This is definitely a tough question to answer logically. I'll give it a go. I believe there are two very strong elements that are probably both equal in contributing to the "mystery" vibe: Body language and verbal communication.
Body Language:
- Present yourself physically with your clothing and style that does not say "he's like everyone else in the room." There is a reason why we think a magician or illusionist is mysterious. It's because the first impression (the 2 second sensory register impression) immediately conveys a different fashion sense than what we're used to seeing. When I try to think about the girls that I found mysterious, it's usually the ones that don't wear Abercrombie, Victoria's Secret, American Eagle, etc. But the girls that have a unique sense of style, I know artists are great with this. I go to school near RISD = Rhode Island School of Design, tons of artists go to this school, and so many of them give the mysterious vibe. They have a fashion that stands out uniquely, and I just want to figure them out.
- Don't act over interested in what she is saying. I think this may be one of the main issues when it comes to trying to be mysterious. I see guys too often "baiting and reeling," but never do I see guys casting them away. If you agree and act too amazed, you are too familiar in aspect to what she is already congruent with in her own frame of mind. Now what I said was mainly verbal, so in terms of body language--don't nod your head, or smile every time she says something that seems like she wants compliance for.
- Sometimes it's important to neg in such a way where it seems like she's just too average in your normal everyday encounters. I do this by yawning when she starts telling me about her interests or hobbies. Even though she might be somewhat shocked with such a reaction, it will build more mystery in your own frame because you're bored by what she finds interesting. Chances are, if she's beautiful, she's not used to having a guy do this.
- After you're done telling a certain story or what not, leave something for her to take away. I'll give a smile that conveys "there is some type of pun/joke/riddle to what he just said...." It gives the HB the impression you know something that you're not going to just so easily let them in on like every other guy would.
Verbal Communication:
- Don't throw all your cards out on the table right away! This one is key, don't tell her immediately you like her. That's why Mystery favors indirect openers, if leaves her wondering why you're not attracted to her, and how she can pick you up.
- Ask her questions that she is not used to hearing. Here is a list of some of my favorite ones:
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• What’s your favorite Dr. Seuss book?
• What’s the longest you’ve gone without sleep?
• What’s the habit you’re proudest of breaking?
• What’s your favorite web site?
• What was your most recent trip of more than 50 miles?
• What’s the best bargain you’ve ever found at a garage sale or thrift store?
• Where were you on September 11, 2001?
• What do you order when you eat Chinese food?
• What’s the best costume you’ve ever worn?
• What’s your least favorite word?
• If you had to be named after one of the 50 states, which would it be?
• Would you state you were guilty of a crime you didn’t commit to free a loved one?
• Where is your favorite place to sleep? Where is the strangest place you’ve ever slept?
• At the beginning of a relationship, do you trust your new partner unless there is something specific to make you do otherwise, or do you withhold your trust until he or she has earned it?
• Who do you think is the most beautiful person alive today?
• If you could change one day in your life, not a single decision, but one pivotal day, which would it be?
• Which month of the year do you think would best describe your personality.
• If you could ask God any single question, what would it be?
• If you could be invisible for one hour, where would you go and what would you do?
• What do you remember about your first day at school?
• If you could suddenly find out that one work of fiction was actually true, what book would you select?
• Have you given any gifts with messages engraved upon them? What did the inscription say?
• If you could travel into the future, how far would you want to go?
• Do you think the world will be a better or a worse place 100 years from now?
• Who is the most important person in your life?
• Describe yourself in one word.
• What is the meaning of marriage?
• Are you attracted to people whose personalities are similar to yours or very different?
• If you could undo one thing your parents did, what would it be?
• Have you ever faked an illness to avoid doing something you didn’t want to do?
• If you were to name the absolute best gift you ever received as a child, what would it be?
• What’s the most exciting thing you’ve ever done?
• What are your talents/specialties/ what makes you unique?
• If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?
• If there is one thing that you could do for the rest of your life, what would it be?
• What’s something weird about you? (They tend not to answer this one as much)
• What do you do for fun, (besides school/work)?
• What’s a significant event in your life?
• What do you keep the most hidden?
• What is your most vivid childhood memory?
- Tell stories that literally are mysterious. Tell her about the time you were studying at the beach at night, and found a shark tooth. On the back of the shark tooth you found your initials engraved into it. And at that moment, you felt regardless of all the mistakes you made in your life, you are where you are supposed to be. Now that's my story, tell your own lol. But if you must, fake it till you make it.
- Literally ask her, "what's something mysterious about you." After woman answer this, they always throw the question right back at you. When that happens, make sure you have a good answer.
- Now a demonstration of a unique skill/talent is a great way to convey mystery. For Mystery--VH1 PUA, it's magic. For myself, when I finally take them back to my place, I play them a song I wrote myself on the piano (similar to Beethoven's first movement). For you, maybe it's a painting, poem, lyrics, guitar, singing, an old photo album, a unique collection (sea glass, fangs from the world's most dangerous animals, etc.), a sculpture you made, etc. There are tons of way's of demonstrating mystery, figure out something unique about you and ask others you're more comfortable with if they find those things mysterious. If you come to the conclusion nothing about you is mysterious, then here is a self-improvement goal you can embark on that you'll be thankful you did when looking back one day: find something that you and a few others find mysterious, that you also find interesting, and learn it.
- Be willing to lose the girl, this is harder to explain. Hopefully you know what I mean.
- When you are making strong eye contact, ask questions like "if you were to make this moment something poisonous, what would be your poison?"
- Sometimes verbally rejecting a few girls in a room in front of your target will convey mystery; the HB will be wondering "why is he rejecting all these fairly attractive women?"
Hope this all helps. Good luck!
CHAT
