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3>aceofspade</3
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 Posted: Sun Jan 13, 2008 6:21 pm Post subject: a bit of a dillema for me advice needed |
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| hey guys a got a question,its been boderin me for a while now,ok so im your typical courteous person if someone asked me to do a favour for them i would without hesitation weras to clean the car for my mom or go get a drink in the shop for my bro,friends too but sometimes i feel like their errand boy ha realy i noticed especialy with the females in my social circle it seems like its expected of me to do things for them ie hold their handbag,hold their cup of coffee mind their wallet simple stuff like that,the way theyd say it aswell it would be in in an authoritative tone,ok so im not saying their all like that but its the majority just 2day i confronted one of them about it and the answer i got back from her was that she didnt evan realize she was doin it ,and was i not just bein a bit paranoid then she made up some excuse that to me was a load of bullcrap,anyway the question Im askin is how will i deal with this in a way that doesnt make me look like an assehole i dont know am i just bein paranoid or are they taken advantage of me ye i have to admit id evan offer to do things without evan thinkin bout it then id be like thinkin why did i say that i know its supplication and its total afc behaviour but i dont know its like its in built in 2 my personility nyway id be grateful if someone could help me with this |
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The Wild One
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| Posted: Sun Jan 13, 2008 6:36 pm Post subject: |
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| The problem here is clear. I've been like this in the past. I was the guy that treated people with respect and went out of my way for "my friends". The fact is some people out their haven't earned the right to be considered your friend. I'm the type of person that requires a person to treat me with the same respect I treat them. The fact is I do for you and you don't do for me, or try to take advantage of my kindness we won't be friends for very long. I surround myself with good people that don't take advantage of me. It doesn't matter if your a guy or a girl. You give respect to get respect. Don't be a push over man, and don't play the fool. If people are using you then stop hanging with them. Find some better friends, and let them find some other fool to be with. Obviously your to good for these people. I only hang out with good people I don't surround myself with losers, and users. So if you want to be living the good life I suggest you do the same. Don't get mad, don't waste your time, and just find some better people to hang with. I would suggest starting with a few new wings that have similar interests in the pick-up arts. |
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