Always getting burned..

n0ah · Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 5:06 pm Post subject: Always getting burned..

I just finished the game.. I just found my way to this forum, I just found a big intrest in gameing etc. I just realized somthing... i have always been kind off an PUA. The things U guys are teaching iv always done. neging and cooky humor comes natural for me.. And i always make a fucking good first impression, Im always the social center in a groop when we are out, i have no truble picking up hot chicks... But heres my problem... I have truble keeping them.. they tend to realize that "hey maby hi´s not that fun, not that smart, not that itresting. As i first thought". and then as i always tend to fall for the girl im dating. il get burned, over and over..

It seems like every time a girl realy get to know me, she backs away..

Is me making a to good first impresssion, digging my own grave in turms off getting in to a long term relationship...?

THE JOKER · Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 7:46 pm Post subject:

try to sell the package by parts and dont thorw it all away at the first encounter... conquer its a matter of steps...do it steo by step and don t be so "here i come" cause girls lose interest pretty fast if youre so evident... keep the mystery... girls imagination is the mnost powerfull weapon we have at hand...

Dex · Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 8:09 pm Post subject:

Maybe you're just an asshole and it takes girls a little while to realise that once they go beyond the cockiness and the jokes that there's little else to you.

No, that's a little harsh.. so here, I'll be helpful.

We were actually talking about this very topic in our Lair today.. the thread was titled something like "Why Game kills relationships"

The theory is that most newbies go out and do all the routines, push-pull, negs, etc. and they get to the point where they don't need to rely on all this stuff. Before they know it, they're in a relationship and in love and they think "Shit.. I have to up my game on her, or else she's going to cheat on me".

At this point you become a weird creepo and forget about just being a normal person and developing a normal relationship.

Think about this.. a neg is designed to bring a girl down off her mental pedestal and bring her to your level. Now that's cool when she's flouncing around the club posing, but not when you're dating her - you'll make her constantly feel like shit.

Push pull? Why the fuck would you push your girlfriend away?

You say you're always the center of attention in the bar. Does that mean you always want to be the center of attention everywhere you go? When does she get her moment in the spotlight?

etc.

Now some of this might not apply to you and I'm sure you don't expect me to analyse you completely in the 3 paragraphs you wrote, but take it onboard and apply it to your situation.

Even Style said about Lisa - she liked him as a person, but she never would have got to know him if he hadn't run game on her.

So once you've "won" the girl over, be yourself. Just don't be a chump.

- Dex

THE JOKER · Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 8:14 pm Post subject:

nice talking dex
we share the same opinion...i was a bit more relaxed haha

he's reached the point: dont be a chump... or you can easily turn into an AFC

n0ah · Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 8:32 pm Post subject:

thx 4 ur help guys !
Im rly not an ass.. Very Happy

I think why girls tend to lose intrest in me, is cus im a normal fucking mr, niceguy..
Il have to work on keepin the mystery i guess.. but its fucking hard.only got so many tricks up my sleve..

n0ah · Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 8:39 pm Post subject:

Or maby, im just bad in the sack... ><

(had to drop it be4 somone els did..)

THE JOKER · Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 8:40 pm Post subject:

if youre needed of advice...ssend a private msg...
thats all i can do for you

Joker

Chikito · Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 8:45 pm Post subject:

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Dex · Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 7:07 am Post subject:

Romeo7 · Posted: Wed Aug 08, 2007 1:17 am Post subject:

Let me tell you one thing

If you were to meet someone, let's say a guy who is the funniest and coolest and most unpredictable there can be... You would think "WOW, this guy is my new best friend"

But as you guys start hanging out more often, he starts getting boring and you guys do the same things every day, he doesn't bring any emotion into your life again... nothing, nada

And what you never thought would happen, HAPPENS, you get bored of him, and he starts to get a little annoying to hang out with, and you eventually want him to dissapear from your life,

Sounds familiar?

Dude, if she/they liked the way you were when they met you and all the way 'till you started the relationship, then STAY that way THROUGHOUT the relationship

I've fucked many many relationships in my life, and that's because once I got into one I forgot everything about my principles, but I learned, so should you, I'm just giving you a shortcut to Happiness in relationships.

Stay confident bro, a relationship doesn't mean she owns you or you own her.

Here are a couple of things to watch out for:

- Don't lose contact with friends
Most guys get TOO INTO their girlfriends and boom, forget about their friends, DONT DO THIS

- Stay on the phone with her ALL DAY
You have things to do, don't ruin them

- Letting her make the decisions
You're the man, make her feel safe, be decisive

- Don't change your habits for her
Unless you're talking about drugs or alcohol, you should control that for your own well being.

- Don't let her affect your emotions
If her actions make your throat choke and your tears come out and she KNOWS it, then has you by the balls, and eventually will become bored

A couple of fights are good every now and then, they help somehow to keep the relationship alive

There you go, now apply it!

neogamer · Posted: Mon Aug 13, 2007 2:27 am Post subject:

The game gets you in, the rest is reality. Women like to be amused/aroused and neg'd, and that's our in. But what happens on day 34 and day 340 of the relationship depends on who you are, your attitude and hers.

Women love a little vulnerability in a man. It brings out all their maternal instincts. Sometimes a wounded male is a nice game to play. Remember the Seinfeld where George discovers the best possible game with women was to say he was a widower?

Being the alpha male works most of the time if you can pull it off, and gets you the phone numbers and maybe the f-close. And sometimes thats enough. But other times practice NOT gaming a nice girl and just be yourself. Sometimes, they'll game you!

BTW I was married 20 years to an alpha female, and, i mixed in alpha and beta male to keep things interesting. Ultimately we couldn't stand each other, but, after 20 years, and 2 kids, we gave it a good go.

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