Hi guys,
From yesterday to wednesday I will have 5 days off work (4 of which I can go out), so I figured I'd try and set a rather simple goal, that by the end of wednesday, to have made 1 approach (daytime approach).
Trouble is, I went out yesterday to Birmingham (where I live it's not really too busy, so if I miss a attractive girl I have to wait 10-15 mins to see another one), but my AA kicked in, and I didn't make any approaches, at the end of the day I was getting a bit more into the frame of mind, and each time I didn't make a girl I knew I was more likely to approach the next one, but I didn't make any approaches.
Today I went out again, tried to approach a few more girls, yesterday I saw a girl, considered it for a second but just kept on walking thing "I'll approach the next one", but today I saw some girls thought to myself "3 second rule, 1... 2... 3...", but I didn't once make it to 3, I just kept finding an excuse, like she's too old, she looks like shes proper gobby, she looks like she's really pissed off, she looks like she's really busy, she's got earphones in and so on... I mean, today was better than yesterday. Yesterday, it seemed as if no effort was made at all to approach any girls (sort of, there was a bit of effort, just hard to describe), while today it seemed as if there was a lot more effort.
But though, I was pretty demotivated end of yesterday, really didn't want to go out today, but in the end I got ready and went out, got a 11am(ish?) train, and spent a while in Birmingham. Now I'm back, still having no approaches I just can't get motivated to go out again on Tuesday, never mind trying on Wednesday again... I mean, all I want is to just get 1 approach under my belt, but I honestly don't know how I am going get the motivation to go out Tuesday and Wednesday...
Anyone have any suggestions on how to get enough motivation to keep going out? Me going out and failing to do just 1 approach is really de-motivating, even though with the goal I set myself I've only used up half the time, I just don't want to go out again and achieve nothing.
Also anyone have any tips for getting past AA to do that 1 approach, and how to avoid excuses which would get me from the stage I was at when I went out today to making my first approach after another 8-10 hours of daygame (split between Tuesday and Wednesday)?
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