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ben1313
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 Posted: Fri Aug 28, 2009 8:15 pm Post subject: approach anxiety |
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| just think if u ever want to get better. than u have to approach. u want to get better and to improve ur game by approaching more then the fear of not doing it |
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art1stic
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| Posted: Fri Aug 28, 2009 11:00 pm Post subject: |
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| Corey wrote: | | Quote: | | Rejection is good. If you get rejected, it means you're in the game |
.......and thats fucking retarded. How would it be good to get rejected and how would that put you in the "game"? |
Obviously you misread the meaning to this quote, dumbass. It's not about getting good at being rejected, it's about approaching women and doing something about it.
Rather than just sitting there and reject yourself without having the women reject you. Yada yada taking risks etc. |
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ImmortalGropher
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| Posted: Tue Sep 08, 2009 9:17 pm Post subject: |
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I did the exercise as best I could and as best as I felt comfortable with. I've had social anxiety issues my whole life, but I've still managed to get some good vag in my day. I just want MORE. 
I was able to muster up the courage to say hi to about 12 people. out of 12, 6 responded positively and even went a little further than hello to "how is your day going?" an HB9 even responded.
I'm still a bit nervous and tense, but at the same time I feel as if it has helped some, not everyone is bad and out to get me like I've always thought. I did this in a grocery store because there are a lot of people yet, busy people who possibly don't have time to chat (cold and frozen stuff).
I'll try to continue this as much as possible between school and recording sessions, but I find the karaoke bar a place for me to really let loose with myself. I rick rolled the whole bar last saturday haha. I did the metal version though and I had the entire place singing along with me, it was a blast and it made me feel a LOT less anxious about stuff, so for myself, I forsee a combination of both types of interaction to succeed and rid myself of this issue
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Mr E
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| Posted: Tue Sep 08, 2009 9:37 pm Post subject: |
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Hello,
I finally came to the conclusion that in reality "approaching is safe- like a walk in the park." no matter how scared I feel, i needed to open my eyes to this truth and so I have shifted how I feel and think.
I now really believe that approaching is safe, I have completely integrated this attitude into my behaviour. This is not to say that there aren't situations I find tricky.last night in a bar, with friends around I felt awkward and uncomfortable to approach, i did anyway using camera opener, but couldn't segway because i felt my mates would have been waiting for me to crash and burn.
It means that I still feel a bite of anxiety but I do it now much better and easier.
Facing your fear is the solution. If it terrifies you, it will always do so, unless you do it and even then it will take time to adjust and work on your inner game. |
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ImmortalGropher
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| Posted: Thu Sep 10, 2009 11:19 pm Post subject: |
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| Something cool happened yesterday on the bus, I was dressed nice and stuff, had a very relaxed posture and some drunk dude asked me where I was from, he thought I was from L.A.! haha! I'd say thats a good start for my game, if people think I'm not from austin w00t |
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Alpha Lion
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| Posted: Fri Sep 25, 2009 9:57 am Post subject: Re: Overcoming Approach Anxiety |
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| xfman wrote: | | she is a person, And your never going to see her again , is not that big deal man ... |
I live in a fairly small town and I know practically everyone so this isn't true for me. Even in the beginning so what I done was head into the city where for some reason I felt more comfortable to approach. Now back at home it's no big deal really although there isn't much talent here to be fair.
In terms of night game a few drinks helps but don't get totally canned or it wont work. |
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Alpha Lion
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| Posted: Fri Sep 25, 2009 10:14 am Post subject: |
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| art1stic wrote: | Obviously you misread the meaning to this quote, dumbass. It's not about getting good at being rejected, it's about approaching women and doing something about it.
Rather than just sitting there and reject yourself without having the women reject you. Yada yada taking risks etc. |
Exactly think of it like a professional boxer, he had to lose fights to get to where he is just now. His first amateur fight would have been terrifying, but after a few losses he might actually get a win. Then he starts winning regularly and upping his game until he becomes the champion. |
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Johnny B.
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| Posted: Thu Oct 29, 2009 11:12 pm Post subject: |
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This makes my AA disappear in the clubs and puts me into the GOD MODE!
I walk to the guys and say:
Me: Whoa dudes! I hope you arent leaving yet!?
Men: No
Me: Sweet, thats what im talking about! High fives!
High fives*
Me: Have a nice evening!
If they say yes when i ask if they are leaving-->
Men: Yes
Me: Oh, well have a nice evening! High fives!
High Fives*
I usually open 7-8 sets of guys like this because it completely destroys all the AA i have left in the clubs. Plus, it:
A) Rises your social status
B) Makes you new " friends ". When you see those guys later talking to girls, its easier for you to approach the set because you have " friends " in that set
I guarantee that if do this your AA will vanish like a piece of ash in the wind
[ Johnny B ] |
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