So basically you typed all of that to say:
I Like girl, girl likes me.
We have a lot in common.
Yeah, pretty much sums that up! I type extremely fast which means if I am not keeping myself in check I can get carried away. I can't remember who sent the first email that was long, but they just kept getting gradually longer as we have been communicating over a month or so by now.
But yeah, I am not interested in a BFF situation with her. I do go sexual every email at some point and neg her etc. I am just that way naturally so it is not something I have to consciously remember to do.
So as an update — she sends me an email last week basically saying if I am as spontaneous as I claim, that I should meet her somewhere halfway and we can hang out etc. So, being that would be more than a half-day drive I had to say back to her "Well, I've never driven 6hrs to go on a DATE before!" and shot her down because I already had plans for the weekend (involving some pussy, so I was covered LMFAO but failed to mention that part of course)...
BUT — I used the opportunity to make a compromise offer — and since we are both mountain bikers, I found a national forest halfway between that otherwise, neither of us would ever visit. She wants to find a weekend now to meet and as long as there is no "friend zone" drama — that should be one hell of a weekend!
I also said "I'm not driving halfway across the country to meet a girl who's phone number I don't even have yet. For all I know you could have a man's voice!"
So we exchanged digits — not that we shouldn't have already but since this is just some girl who will not be back in my neck of the woods until the end of this summer when school starts back up, I really am in no hurry to escalate things.
No need to be getting into 4 hour long phone calls (which I could see happening with this one) that far in advance.
She sent me a really long email this weekend, and I replied with another long one today. We have plenty to talk about so it does not feel un-natural to converse with her in such a way. We have very good rapport in that respect.
One good thing so far is that she seems to like the fact that I am not all needy like most of the guys she has dated. She has a very good guy friend who she is living with over the summer who she races with etc. (think figure skating partners) but is just friends with (said she never slept with him anyway, and frankly I don't care if she has).
She said that most guys get really pissed about her friendship with him, but I just told her about a good friend of mine who is a girl who I HAVE slept with on occasion, but won't do again (for real) — and that definitely made me come across as having enough going on in life that I don't need to "keep tabs" on some girl I am dating. I do go camping still with this girl friend of mine, but we never screw around anymore. Things got too weird for us when we had so we quit it.
I have nothing invested other than some lengthy emails in my early morning hours at a job I can't stand — I keep making fun of her about how I am getting PAID for my part of the book we are co-authoring and that she needs a better agent to represent her since she is doing her part for free.
I have nothing on the outcome either. I truly don't care how it works out — but it is fun having met someone in such an odd manner who does seem to have the potential to really ring my bell should things take off after she moves back up here and I don't somehow end up getting sacked in the friend zone!