DAY 53: Saint Patrick's party.
You know that I could use somebody.
Fasten you seatbelt, this field report is long but it's worth it.
Context.
My last night game session was not good at all. I've been to some parties but was unable to really do something. I had an outdoor party yesterday night at the faculty. wanted to have fun and show some good game and confidence.
Addressed issues.
- I'm not comfortable enough in party environment.
- I'm not good enough at escalation: KINO, sexual frame...
Goals.
- Have fun!
- Get at least one numb-close.
Strategy.
I've read/watch some material before going to the party. I saw
Gambler's videos on KINO escalation and finished reading
60 Years of Challenge's first chapters on mindset. This last read was really insightfull, particularly when it comes to building confidence and the party environment.
60yoc reinforced my belief that
confidence is all about small things. Every time I hesitate to have a simple social interaction, I lose an opportunity to build confidence and bring doubt into my mind. I went out after reading this to go to the local grocery store. I faced this exact situation. I was looking for something and was hesitating to ask the cute girl over there. I went for it, ask for the info. She did not really help me but she was really shy and the interaction was nice. Later at the cashier I realized she did not work here. She noticed my accent and asked where I was from. I could not # close though... she was with her mother. lol.
60yoc was also really clear about something. The
30 first minutes of a party are the most important to get the "social god mode".
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I arrived at the party around 9pm. I was supposed to meet two German girls (Behing Blue Eyes) to go there but I went by myself in the end. No worries.
Let's get this started.
I was by myself but was not affraid at all. I knew that if I did not stumble on somebody I know, I could simply meet random people. In the end, that's the plan: meet people. I was in the party for 3 minutes, I started to walk to the bar and stumbled upon Japanese Dory
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First # closes: Green Hat Girl and Brazilian HB7.
Since the group had no interesting targets, I jumped to another group. In reality, I used another exchange student to do that. I said hello and started to talk with him. Quickly I got introduced to several girls. One of them had a green hat. Let's call her the
Green Hat Girl (HB7). I had a nice interaction with her, did a lot of KINO and it worked well but she was a bit shy. I noticed she was by herself. She told me her friend had to leave early (I learned later that her friend was Japanese Dory!). We spoke a bit about random stuff. I started to talk to all the group, and more particularly to another
Brazilian girl (HB7 too). After 5 minutes of conversation we started to talk about Paris. Since she did not go there, I asked Green Hat Girl to come and give her impression about the city. We spoke a bit about it and the she asked me:
HER - Do you study during the day or at night?
ME - During the day.
HER - You should come at night!
ME - What for?
HER - So we can talk to each other again. [IOI]
I went for the
#close of the HB7 and Green Hat Girl (GHG). Told them that we should go to a "churrasco" together since it was typical here. Got the two numbers. The second HB7 left. I stayed with GHG since she was by herself.
Seeing Little Miss Sunshine.
I was talking to GHG when I saw LMS coming right next to us. She was going to the bar. I did not stop listenning to GHG but grab LMS by the arm. I maintain eye-contact on GHG and waited for the last moment to look at LMS. We hugged and I kiss her on the chick. She had classes and was just passing during the break. We exchange 4 sentences and she was gone. I went back to my conversation with GHG. At some point, I told her we should move to see if we can catch friends of hers or other exchange students.
Third #close: Greek Girl.
GHG and me were now in a set of French people. Nothing interesting here but I was social and friendly. Then it happened. A UG French girl was speaking to a cute HB7,5. I noticed they were talking about me. I saw her and introduced myself. In fact she was French/Greek so we started to speak French. At some point I framed her as being sad/tired.
ME - Are you okay? You seem sad.
HER - Oh no I'm good. [qualifying herself]
ME - Maybe you're just tired.
I did not do it on purpose, but I think I take the advantage on the conversation at that point. We spoke about having two nationalities and I told her I was happy to find someone who felt the same way about the silly statements as "so you're half bla and half bla". I KINOed her with a claw. Since the music was loud, we were really close so we can hear each other. Gambler's videos helped hear. I was able to hold eye-contact and hear her at the same time. I asked her to speak Greel a little and she said something involving my name and Brazil. There was a sexual tension here. I love to hear a language than I can't understand at all. I wanted to do her. We spoke about Greece and I told her that I would like to go there. She told me that I should contact her if I decide to go to Athens.
ME - That would be good indeed. How can I contact you?
HER - Do you have a cellphone.
I #close the
Greek Girl in front of Green Hat Girl. She told me she will sent me her name by text so I can find her on Facebook. She seemed really eager to see me again. Since I did not know if I was going to see her again, I kissed her good by and hugged her. I had a boner when she told me on the hear:
HER - It was really nice to meet you.
Still no text message though.
Opening a Portuguese set.
More and more exchange students were coming to the party. I met a lot of people and had a lot of fun. Most of them were surprised about the fact that I was able to speak Portuguese, English and Spanish almost fluently. I became the live of the party for some groups I was opening. I was really confident. At some point I opened a group of Portuguese guys (2 girls and one guy) and asked them about their favourite football team (Football is religion in Portugal). Actually they were friends of another Portuguese HB8 exchange student.
The Portuguese HB8.
I met her really early in the semester since she was Portuguese and have the same accent that I do. She was drunk. I was hugging her as hell. At some point she told me that she cried this morning because of a test she failed on classes (she was late). I comforted her by hugging her even more. Later, I found her next to the bar. I was talking to an Italian friend. I made a sign to make her come to me. She left a guy to come in my arms. I mader her spin by holding her hand and realize that the guy was looking at me. He did not like that at all. He was a "popular" guy form the student association actually. Whatever, she was in my arms now. I spoke a bit with her.
I could have definitely gone for a kiss close, but I did not. I don't know, I just did not want to do it. She went back to the Brazilian guy. Some minute later, she was making out with him.
Big Boobs Lady.
I'm meeting so much people that I actually made a mistake tonight. At some point a girl came to me and she knew I was French. I asked how she knew and I have actually already spoke to her in another party (at least I think). Later again, I introduced myself to her! I did not recognize her, she took her jacket off and was now showing the largest breast I've ever seen in my life. She was not my type though. Anyway, she was mad at me. All along the night, she kept saying to people that I was a bad guy everytime I passed next to her.
I ignored her but that was a good thing. The girls with the biggest boobs of the party was speaking about me.
German escalation.
Behing Blue Eyes finally arrived with another German girl that like me I think. I escalated a lot with the latter. I did a lot of Gambler's stealth Kino: my leg was close to hers, I was really close and I've been cocky&funny. At some point, she told me that she doesn't trust French, Spanish or Portuguese guys since they were player. I faked being hurt and she started qualifying herself as hell. We spoke about that for at least 20 minutes. She ended by saying that I should not take it personaly. I was starting to get tired and stayed a lot with the two German girls. I'm not that interested in her though. I think
she likes me.
Photographer HB.
Later, in another group, I stumbled upon a HB8 that I've already seen earlier. She has style, I like that. I only spoke to her for 5 minutes but I told her about the Carnaval in Ilhabela and that I love photography. Well you know what?
She loves photography too! I could not #close though. But she added me on Facebook today.
Results: I had 3 #close, 5 facebook friend requests today (among which GHG and Photographer HB) and I had fun as hell!
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On the strategy.
- It was a good idea to read some material before going there.
- Killing the micro-avoidance during the day really helped me to build confidence for the night.
- Being good the first 30 minutes of the party was a good point for me: I've got 2 #closes.
- I enjoyed applying Gambler's KINO escalation.
On the Game.
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Enjoying myself and having fun is attractive.
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Killing micro-avoidance is a key element on maintaining confidence.
- I'm getting
more and more comfortable in this kind of party.
Questions to move on.
- Should I have kissed the Portuguese HB? I did not feel like it... Maybe I should have gone for it.
- I've # closed several girl a the same time... good thing?
Next steps.
- I have a 3000 people party tonight.
- Let's get some dates!
CHAT
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