also new girl

edible · Posted: Thu Aug 23, 2007 9:44 pm Post subject: also new girl

Hello! I think this is amazing. I have known about The Game for the past several years. I am here to actually meet guys I haven't figured out what to say as an opener and I feel nervous when I meet cute guys because I lack some self esteem, so I know I need to work on that too. I am the pretty girl next door type, cute but not hot. I have always felt I wasn't as pretty as the next girl so why would he want me. I have decided to put that attitude aside and go for it! I am excited to adapt these techniques to meet guys. I have several guy friends who are actively PUA's and its working well for them.

Girls, please let's keep in touch and share tips and tricks Smile

Wish me luck.. Mocha I have heard about you, I'd really like your input.

I am 32. Living in Virginia.

Red1975 · Posted: Thu Aug 23, 2007 10:07 pm Post subject:

Hey edible
Another girl here...31...in London. Welcome and nice to see you!
I can see it would be cool to adapt the skills the boys have, but also, I think the point is that they tend to feel that we don't NEED help picking up men, being women, we get pursued by them and they want to make their skills better than the next guy. I'm not saying we should just sit back and get pursued, not at all...but alot of men seem to prefer girls who are not on the 'hunt'...a girl has to be very cool coming onto a guy that she doesn't look desperate and too eager, even when playing super cool games, don't you think? Actually, the more I write, the more it seems applicable to either gender on the pull!

But if you can make it work for you, go for it and let me know how it goes! I think women already peacock and use their own games to win a guy over lol Very Happy

I bet you're gorgeous and don't need help picking up any guy.
xx

edible · Posted: Thu Aug 23, 2007 10:16 pm Post subject:

Yes we do peacock.. I do for sure, but I am looking for a more demure skilled approach, like a deer sitting in the woods, with the ever watchful lion, the deer doesn't know he's being hunted until its too late Smile

I want to be the deer and the lion..

Red1975 · Posted: Thu Aug 23, 2007 10:23 pm Post subject:

I think a girl needs to be confident in who she is and how good she looks and then she oozes sex appeal! So many girls are not actually like that really, the ones who are shine out.

Smiling and looking like you are having fun, without being the crazy drunk exhibionist flashing your bra or pants is good...even though guys love to see bras and pants/boobs etc, most guys will want a touch of class I imagine...well, anyone out age or older usually does! lol

Eyes always seem to get complimented so I say it's eye contact without staring like a crazy nut job...just long enough to show interest, then looking away...

Game wise...I just say play a little hard to get, this is all actually what the male PUAs do too, so really...the game is very similar both ways...the more I write and have responded to guys on here and now you...the more I see it is same for both genders...

Anything that comes across as needy, desperate, sad, pathetic, crazy is not good! Anything that shows confidence, classiness, sexiness, coolness in own skin is good...simple but true!
lol
x

jbs10 · Posted: Thu Aug 23, 2007 10:28 pm Post subject:

Confidence and intelligence are number one and two in my book.

Red1975 · Posted: Thu Aug 23, 2007 10:39 pm Post subject:

I like it.

Nice feedback.
x

duck · Posted: Fri Aug 24, 2007 6:21 pm Post subject:

30 year old male from the upper midwest. I like a woman who is "on the hunt" why should you have to hide that?

While women can sit back and wait - the ones that go out and pursue are VASTLY more interesting as they tend to have a better idea of who they are and what they want.

I have been asked out and that always raises the intrigue factor - (except the last one was a lesbian and told me she was wondering what straight sex was like - maybe at best a 3 so WARPIG)

Glad to see some ladies becoming more involved in the chase!

Good luck.

negsta · Posted: Fri Aug 24, 2007 6:55 pm Post subject:

A hint-
Guys love being opened, it shows confidence in a girl, even a hello will often work.
And if he's boring, get him to buy you a drink, say thanks and walk off.
You'll be teaching AFCs an important lesson about bein' suckered.

Mech · Posted: Fri Aug 24, 2007 8:15 pm Post subject:

edible · Posted: Fri Aug 24, 2007 9:51 pm Post subject:

ok I will any tips on opening??

See my new post under openers "please reply".

I have often gone up to guys introduced myself bought him a drink and opened discussion, I think it threw him so off guard he was shy and I walked away wasnt sure if it was lack of interest or just shy.. May never know but I am going to keep trying..

Red1975 · Posted: Fri Aug 24, 2007 10:45 pm Post subject:

Ok, sorry, am losing it here and come home from a night out, a little tipsy Smile

Are we now saying that a girl should open, it shows more confidence and is all good? OK, that is true, yes, a girl who approches a guy, kudos to her...but I thought this was about male PUAs?! Wink

So...we know that a guy loves a girl to be confident, no big secret there...but isn't it giving a guy everything he wants; to be nice, buy him a drink, then wait for him to blow you out or do the work on his behalf...blimey, we're moving away from PUAs and saying, girls...do the work first!?? lol

I am being unfair though, of course, the guy may appreciate it and not blow you out..but yes, a girl with confidence is all good...as is a guy. But don't go looking like you're you're on the pull girls..it is not the same, at least, not here in the UK...guys like that for a NIGHT! But if it comes to anything more...from what I have seen and know, guys like to still be the ones pursuing...
Girls still have to be a cool kitty! Very Happy

I wil regret this posting because now I sound like men have to chase...and I don't REALLY think that lol...just a generalisation...and an alcohol infused one at that!
Ultimately I think boys and girls both need to make efforts, but sorry, I still know that girls who come on strong get knocked back and guys get put off...guys GENERALLY seem to want to be in control (even if the girl is really the one in control!) lmao ...too drunk, will no doubt get shouted at...lol

xxx

Evoke · Posted: Tue Aug 28, 2007 10:39 pm Post subject:

Edible,
I think you have to look at the guy you have your eye on and decide whether he is the strong/aggressive type or the shy/timid type and work from there.
If it's the strong/aggressive type, then you can't go in all strong. You'll have to bait him and influence him to pursue...make it seem like he's doing the work.
It's the opossite for the shy/timid. I think it would be OK to buy him a drink and really show him you're attracted to him. Just don't overdo it until he is comfortable with you.
For me personally, I don't mind either way. As long as I'm attracted to the girl, either physically or mentally, I don't mind if they approach me or vise-versa.
And confidence, intelligence and especially self respect always show high value for me.

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