As we've discussed before, negging online on myspace doesn't work too well because it doesn't come off right...

But I found one from a list that walks that fine line, been using it, and it works a lot.

Step 1: sending a bunch of friend requests to the girls
in your 5 mile area.

Step 2: if your profile game is tight a decent ammount will accept. Ignore the "do I know you?" ones. (side note: usually I say I met them at the pool party last summer and then when I'm caught lying I say, well can you blame for trying, but anyway)

Step 3: I look on their photos and find a pic that is either one without make up or one that catches them in a more human, less super hot angle. I photo comment with: You remind me of my weird ex.

Step 4: at the same time, I send a private message that looks simple but elegant like: Greetings, I'm [name] by the way. What do you go by? Regards, [name]

Step 5: when they respond with lol I'm so and so. So I remind you of your ex? Is that good or bad? Or that's definately not a compliment. I say "don't get me wrong she was a nice a sweet girl and everything. But was lousy in bed. Not goin throught that again. So what do you do in this Arizona heat? I live over here by [cross streets] (assuming they live super close within those five miles) etc etc.

There it is. Works smoother than it seems.

Try this and let me know if it went good or not thanks guys.

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I never really "grew up" ....I just learned how to act in public.

Negging online very rarely works. It does not matter what site your on.

I agree. I lately saw a cute blonde girls' photo on her page and her hands were visible. I had messeged her already, but I commented with something like blah blah blah your hands, what size glove do you wear? She responded with a public comment back: "I know I have long fingers thanks for pointing that out!" I later checked back and she got so self conscious, that she deleted that picture! (She looked like a typical white blonde chick, but she was Samoan? Lol, she's small... but not her Hands I guess.) Anyway, long story short, I later negged her with the same line from above: "you remind me of my weird ex." She then responded with: "ummmm I'm sure that's so not a compliment. Your really know how to hurt a complete strangers feelings." (Still though, you had to be there, it came off playful). This specific story happens to have a good ending because she ended up asking me to do something that same weekend. (Nope, too busy ).

But the main point is that it could have gone either way and it was dangerous. Like you said, negging rarely works consistently and since we are going for efficiency, our approaches should work a high percentage of the time.

I'm glad you brought that critique up because I wanted to highlight why I feel "you remind me of my weird ex" is not just your typical neg and is soft enough to not offend anyone. First, in the myspace format you have to have a reason for even "finding them." So if you supposedly suddenly see a girl that reminds you of an ex, that is theoreticaly reason enough to browse their profile. So this neg provides a reason why you randomly added her. It's based on what she cares about: her pictures of her self.

Next it also implys that you have been socially proven to have a GF before. It also implys that if she looks like a girl you dated, you would have potential with her because she is "your type." It also gives you all the benefits of the typical neg theory, which we know works oh-so-well. But the neg is soft. It's not a real neg. It was the ex who was weird, not her. It's enough of almost-an-insult to create that intrigue and shield destroying, but technically there is nothing to be mad about. It's just an interesting fact from you.

Then later, when you say the line: "She was lousy in bed. Not going through that again..." you change subject, and it explained why she was weird. Comes full circle.

Then now she can prove why she is better than your ex (since all girls believe they are great in bed and can hook any guy once they feel the vagina) so from that point number closing is only one or two messages away. (depending on your profile)

It's also softened by the contrast of step3 where you message her elegantly introducing yourself politely and opening up a respectful/intelligently written dialogue. She will get both the neg and the nice conversation invitation at the same time when she checks her profile.

I find this is a neg that walks that fine line and fits neatly into all kinds of pieces of the puzzle. It gives you all the powerful benefits of negging, without risking misinterpretation. It has been working well for me. One of the girls I number closed booty texted me last night and everything. That's why I'm confident about it. I like it.

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I never really "grew up" ....I just learned how to act in public.

As I said before negging on line very rarely works. It does not matter how soft the neg is, a neg is a neg. You can try and qualify the use of this neg all you want, but in the end it has a low chance of working.

Did you read my response? First of all who are you? And what makes you feel entitled to be rude. I know you realize you are coming off like a dick. You give no specific argument or reasoning to what I outlined. A girl would have to be retarted to take that the wrong way. My proof is there because I just scored a lay yesterday from a girl who I opened with that exact approach.

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I never really "grew up" ....I just learned how to act in public.

I didn't mean to come off as rude and/or a dick. I did read your reply. As I said negging rarely works online. I never said it never works. As far as countering your argument (I didn't realized we where debating) goes, a neg is a neg at the end of the day. It does not matter how you repackage it and sell it. Ya you where able to soften the blow of your neg, but that does not mean it will always work like planed.

Also I am not saying your neg doesn't work, but be honest how many times have you tried it and it has worked for you? We know it work once for you, but how many tried did it take you to get that lay?

hm, i use negs online and it works for me. i dont know why. case in point, i got a message just a minute ago:

Her: hey, i was loking through your pics, and you look both familiar, and cute.
me: ha, you looked through my pictures? youre a creeper :] whats up?
her: nothing nothing. just chilling and shit. haha, im not a creeper, trust me!

Negging works for me online.
I'd go to her pics and say " Nice shirt, It would look better on ___ (color) .. those guys at the back can't keep off the camera"
A girl actually responded to me
"So you like the shirt? ehehe. I got a new haircut that day"
So clearly she wanted me to compliment it.
It also depends a lot on the way you're saying it.
If you say
"Your hair looks so shiny, is it a wig?" it comes off really lame ...
But if you add a little energy to that. Like:
"Hey! Your hair look shiny!! Is it a wig ?!! " Don't forget the smiley, its the only way they can "feel" your smiling.
Last night I did the "Ex Husband Opener"
Followed with how I thought her profile pic was weird ...
She responded obviously trying to defend her pic, and then she asked me about me.
I said "You first tell me about you, punk "
Then she spilled her whole life story ...
And at the end it says
"I'm only telling you this cuz I liked you" ...
So, try to use smilies, its the only way they can know you're joking.

I agree. I often neg online with success by using a simple wink

Negging certainly can work online, however this method has its hollow points, you basically told the girl she reminds you of someone who wasn't worth your time she is probably going to take that as a red flag and walk, and then you quickly pull out the bed comment and where you live so if you do land her you have a slutty girl, congratulations you now have aids. Step up your game and go for some better girls. I wouldn't pull this method but thats just me.

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Dr. Highlander

I dunno if negging works, but using after a sentence may do the trick so she knows you're joking.

Also gentle humour seems to have worked best for me. For example one girl I was gaming online was talking about dyeing her hair with vanilla colour highlights, so I just started asking if her hair tasted of vanilla too and asking if it was good enough to eat etc. She loved it.

Its not really negging. I think teasing can work but I think online it needs to be kind of gentle.

Agreed. I think this is lame, no offense to Raydar.

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Well it may seem lame to you, but different things work for different people. Maybe this guy lives around a lot of decent women, and he screens them based on their profile content. Maybe the girls where he lives respond better to online game. I've always had this little theory that women who live in less urban, more isolated areas would be more receptive to online game because it's like role playing and therefore more exciting than their actual lives. I personally don't use online game, but I also realize I have no right to put something down that I haven't tried myself.