to actually make anything out of it; it seems they have their friends, and i'm supposed to have mine and that's that.
*sigh* things just suck sometimes. I look forward to seeing your suggestions as it would be very helpful to me as well. |
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Imran
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| Sexton Hardcastle wrote: | I'm in the exact same situation. My friends just dropped off when we got to Uni and they got new friends and don't want to know me, but at my Uni most of the people only are friends with their school friends from outside Uni. Plus, people only show for their lectures and then go home, so there's little opportunity to chat. There are no fraternities or clubs as this is an American thing.
Makes it DAMN hard to do anything or gain any social proof. I'm finishing up Uni for the year so i'm faced with the prospect of not meeting or speaking to anybody or going outside the house for about 3 months (which has happened many times before).
I can't go to clubs alone; I've tried and the bouncers just sling me out (I don't even drink so I'm sure it's because i'm alone).
I can talk to people fine, but It seems no-one has the desire to actually make anything out of it; it seems they have their friends, and i'm supposed to have mine and that's that.
*sigh* things just suck sometimes. I look forward to seeing your suggestions as it would be very helpful to me as well. |
am in the same kind of uni as you. most people are friends with people from school and the others from people from there own country. I hav 2 more years left too :S am considering taking a year out and living in another country if its possible. When am with some people i know and out of the city i live in i can be quite social. just gota find a way to change things here not giving up tho |
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waewae
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Places where to go meet friends = Anywhere
I have met half of my friends / buddies at parties. Its a chain reaction, when you make one friend, he/she will introduce you to next and so on.
Go to gym or anywhere, meet someone that looks like his mentality is ok (no psycho) and go talk to him. Its not hard. |
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Jav
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 2:01 pm Post subject: |
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If a woman wants sex, she'll get it. She doesn't care if you have friends or not.
We're talking club scenario here. |
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