Daniel, keep it up. The main let emotions more girls.

Quick Update.

Just a very small update on my latest actions.

New hobby.
I've finally bought a guitar. I'm slowly learning the basics thanks to the material I find on the Internet. I actually enjoy learning. Let's see if I can become good at it in the end. I would feel really good about being good (even average actually) at something like this.

Warming up.
As written before, I'm going to a party tonight to celebrate some friends' birthday. I wanna show my best self. This means I need to prepare correctly. I'm going out this afternoon to buy some stuff. I'll warm socially while at the mall. Speak to strangers, ask questions and what's not. It will help me build momentum. As soon as I get back home, I'll prepare the night by writing a plan of actions.

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Hey man, just a quick tip from an experienced guitarist. Learning off the internet is much harder and it is unlikely to provide you with a good base. I would really recommend getting some guitar lessons if you can afford them, they are reasonable cheap. If you start learning the correct way, it will be much easier, quicker and you won't have time to learn any bad habits, which you will HAVE TO un-learn later. Trust me on this man, even if it is just a few lessons like about 8, it will help loads at the start.

The internet is a great resource for guitar after you have a little ability, and some of the best guitarists have been complete self taught but these are exceptions to the rule. Randy Rhodes, Ozzy Osbourne's guitarist (for a while) used to get guitar lessons from the best teachers in every city he visited, and he was already amazing. And try to get a good teacher, not a boring grade based one (it really kills the enjoyment of guitar).


Good luck, learning the guitar is a rewarding and challenging experience, and girls love it! Whenever a girl is in my room without fail, when they see my guitar, they will ask me to play them something, and even ask me to sing (which i can't and i don't lol).

@SUB ZERO J010.

Thanks for the advice! I will indeed pay for some lessons as soon as I get a regular job. I'm not expecting to be Jimi Endrix soon, but I want to get at least average at it, and being able to play an entire song! That would already be a great improvement for me.

I'll use some legit videos I've found on the Internet to get comfortable with the guitar and then take some classes.
Indeed. :p I think being able to sing in addition to playing guitar would get you to a 100% ratio... haha

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DAY 81: going to a birthday party.
Nothing to see here.

Context.
I've not been moving forward in a long time... Even if I see my friends now and then, I do spend most of my time by myself. Yes, it allows me to take care of myself, but it's not particularly a good thing when it comes to the Game. Tonight is the opportunity to get back on tracks.

Goals.
- Have fun.
- Show confidence.
- Be the life of the party.
- Focus on eye-contact and KINO.
- Warm-up.

Strategy.
- Have fun: feeling free to do/say whatever I want, joke around, smile...
- Show confidence: take the lead, eye-contact, KINO... read old field report from my journal, focus on the first 30 minutes, read my notes from Stormy's thread,
- Be the life of the party: open, speak to people, have fun...
- Focus on eye-contact and KINO: look in the eyes when I speak... use KINO gambit.
- Warm-up: warm up in the first 30 minutes, get social interactions.
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Summary (for lazy people): it went okay... I quickly got bored though. There was not a single potential target.

The party.
It took me 2 hours to get there. I wanted to have fun, forget a bit about the whole situation. I knew most of the people there. The were a lot of girls... but no potential target at all... Even though I enjoyed seeing my friends again, I quickly got bored. The main subject of conversation was work. So what do you do now? Look at my new watch, blah blah blah. I tried to change the subject but it came back every time. I took several glasses of Martini to make myself at ease but the party was still pretty boring. I focused a lot on eye-contact, even on KINO but I was certainly not the life of the party. I was bored and tired. I managed to seed another event with my friends though.

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On the strategy.
- Have fun: it was nice to see my friends... but that's pretty much it.
- Show confidence: I think I look confident as soon as I was not getting bored... so I didn't look confident too long...
- Focus on eye-contact and KINO: I did good eye-contact, even some KINO but since there was no target at all...
- Warm-up: I couldn't warm up properly.

On the game.
- I need to push it more, I'm tired of thinking "why didn't I do that?" afterwards
- I'm on my own here. If I want to change my lifestyle, I need to meet people, especially women. I'm tired of going to parties like this.
- I have to stop giving a single shit about what people think about me

Coming next.
- Restaurant with my friends.
- NYE at a friend's party (will be full of girls I don't know)


I got bored pretty quickly.

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Hi Daniel,

Long time no speak, I love reading your entries but you seem to be slowing down a lot.

What happened to the old times... pick-up at bus-stops and in the town centre.

I want to hear to you getting back to this, because I want to get motivated to do the same! It's cold out there, because it is closer to Christmas but these are just excuses!

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Guitar is great Daniel.

how do you know when someone is guitarist the moment you first meet them?




They tell you.

DAY 82: going out, number closing and kiss closing.
"you're not obliged to touch my ass to talk to me"

Context.
I've written many times before how much it was hard for me to go out and truly have fun since my social circles are not really into partying. Yet, attraction is all about affirming status and dominance in a given situation, and the best way to do that is to get social interactions flowing. That's what I've tried to do last night. A French friend from Brazil, French natural, was in Paris and invited me to take a drink with some of his friends.

Goals.
- Have fun.
- Show dominance.
- Be the life of the party.
- Focus on eye-contact and KINO.

Strategy.
- Have fun: feeling free to do/say whatever I want, joke around, smile...
- Show confidence: take the lead, eye-contact, KINO... read old field report from my journal, focus on the first 30 minutes, read my notes from Stormy's thread,
- Be the life of the party: open, speak to people, have fun...
- Focus on eye-contact and KINO: look in the eyes when I speak... use KINO gambit.

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Summary (for lazy people): I had fun and managed to have great social interactions with a lot of Brazilians who were at the bar. Speaking fluently Portuguese allowed me to build some value quickly. I've met a lot of people but my game was a bit rusty. I've only taken one number, give mine to a bunch guys and get a kiss close out of the blue.

Having fun and getting started.
French Natural invited several friends to have a drink. One of them was a Brazilian HB8,5, we quickly started to speak Portuguese and get to know each other. She was my friend's target so I didn't push it too much, but I teased her, called her "unfriendly" (which is pretty serious for a Brazilian) and played around. I couldn't really make any connection with her though, she was not giving me the attention I wanted. I just came in, I had no chance to create any value. That was okay though, I've done some KINO and got enough information to come back later, with more "value".

I've met another friend of French Natural, a French HB7,5. We spoke, I did a lot of KINO with her. She's blond and has something really sexual. I had a better experience with her. I had her attention. She saw me speaking fluent Portuguese, guess that helped. I've succeeded in creating some nice connections with her. But again, she was one of French Natural's targets.

The bartender opened a new room where a catching ring was waiting for us. I've put my name on the list to fight (with some ridiculous outfits not to hurt yourself) and won! Obviously.

Being social.
I was already a bit drunk when I realized the bar was actually getting full of Brazilians. The turning point was when I opened a group of Brazilians and started to speak with them. In less than 5 minutes, I've warmed up the pool like a boss. People were watching me talking with 5 or 6 people around me.

The situation changed. The Brazilian friend from French Natural was now coming to me. I noticed she used to have a piercing in the nose (like a lot of Brazilian girls do), I tried to talk her into showing me the one she had on her belly. It was fun but my game was not calibrated I think. French Natural joined me and that's when she asked if we wanted to kiss (we = the three of us). Being half drunk surely helped me accepting that offer. She felt so slutty afterwards that she left the conversation. I started to think it might have been a mistake. I was kissing a girl in front of a room full of potential targets. A quick look around me allowed me to see that nobody noticed anything.

A HB7 Brazilian girl that I've met by opening the set of Brazilians was now speaking to 2 cute girls. I opened the set by speaking Portuguese with her: "your friends really thought I was Brazilian you know"... She laughed, I was in the set. She introduced myself to them. We spoke a bit but they were kind of shy since French was not their first language. I learned they were Swiss (German part) and were in Paris to study French (like the Brazilian girl).

I needed to pee so I've ejected the set and get more social interactions with my friends when I got back. A moment later, I was back in the set. I was sat in a bar chair with a cute blond on my right and a cute Asian-typed girl on my left. We spoke about Paris and all... blah blah... I started to think about the # close. I finally got the cute HB8,5 blond number. It wasn't smooth but well, she was leaving and I needed that number.

Getting slapped.
The bar was now almost empty, I came back to the Brazilian friend of French Natural and started to talk with her. She was obviously a bit drunk, like I was. She told her friend that I called her unfriendly. The latter turned to me and told me I didn't know how to seduce girls. I actually thought that was not bad at all. It works well with girls with humor, you can play around with them. Yet, as I've written before, I had some troubled figuring her out. She was taking stuff too seriously, guess she was shit-testing me. At some point during the conversation, I couldn't hear what she was saying so I put my arm on her back. That's when she took a step back and told me "you're not obliged to touch my ass to talk to me". Whaaat? That's was unfair, I wasn't touching her ass at all: "I was not ..." wait, whatever that's a shit test: "Well now you're really being unfriendly" I said with a smile. She give me a little slap on the face and left like a little girl. I didn't appreciate that but I played it cool again. "Brazilian girls..." I laughed with the witnesses instead of feeling stupid.

I left soon after that. I had to catch the subway. I kissed her goodbye like there was nothing, she did the same. She actually was really friendly when was said goodbye.
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On the strategy.
- Have fun: I did have fun, alcohol and being with my friend helped.
- Show dominance: I got a lot of value out of meeting a lot ...
- Focus on eye-contact and KINO: I did a lot of KINO, even got slapped for that.
- Be the life of the party: I wouldn't say I was the life of the party but I was definitely getting a lot of attention.

On the game.
- It's all about having status in a given situation: being high in the unconscious ladder of the social interaction creates attraction.
- I don't really like bar game: even though I had some success, I don't like this whole little drunk shit testing game.
- I was not on top of my game but managed to get results.
- I should take advantage of the momentum to get more numbers.

Coming next.
- I might go out Friday night with French natural again.
- I've organized a restaurant with some friends Saturday night


I was a bit rusty but I managed to get some results somehow.

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Quick Update.

Here's a quick update on the actions following Wednesday night.

Texting Swiss Girl.
I've told her I would text her to give her my number (I had no coverage in the bar). I've sent her a small text on my way home.
Not perfect but I wanted to take advantage of the momentum. I also knew from experience that just texting "hey here's my number" would fail. On another note, I don't think I'm not sure about my game when it comes to her. As far as I remember, I didn't see a lot of IOIs (except that she asked me to call her once she typed her number on my phone). Anyway, I've received a text some minutes later.
I'll try to see her next week.

What's next.
- Brazilian Chick, the Brazilian friend of French Natural, has added me on Facebook and invited me to a party on Friday. Don't know yet if I'm going or not.
- Aside, I've successfully organized a restaurant with friends on Saturday night.
- I would like to get better at day game, following Insert's advice, I would like to focus on getting rejection. I'll update my goals after the holidays.

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Quick Update.

Here's a small update about my progress in my journey.

Some good news.
I've just got a job interview for a consultancy firm in Paris. It's not the type of job I was looking for at the beginning but it's really really really well paid and would allow me to move forward. I hope I'll get this job. I've also received a nice letter this morning. I've officially graduated from my business school. That's great news for me. I need to celebrate!

Swiss Girl.
She's texted me this morning:
I told her I was free Sunday afternoon. I have to think where I'll take her... I'm really happy she actually sent this message... A girl that takes initiative, that's something I like. It's also a sign that I did a good job in that bar in the end.

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DAY 83: celebrating one year in the game with a date.
The most beautiful girl I've spent an afternoon with.

This post is a bit special since today is my first anniversary in the Game. I'm actually really glad to report that I've had a date with the most beautiful woman I've been with so far.

Context.
Already one year in this forum... Time goes really fast. I'm obviously not the man I wanted to become, but I'm sure in a good way to get there. I ask Swiss Girl to join me in Paris so we could have our coffee. We've been texting each other a few times and she seems adorable.

Goals.
- Have fun.
- Show dominance.
- Escalate until holding her hand.
- Seed another date.
- Be in the moment.
- Build momentum.

Strategy.
- Have fun: smile a lot, joke around, challenge her...
- Show dominance: take the lead, play on eye-contact...
- Escalate until holding her hand: use KINO gambits (lead her with my hand in her back, high-five, take her hand in the crowd, ...)
- Seed another date: get material (hobbies, interests... ) to seed another date.
- Be in the moment: activate the passive observer and pay attention to where my thoughts and emotion are going to.
- Build momentum: kill micro-avoidance, speak to people, focus on being good in the first 30 minutes...

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Summary (for lazy people): She is basically a gorgeous angel and even if I showed dominance and social skills, I had hard time to escalate and show her my intentions... Still a good result too but I have to find a way to be better at showing my intent.

Getting a coffee.
I came 10 minutes late and called her since I couldn't find her at the meeting point. I've only seen her once so I was a bit worried about not recognizing her. As I was calling, I noticed a cutie that could be her... Little after, the cutie picked up the phone. I remembered she was beautiful, but I didn't expect her to be the most GORGEOUS girl in the place.

The weather was good, we rapidly started to get a conversation flowing. I was confident and pretty proud to have such a goddess next to me. Her accent was so cute. I took her to the coffee shop and we had a drink together. We started to speak about travel and all. I was really passionate about Brazil, New York and all. As I was doing good eye-contact, I noticed her AMAZING eyes. She's a golden eyed blond girl. Her eyes have more sparkles than the Eiffel Tower at night. Do not let me start with her smile.

Going to the Christmas market.
I told her we should go to the Christmas market. I lead her with my arm in her back. We only walk through the crowd though. At some point I took her by the arm to show her some nice stuff in a store. We kept on getting to know each other better.

Going to the park.
We went to a park and sit for a while. She took picture of some building after I asked her. She put me in the frame and took a picture. I was nicely surprised but I wasn't looking at the camera at all. She was so damn cute. We finally got to a Startbucks and kept talking, we didn't have any awkward moment during our conversations but I was starting to feel pressure. My balls were hurting me like crazy. Stopping masturbation has some down effects. I was also starting to think about how to escalate but I was not figuring it out. I was not really creating any tension except when we asked some tourists to take a picture of us. I was amazed on how good we look on that picture.

Ending the date.
We agreed on doing something next week together. I kisser her good bye the "normal" French way and then I just couldn't take it anymore. I took her in my arm and gave her a kiss on the cheek. Why not the lips? Guess it didn't fell congruent then... but as always I keep wondering why I didn't afterwards...
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On the strategy.
- Have fun: I had fun, I was smiling a lot and she liked that.
- Show dominance: I took the lead, was social with people around me.
- Escalate until holding her hand: definitely a sticking point for me, showing my real intention is something I just don't do well. I need more experience in dating.
- Seed another date: that was easy... could be cinema... could be a place we talked about
- Be in the moment: yes I was good in that! I was not anxious at all, I've started to be in my mind a little at the end since I was worried about my incapacity to escalate.
- Build momentum: I did a good job when I spoke to the waitress and all.

On the game.
- Showing my intent (and escalating) is a sticking point for me: it might be related to my ego being afraid of getting rejected.
- I'm socially good, I can hold a conversation without effort.
- I can date high-level women.
- I need to calm down. I'm getting way to much excited about this. I've not even kissed her. I've done nothing but the opportunity is at my door. I have to take it.
- The date was too long I think, but I'm having hard time not to stay in date with someone I enjoy this much.
- I need to focus on going on with my life, she can't be a priority, I might lose everything.
- I need more experience in dates.

Coming next.
- I'll ask her out, a cinema maybe.
- Going out Monday night.


She was too gorgeous to be true.

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^Hey Daniel . . . this is the one. Palm read k close. Do it.

Quick Update.

Here's a very small extra to my last field report. To be honest, it was not good at all and a lot of details are missing. I wrote that under the influence of crazy feelings that girl created in me.

List of IOI's.
I was not really focusing on IOI's while I was with her, here's a list of indicators that I now remember.
- As we asked some people to take a picture of us, we were posing head to head.
- She showed me a picture of her sister
- She showed me a picture of her nephew (he was damn cute)
- We hugged when we said good bye, I kissed her on the chick.
- She looked at me in the eyes.
- She wanted to take a picture of me.
- She was enjoying listening to me speaking about Brazil, New York...
- She said the French accent in German was cute
- She asked a lot of questions about me

A sticking point.
I'm not good at escalation or showing/saying my intention. It goes without saying that this is related to a fear or rejection (ego). I managed to get the number of that girl, she likes me and asked me out. She texted me because she wanted to have a drink with me. She's spent her time talking about her family, asking questions about me. She had a wonderful smile, she deserved that kiss.

Setting up another date.
She's leaving Paris on the 23rd, I'd like to organize a cinema (we'll be in a warm place) and get a drink with her afterwards. I thought about Wednesday or Thursday. Pressure has got high since the first date.

Daniel..

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Quick Update.

Small update on my actions to cool down.

About the pressure.
The pressure has been increasing. She basically is the type of woman I've got in the game for. I spoke with Munroe on the chat a bit and I came to the conclusion that this pressure is a good sign. It shows I'm dealing with more and more challenging women. I was not nervous at all during the date, I just failed to escalate properly, but I was not nervous or anything. I've made huge progresses since the beginning. I've integrated a lot of good things I can see it, but I still have a lot of things to work on, including being more direct.

I want her. There is not a single thing that makes me doubt about that currently. Let's make it real. It's as simple as that.

Going out.
I went out yesterday night with French Natural. I wanted to calm down a little and release the pressure, and even gaming other women to have another perspective on my situation... I was really confident. I've met a old friend from pre-school in the bus. We started to talk. It was funny to notice how embarrassed he was at some point while he was talking to me. I was confident, dominant. At some point, the train was full and a woman was hesitation in coming in... The doors were closing, I looked at her and told her to get in, there was enough room. My friend was totally surprised. It was obviously nothing, but less than 1% of that damn train would have the courage to speak to a total stranger and help him out. I was that guy, and that was giving me instant value in that train (David Wygant is right about "talk to anybody").

I've finally went to the restaurant with French Natural. We spoke a lot about Brazil and all the girls he succeeded to get. I was listening without even being envious or anything. At some point, I told him about Swiss Girl, how beautiful she is. He told me something that Insert already told me in this journal. He said I was a sweet heart. He referred to Miss Sunset and the sunset date I've tried to set up with her. Maybe he's right, I might be sweet heart. It's maybe why I was bad at escalating in that first date.

After the restaurant we went to a small bar in the center of Paris. French Natural is a king when it comes to bar game. The bar was kind of empty but he quickly opened a two set of young girls while we were sitting. I was not really well located to get into the conversation but I was amazed to witness that. In the mean time, I've had some interactions with the waiter. French Natural has this set of habits that makes him good in night game. A guy came to us to ask for a chair. I would have tell him "sure take it" but French Natural asked him for a beer in exchange. That was really good, it triggered a nice conversation after it. I could to that.

Changing my mind about the date.
That night opened my eyes. I don't want to take Swiss Girl to the cinema. I have to take her to a bar with music and fun going on. I have to take her where I wouldn't struggle to escalate. I've just sent her a text to inviter her to a Brazilian bar right next to where she lives. If she accepts, I'll be playing home tonight. I have to get that kiss. I'll be prepared.

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Quick Update.

Here's an update on the date I wanted to plan tonight.

Setting up the date.
As planned, I asked her out. I offered her to have a drink with me tonight. Unfortunately she was not available.
Too bad. I know it's legit. I remember a Brazilian girl told me she was leaving soon. Now the thing is I wanted to see her before she left, so exactly said that to her.
The message is not perfect but at least I'm stating what I want. I thought I'd see how she react and see afterwards. The downside of this is that I put the pressure on her. I'll see if I get a reaction out of this and opened her again tomorrow if not.

Daniel..

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