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Hi Zip,
can you please give me a little help to give me more confidence. I go out sometimes and just hang around at the bar, in this state of paralysis, thinking to myself "you asshole, go over and get blown out but do somethiing, anything!!!"
And then I blow myself out ten times more than the babes do, by simply having the negative expectation that says,
"Jesus, that hot babe over there is just SO OUT OF MY REACH, why even bother going over, saying hi, and then getting non responsive or negligible response or a nasty response/
How do I increase my confidence in myself so that I go over to the woman in positive frame and enjoy the experience and not go into cardicac arrest

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Muchas gracias

Obviously, I'm going to say INNER GAME INNER GAME INNER GAME! There are plenty of resources out there to help you NLP yourself and get in state. Replacing self-limiting beliefs with new positive beliefs, bla bla bla.
In the meantime... next time you're at the bar and you see a woman you are attracted to and want to approach but are getting some anxiety....
Pick out 4 thinks that turn you OFF about her. Maybe her hair is a little too stringy, maybe her eyes are the slightest bit crooked, maybe she's got a birthmark on her arm...
Pick out four things, realize she's JUST A PERSON and GO APPROACH!